How to Use Triggers For Spiritual Growth and Expansion
Running from triggers is like running from the good guy
I. Annoying Little Triggers
Most of us see triggers as negative things. While we go about our days, they show their annoying little faces, trying to force us to deal with things we don't feel like dealing with. They make us so frustrated we yell, cry or throw our hands in the air cursing the damned universe that won’t leave us alone and always wanting to present us with something to deal with.
Having to deal with triggers means having to dig deep into painful things that pierce the heart every single time they are thought of. And most of these things we thought we healed, so why the triggering?
What's the point of triggers?
Whenever we feel triggered, we feel as if something is wrong. We feel as if we failed at healing because if the healing work had actually been successful, then past things wouldn’t move us the way they do.
We go out into the world and get triggered and then we run back into our shells where we hide, so we never have to listen to triggers or see what they want to reveal to us.
Your shell is comfortable, but your life and expansion are outside of your comfort zone. Eventually, you’ll have to come out of your shell and deal with your emotional wounds so you can heal them.
II. Triggers Aren’t The Bad Guys
Throughout your life, you will be triggered, but you can’t run away from triggers. Running from your triggers is like running from the thing that wants to help you heal.
Triggers are the good guys.
A seedling will not grow to become all that it can be if it remains in a tiny pot. It can't spread its roots deep into the heart of the earth where it will get all that it needs. It needs to get out of its comfort zone and out into the field where it can spread its roots and its branches to reach for the heavens.
This is the same for you. You won’t grow very big in your shell. In order to grow and expand, you need to be triggered so you will step out and get outside of your comfort zone.
You have to be triggered, and often because your triggers will lead to your spiritual expansion, where you open up like the flower that has bloomed.
We came to earth to expand and not to become smaller. Energetically, we came to open up like a flower.
Every time you are triggered and you run getting yourself trapped within yourself, you become smaller and smaller until you become a shell of a body and that is an even worse feeling than dealing with your triggers.
Where there are things you haven’t healed interfering with the natural flow of your life, triggers will step in.
Let’s say you are always happy until you watch a romantic movie or hear a love song, then you become sad because you’re still single and crave that kind of romantic love story in your own life. Until you address the root cause of this, you can never enjoy a romantic movie or a love song because it will trigger you and it's worse having to live your life that way.
Or let’s say you’re having a nice evening with your spouse watching a movie and in the movie, one person cheats on another and it immediately triggers you so much that you take it out on your partner who isn’t even the star of the movie because in the past, you were cheated on which hurt you so deeply but you never got to the root of the problem to heal it.
Instead of doing what you always do which is to feel sad and think that you will never get to experience a love story so magical whenever you see a happy couple, stay with those feelings because they’re trying to reveal something that’s hidden within you.
Instead of taking your anger out on your current partner when someone cheats in a movie, acknowledge that your problem is with your ex who hurt you. A hurt that hasn't been healed. Sit with your triggers and they will point you to what needs to be healed.
III. The Hidden Purpose of Triggers
You asked what’s the point of triggers. That's the point of triggers. To point you to the things you need to heal. Triggers come to show you what’s hiding in the shadows. It shows you what’s blocking you from becoming all that you came to be.
Sometimes we think we’ve healed everything, not knowing that certain dark things love to hide in the shadows so they’re not seen. Triggers are in the business of roaming in the darkness of the shadows and pulling to the surface everything that is hidden.
So triggers are magical little things. They never come to hurt, harm, or stifle your growth. They come to help you heal, grow and evolve so you can get to the next level of your awakening journey.
Triggers see the hidden things in the shadows that you need to see and present them to you so you can take a look and shine a light on them.
Whenever you’re triggered, instead of reacting like you’ll be tempted to, don’t.
When you see the love birds enjoying their love and you're triggered, tempted to be angry at the universe for not bringing you someone to love, ask yourself why. Why are you so impatient? Where are you going and what's the rush? Why do you think you can’t experience a love so magical? Do you even feel worthy of such love? Dig deeper into the heart of the matter and figure it out.
When someone cheating on TV triggers you so badly you're angry and hurt, it's your own wounds that have been opened. You never healed when you got cheated on in the past. You just forgot it in your new relationship. Triggers show their little faces to help you get to the bottom of the issue.
There will be many reactions when you're triggered, but no matter what you do, don't take it out on the messenger. The messenger is the person who triggers you.
The problem is never the person who triggered you. The problem isn't external even though it may feel like it. We often try to change something in the external environment or point a finger at the outside or simply just run away and hide in our little safety bubble when we are triggered, but our problems aren’t external.
It’s all internal.
Let's say you've broken up with a partner whom you share a kid with and every time your child returns from the other parent, they won't stop talking about their other parent's new partner and you're just so sick of it. It's tempting to want to yell at your kid for triggering you but don’t. Don’t shoot the messenger. The problem isn't your child. The problem is internal. The pain you haven't healed. Your child is just a messenger who is trying to help you heal your hurts so you can be free of the pain. When you're triggered, what you need to look at is outside of you. It's within you.
Triggers also come to show you where you are not connected to yourself.
The disconnect is the feeling that another person is worthy of a magical love, but you don't have it and so you’re not worthy of it. In this case, the trigger will be pointing to your own worthiness so you can work on it. It's the feeling that all men or all women cheat and so your partner will cheat, too. In that case, the trigger will be pointing at the past you need to make peace with. It’s the feeling that your damned ex moved on so fast and had the audacity to bring their new partner around your child. In that case, you really need to let it all go so it can all come to you when you finally see the universe’s hand in saving you from something that wasn't meant for you.
When you can understand your triggers and address whatever limiting beliefs are there, you would have healed those thoughts and so you won’t get triggered again. And even if you get triggered, it won't move you like it did in the past. In this way, you’re expanding and not retracting into your shell making yourself smaller.
So anytime you get triggered, you can reframe your thoughts about it. You can choose to see what's coming up for you to deal with so you can heal and feel free. You can look at the deeper problem instead of shutting down or closing off. You want to open up more and more and not close off. Then you can alchemize your own heavy emotions and dense energy and start to vibrate at a higher level.
At a much higher vibration, you’ll naturally be able to handle your triggers with more ease and grace.
As you work with triggers to remove the fearful programming, the barriers, and every little hurt that hides in the shadows within you, you get to see your true essence come forth to shine and you get to expand into the best, highest and greatest version of yourself. Then your life becomes more peaceful, joyous, loving, fulfilling, and abundant.
And then you might have to say thanks to your little triggers.
© 2022 Kimberly Fosu. All rights reserved.
Note: This article is only meant to provide spiritual guidance and lighthearted content.
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