How To Revolutionize Your Life by Learning To Be Gentle With Yourself
A recipe for sustainable serenity
In life, as we’re more focused on the external world around us, it is not always easy to remember to be gentle with yourself. Our internal dialogues come so naturally to us that we become deaf to them, as one would be to the sounds of crickets when heard for too long.
But through awareness of it, and spending the necessary effort to change, we can revolutionize the relationship we have with ourselves, and thus, change our life in general.
So today I’d like to share with you how to revolutionize your life by learning to be gentle with yourself and do that, there are 3 steps to follow, and these are:
1-Take time to understand yourself
2-Listen to your needs
3-Don’t pressure yourself for other people’s comfort
1-Take time to understand yourself
In our busy lives, it is not every day that we take time to observe and analyze ourselves. Whether it is the things that we feel drawn to or the things that repulse us, the perceptions that the world creates in us can be a great tool to understand the state of our inner world.
I’d like to think of our mind as the lens we perceive the world, that’s why taking the time to understand ourselves is to clean this filter as much as possible. By doing so we can see the world clearer, and prevent unnecessary struggles.
2-Listen to your needs
In our daily lives, sometimes all we need is no more than a cup of coffee, and some alone time with soft music, and the other times we want others’ company to feel fulfilled.
These needs can also be less of a daily matter and more of an indicator of long-term neglect of certain aspects of our lives too.
So to listen to your needs is to discover what parts of you ask for your attention and care. By doing so, we can work on fulfilling these needs, and heal ourselves if there’s a wound left unattended.
3-Don’t pressure yourself for other people’s comfort
Showing and receiving kindness is a beautiful part of life, but it can also become an issue if one feels the need to sacrifice themselves in order to please others. So it is important not to pressure yourself for others’ comfort as it is a learned behavior one adapts to protect themselves in most cases, and it cannot be sustained in the long term.
That’s why whenever you catch yourself pressuring yourself into suppressing your own needs to make someone else happy, remember that in reality the needs of each person are equally important, and a balance must be kept by both sides, not just one.
Final thoughts
Today I’ve shared with you how to revolutionize your life by learning to be gentle with yourself.
To do that, there were 3 steps to follow, and these were:
1-Take time to understand yourself
2-Listen to your needs
3-Don’t pressure yourself for other people’s comfort
Thank you for reading.
-E.K.
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