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The art of letting go.

We are convinced that if we hold on to something, we get to control it.

What an egoistic state of mind.

Detachment is unflatteringly associated with loss, therefore pain. We falsely assume that once we let go of the control, of a relationship, of a dream, we lose it forever. When in fact, it is quite the opposite.

Once you let go, you allow the magic to unfold.

Have you ever got this paralysing feeling of a burning desire and its foreboding threat of not being fulfilled?

Have you ever longed for something so much that the fear of actually not getting it left you exhausted?

Has the attempt of clinging to it any tighter brought any gratification?

In his masterpiece “Think and Grow Rich” Napoleon Hill suggessts the key ingredient to success is a burning desire. The author encourages to transform a definite purpose into a powerful ambition as a reference point for motivation.

A burning desire to be, and to do is the starting point from which all dreamers must take off. Dreams are not born of indifference, laziness, or lack of ambition. – Napoleon Hill

However, humans confuse desire with lack. Henceforth, attachment is born.

Attachment can be developed in many forms.

You can establish it by expecting someone to act a certain way, and when it fails to happen, you are left frustrated. You condition happines by the external factor.

You can get attached to certain beliefs ingrained in your subconscious by unconsciously following your parents’ rules, society’s expectations or judgments based on fear stemming from your childhood.

You can be fixed on one outcome of the situation and failing to perceive abundant options laid out in front of you, which do not correspond with your prior expectations. Nonetheless, those alternatives can guide you to explore the unknown territory, burgeoning into unique opportunities.

You can have eyes for one person to be involved in a romantic relationship with, all because of your assumptions about their character. This person can be extremely incompatible with your aspirations in life. Yet, your obsession of a shared future destroys your chance to prosper.

Eventually, the thing, the outcome, the person you allow yourself to be attached to, will become your downfall..

Attachment does not serve you.

You can find comfort in it.

You can derive temporary pleasure.

But it will not bring you fulfilment and long-term happiness.

Indeed, the root of all suffering is the attachment we are responsible for.

Ditch the attachment.

Letting go of the outcome presents you with a myriad of opportunities.

It will make you calmer, mindful, happier and more magnetic. Attachment always creates resistance, whether in your creativity flow, love life or establishing meaningful relationships based on trust.

When you are attached to the outcome of a situation, a person you are living with, the money you are accumulating, you are actually building your identity upon the external, something breakable, something that can be easily taken away from you.

Once the trip is over, money taken away from you, what do you end up with?

Your core beliefs.

Your core feelings.

Nothing has changed inside, but the external world has been replaced. You became too attached to the external factor, thus handed in your happiness in the hands of somebody else.

In fact, you are the creator of your happiness. Never the other person, nor the luxurious holiday destination. That lasts a moment. The relationship with you and the outside world lasts forever.

Letting go is easy. Allow it to be easy because whatever you believe makes it true.

Do I advocate for not caring?

Yes!

It does not imply being apathetic. “Not caring” as in not trying to control the situation or the outcome.

Not caring what others might think.

Not caring whether you get that specific job or another.

Not caring whether they like you, worship you or accept you.

You are not caring because you feel pretty damn fine either way. Your happiness does not lean upon the behaviour of others. Your perpetual delight is not governed by the outcome of the situation. You trust unshakably in the best twists of events, despite the external conditions.

Care about the way you feel. Care how you spend your energy by tending to your good-feeling thoughts. Only then, you become independent and authentic in your purest form.

Once you let go of the control, you step into full power, radiating magnetic energy around. Everything you need comes to you. Any performance becomes effortless as you find yourself anew by discovering new passions and unique potential.

Intuitively answer the question: who is more attractive? The needy person, begging for attention, loud for approval or the chill-out person, aware of their worth, just being authentic, living a passionate life?

Exactly.

The question arises:

How to let go?

Contrary to popular belief, the action of letting go is not difficult. It is the choice we have to make, which seems daunting. Either you decide to cut yourself off or not.

No analysing.

No pros and cons.

We want better opportunities. However, when faced with change, we turn our back on it.

You want the improved condition, yet, you cling to the comfort of your old self.

Change is certain. Change is beneficial. Change makes us grow and evolve. It helps us to establish fresh perspective. Just as your body becomes unhealthy and ineffective while being stagnant, the same applies to your mind once it is not flexible.

