3 Signs You Have Emotional Wounds and How to Heal it

You must admit that it's there

1. You're Alive but Not Living

When you're alive, your heart beats, you feel hungry, you eat, drink, and then go to sleep at night. You do these things only to survive, but living is different.

When you're truly living, you follow a passion, live for a purpose, and can enjoy day-to-day things. You have fun doing things with or without others and you feel fulfilled at the end of the day. You're able to do things outside of the bare necessities.

Maybe those words your mother said to you decades ago still hurts every time you think of it. Maybe the person you loved the most in the entire world and dreamed of your life together rejected you and so you feel unworthy of love. You cut yourself off from every good thing. You isolate yourself from the world and before you know it, you’re living in survival mode.

You're alive, but not really. You're not truly living because of your emotional trauma that has not been healed. If they were physical wounds, you would see and address them, but emotional wounds are invisible.

You can’t see invisible wounds, but they’re there, affecting you in ways you can’t even imagine. It doesn't have to remain that way. You can heal your wounds, but you have to want to heal.

Take a step back and look at the situation. Acknowledge how you've been hurt and allow yourself to feel your pain.

If you don't feel the pain, you can’t heal it.

Understand that it's okay to be hurt and angry and it's okay to be sad. It's okay to grieve what could have been. It's okay to cry. Cry for days if you need to. As you shed the tears, you release the pain.

Connect with those who care and will provide the space for you to feel what you feel. It really helps alleviate the pain.

2. You're Emotional All The Time

It's truly okay to be angry or sad when you're hurt, but if you're so angry that you're taking it out on anyone you cross paths with and hurting those around you, that may be a problem of its own.

If you're so sad that the thought of the situation sends you spiraling down the hole of depression, then the wound may be communicating something to you.

You know yourself more than anyone.

We’re emotional beings but when you get angry and act out and later wonder what that was all about, that could be a sign that you have a wound that needs your immediate attention. There’s someone that hasn’t been fully acknowledged and dealt with.

You may have something in the shadow that wants your attention. Stop and take a look.

You may have thought you've dealt with it but if you're still emotional every day and everywhere, it may be time to take a second look and acknowledge these hidden emotions that are bubbling to the surface.

3. You Replay The Situation Over and Over Again

Admitting the situation and talking about it is good for healing. You have to admit that it's there for it to be healed, but if you keep talking about it without direction or purpose, that's a problem.

If you bring the situation up to everyone you meet but it doesn't make you feel better; if you rehash and replay the situation over and over again to the point where you're losing sleep, that has become a problem. Something is going on emotionally.

Before you talk about the situation with someone, ask yourself what you're really getting out of it. Are you just talking to talk or is it helping you heal?

Be honest with yourself.

If you keep talking about the trauma repeatedly without purpose, that will not help you close the wound. It only makes matters worse.

Every time you talk about it without purpose, you reopen the wound and undo all the hard work you've done before.

Talk about the situation with someone you trust, do the work to heal, and then leave the wound alone to heal. Avoid sticking your hands into your wounds by unnecessarily talking about it just to make conversation or to justify yourself.

Admit the parts you played, gracefully move on and go heal.

You can heal yourself, but you have to want to.

Emotional trauma cuts deeper and lasts longer than a physical injury. With something so complex, it’s easy to feel as if you will hurt forever, but that’s not true.

You can heal but persistence and courage are required to heal. Figure out what soothes the pain and do more of that. Eventually, it will start to hurt less and less and one day you’ll wake up and find that nothing hurts anymore.

Then you can truly live the life you came here to live.

Note: This article is only meant to provide spiritual guidance and lighthearted content.

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