How to Manifest a Partner Using the Law of Attraction

No daily scripting. No vision board necessary.

The pursuit of a perfect relationship is a path well travelled for many. Once upon a time, I was a seeker until I realized my perception of love was askew.

Instead of a pursuer, I became an attractor.

Throughout my spiritual journey, I have discovered that manifesting is all about unwavering faith and feeling worthy. Something society seems to forget in times of social media craze and comparison reel. The disease of more has been born.

Many spiritual teachings emphasize the importance of magnetic thoughts. However, I believe our energy is magnetic, thus to attract what we want, we need to become it on an emotional level. It goes deeper than our conscious thinking. We need to descend to the subconscious.

The combination of your thoughts and feelings is your state of being. Change your state of being… and change your reality.

~ Joe Dispenza

In 4 simple steps (yes! simple), I want to help you understand how we can use the Law of Attraction in getting whatever we want. You can apply it to every other aspect of your life. In this article, the process of manifesting a relationship will serve me as an example:

#1. Know what you want.

To create something new, we need to have the design of it. You cannot build a machine without the drawing of its components fitting perfectly together. That is why, all previous experiences come in handy. All your failed relationships, all the books and movies you have absorbed, help you with creating your ideal.

Make the list of characteristics, values you wish your partner to represent. You can also enumerate the physical traits you want your potential partner to have.

Confident? Reliable? Honest? Adventurous?

You can name 5 top-priority values or 30. Whatever suit your fancy. Wherever creativity takes you. The key is to follow your gut, honest feelings towards what you truly desire, not on a superficial egoistic level.

What is more, you can go one step further. What are your best qualities, or what would your partner bring out the best from you? Write them down. For example: I am spontaneous. I am easy-going. I am over the moon.

#2. Embody wanted qualities.

Now, the practice enters the scene.

Once you are done, go over those traits one by one and contemplate: do you reflect those qualities?

Do you wish for integrity or loyalty? Do you possess those features? Can your friend call you sincere and reliable?

Become those emotions. You do not need a partner to make you happy. Become the emotion you want without needing the external condition.

Do you want a confident partner? Reflect self-confidence through your posture and choosing what is best for you, not pleasing toxic people around you.

Do you want an adventurous relationship? Embrace boldness on your own. Go on that trip by yourself. Stop waiting for the perfect companionship to come along. Act like you are already in the relationship. You create a reality that is a reflection of you.

Do not linger around. Embrace new opportunities. Do not stalk your potential partner on social media. Create your happiness now. Travel on your own. Go and have that coffee on your own.

Now forget the list. Put it away, stack it in some pages of a cherished book.

Start with yourself. Work on your values in life. How those priorities are represented by your thoughts and actions towards people, animals and this planet?

Everything starts with you.

If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit of being yourself, and reinvent a new self.

~ Joe Dispenza.

#3. Believe you are worthy of receiving.

Self-worth is a crucial component of any manifestation.

What blocks us from elevating one’s self-esteem are our deeply rooted limiting beliefs. They have been installed in our subconscious during our formative years. With time, we have proceeded with screening the world through those narrowing lenses.

How to recognize what thoughts sabotage our manifestations?

By observing the surroundings, people we interact with regularly, the state of our home, relationships with family. They serve us as precious feedback.

• Do you quarrel with your parents daily?
• Do you find your living conditions uncomfortable?
• Do you perceive money as something bigger than you?
• Do you believe honest people are hard to come by?

Those are your limiting beliefs that result in constructing your reality. Until you change your assumptions and how you look at things, they will remain constant.

The same goes for your expectations of your abilities.

Do you believe you are worthy of a loving and trusting relationship? Or are you convinced that you need to earn this privilege? As long as you perceive the dreamy relationship on the pedestal, your subconscious regards it as an out-of-reach manifestation.

Doubt is limiting. Fear is limiting. Worry is limiting.

Fear kills the manifestation in the bud.

You have the vision, but it means nothing if not fuelled with the emotion of having and being it.

Once the doubt creeps in, your dream remains just that. Wishful thinking.

Play affirmations of confidence and self-love on repeat daily. Anchor yourself in the concept of self-worth. Act from the place of self-love. Set boundaries. Take care of your body. Chant: I allow myself to enter a healthy and balanced relationship on repeat.

True love is free of fear and characterized by non-attachment. Fear of loss energizes undue attachment and possessiveness.”

~ David R. Hawkins, Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender

#4. Focus on yourself.

Do not look at the list. Do not think about not having a perfect relationship. Do not stress about when, where or how you are going to meet this person.

That is not your job.

You know what is your responsibility, though?

• Self-growth.
• Feeling good.
• Enjoying life.
• Practising gratitude.
• Enjoying sunshine.
• Marvelling at little things.
• Exercising.
• Healthy eating.
• Reading inspiring books.
• Listen to your favourite music.
• Dancing along.
• Meeting with friends.
• Going for a walk.
• Meditating.
• Appreciating nature.
• Playing with your pet.
• Cleaning your home.
• Taking care of your space.
• Giving in to your favourite hobby.
• Diving into face masks and bubble baths.
• Feeling sexy.
• Feeling confident.
• Knowing your worth.
• Setting your boundaries.
• Doing what you love.
• Saying no more often.
• Making space for the new energy to enter your life.

Daily scripting, visualization will get you nowhere if you are in the constant state of wishing, noticing the lack of the relationship. They will only remind you what you yearn for. And that is not a pure desire of the Law of Attraction.

Pure desire is: I know what I want. I know I will get it. I know I am worth it. I can relax and live my life.

You can visualize your dreamy relationship once you are stable, knowing that what you want is already yours, so actually, there is no point in describing it with every detail in the morning or evening ritual.

I can see that is what trips many people up. They put their dream on a pedestal. They chase, they worry, they doubt. And where fear enters the scene, no faith can thrive. Confidence is crucial when cooperating with your subconscious, driving it to accumulate all the necessary circumstances to meet your desire.

Fear also breeds control.

When you obsess about control, you act from the state of lack, as you do not believe that manifesting is easy. Fear clouds your judgment. Instead of bringing you closer to the goal, it moves you further from the truth.

When you are longing, needing, or chasing something outside, the outcome will be stained by the same qualities. In other words, you’ll create a relationship where you feel lacking, lonely, unfulfilled or broken.

When you are playing with a kid, and you are chasing, the kid is running away. That is their idea of fun. The same principle follows your dream. When you are chasing or frantically thinking about it, you are REPELLING. And that is the opposite of ATTRACTING. You don’t have to chase. It will come to you.

Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

~ Mark 11:24

Believe it, and you will see it.

Do not be afraid of stepping into a relationship.

Yes, some may have hurt you. But look how much they have taught you.

Yes. You may have acted better, but look how smarter you are now and what can you apply to your new and genuine partnership.

Not every relationship is here for a lifetime. In fact, the only one is the relationship with yourself, and this is the one that should always be held as a priority. Most relationships are here to teach us, make us grow, have fun, fall in love with life, not the other person.

Do not be afraid to start a new relationship, even if it is going to end sooner than you thought. Open your heart to new possibilities and precious lessons. Open your heart to new experiences and go with the flow called life.

Thank you for reading!

I write to empower and inspire with self-love. Your biggest strength lies in your authenticity, so embrace the whole package. Wear your unique attitude proudly.