Do not get attached but appreciate everything and everyone while it lasts.

Learn from it. Derive joy from it. But do not linger in one place out of comfort or fear. Embrace changes and experiences as you go. Cherish them. Speak about them to those who are ready to listen.

Awareness is the key.

First, you need to become aware of beliefs holding you back, your attachment style. It can be your ideal identity you became attached to, an expectation, a fixed way of doing things.

Before any beliefs can be transformed, you need to acknowledge the presence and effect they have on you.

Why are you so attached to this particular thing/person/method? What emotion are you trying to cultivate? What is the meaning behind your attachment?

You believe you are attached to the situation, but in reality, you are addicted to the feeling it provides you with.

Let’s say consuming a specific kind of food gives you a false sense of security. You are chasing a certain relationship because you believe it will make you feel lovable, thus striving for validation and security combined. You may be attached to your previous profession because of the sense of importance that position determined for you. Can’t you see how fleeting and destructive such thinking could be? It brings no real value to your present life.

Everything is neutral except the meaning we grant it with.

Letting go does not imply suppressing your emotions. It means quite the opposite. It is allowing the feelings to surface because only then you are able to observe and let go. Acknowledge the loss. Acknowledge the feeling of missing somebody, but also remain aware of the love that has surrounded you and still lives within.

Nothing external can control the way you feel unless you let them. You get to manage how you feel every second by choosing what to focus upon.

• Become aware of the pain and old habits which are holding you back.
• Become aware of your reality which you have created and which you can change as well.
• Become aware that your presence in this world is a gift.

Minds like to trick us into believing that only hard work brings a payoff. Traumatic experiences can only be triumphed by thorough and dramatic therapy sessions. I have got news for you: you do not need some crazy magical voodoo practices to let go. All you need is awareness.

Do not judge yourself.

You are not your past. There is no wrong or right. Who decides anyway?

Let the memories, the past go.

You did exactly what you could at that time with the exact tools you have been given. If you were unable to get through experiences, you would not have been presented with them in the first place. They have moulded you into the person you are today. People and experiences are your best teachers, the most precious gifts.

Words do not teach, experiences do.

Life is a learning playground. If you fall, you get back on track.

Become immersed in appreciation every single day.

The practice of gratitude anchors you in the present moment. You get to untangle your brain from distressing thoughts weighing you with past experiences or worrisome future scenarios.

Appreciate what you already possess and have experienced.

Going one step further, it holds even more power to be grateful for people we have met, events we have learnt and experiences that enriched us.

Gratitude is the ultimate state of receivership. - Dr Joe Dispenza

Gratitude opens the door for more to come into our lives. Gratitude is the source of magic.

Become emotions you wish to receive.

Remember, it is always the emotion you are after, not the possession itself. It is a great gift to be aware of our attachment. When you want something, it is because you believe you will feel better in the having of it. So ask yourself, why do you want it in the first place.

What is the emotion you are seeking?

What makes you reach out for it?

Do you feel like something is missing?

Those questions will lead you to beliefs you need to paraphrase, so they can match your dream.

Have a clear intention.

Upon waking up, set your eyes on the emotion you wish to uphold throughout the day. If you do not know yet what you feel passionate about, start with the sensation. I bet it feels good to have clarity of your day, deriving joy from small practices like drinking your morning coffee, appreciating your pet. That is it. Start with small things but focus on the emotions you are feeling. Your good thoughts, just like the domino effect, will carry you further.

Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished. — Lao Tzu

Nature is simple. Rules of life are simple. Coming home to your true self is simple. Ego needs the champagne. Ego needs fireworks. Your heart? It does not need splendour. The heart needs presence and awareness to eventually be willing to let go of that which no longer serves you.

In fact, you are never letting go. You are letting in major blessings into your life.

You are giving space for the right people, experiences to enter. When you let go, you raise your vibrations.

Let go of control over your feelings. There is no need for you to stifle them.

Let go of trying to fix everybody.

Let go of trying to make the world the right place.

Nothing is broken. Nothing needs to be fixed. Not everyone needs to see the world through your lenses. Let everyone be.

Let go, so it can be completed, for not to be repeated.