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s mind, the date is already over and he's thinking out loud about what he’s going to do next.</p><p id="aa32">He’ll talk about prepping for a presentation he has tomorrow or that he needs to pick up cat food on the way home. There’ll be a minuscule amount of questions to find out more about you. He’ll do more talking and not much listening.</p><p id="fe4e">He may even go so far as to suggest ways in which the two of you won’t be a good match. I actually had a date say to me,</p><p id="58a3">“<i>Kasey, you’re kinda spunky and I’m kinda meh.”</i></p><p id="4406">That guy didn’t just have his feathers down. I think he was actually molting.</p><p id="ec7d">My takeaway? He’s not into me at all.</p><h1 id="0fb4">Are his feathers up?</h1><p id="cd3b" type="7">I don’t know if it’s animalistic or what, but men become like peacocks with their feathers up when women are around. ~ Bradley Cooper</p><p id="ad09">If he’s saying and doing things that seem like he’s trying to impress you, then his feathers are up. Now you’ll need to listen carefully and ask yourself these two questions to determine what kind of peacocking he’s doing. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes it’s not.</p><h2 id="5e49">Is he doing a cocky peacocking thing?</h2><p id="28ac">This display of feathers is the type that’s given peacocking a bad name. He’ll say a lot of things to impress you, but his intention behind it is self-serving. He wants to wow you but has little interest in getting to know you.</p><p id="9b72">Like a guy with his feathers down, he won’t ask you many questions. The conversation will be more of a monolog than a dialog.</p><p id="caca">If he’s doing this, he’s not into you. He’s into himself.</p><h2 id="64f7">Is he doing an engaging peacocking thing?</h2><p id="02e4">This type of peacocking is often more subtle and indicates interest. He’ll say things to attract your attention, but in a way that engages you in the conversation. He’ll do a “look at my feathers” kinda thing, but he’ll want to see your feathers as well.</p><p id="0956">He’ll ask you questions to get to know you. He’ll try to make you laugh or smile. He’ll want to see that you’re happy.</p><p id="a6d3">And he’ll want to connect with your mind.</p><p id="5264">Turns out, male peacocks do this as well. According to an article in <a href="https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2018/11/watch-peacock-

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DATING ADVICE

How To Know If He’s Into You

Take a look at his feathers.

Now that I’ve entered the wild and a bit wacky world of dating, there’s something I’ve noticed about men.

They tend to talk a lot.

Ask them a question and they’ll go on and on.

Don’t get me wrong. I love when men open up to me. I’m a curious person so I love to ask men questions and to hear their stories. And since I already know everything that’s going on inside my own head, I’d rather hear what’s going on inside their heads. That’s what’s novel about the conversation we’re having.

As I listen to my date talk, there’s something he may do that helps to determine if he’s interested in me. I listen to hear if he’s peacocking or not, and if so, what kind he’s doing.

When a male peacock is walking around and passing time, doing things peacocks do, his feathers will be down. If there’s no one around that he’s interested in, he’ll go about his business without trying to capture anyone's attention.

But when he’s interested in a mate, he’ll spread out his feathers to catch a female’s eyes.

“Notice me,” he’s gesturing.

When a man talks, he’ll do something very similar. If he’s interested, he’ll say or do things to attract your attention. If he’s not interested, he’ll do the opposite.

To determine if he’s into you, take a look at what he’s doing with his feathers.

Are his feathers down?

A guy with his feathers down is a sure-fire way to tell he’s not interested. What does this sound like? You’ll notice that when he talks, he’s not trying to impress you. The energy between you will feel flat.

He’ll be talking to pass the time. Often it’ll sound a lot like a to-do list. In his mind, the date is already over and he's thinking out loud about what he’s going to do next.

He’ll talk about prepping for a presentation he has tomorrow or that he needs to pick up cat food on the way home. There’ll be a minuscule amount of questions to find out more about you. He’ll do more talking and not much listening.

He may even go so far as to suggest ways in which the two of you won’t be a good match. I actually had a date say to me,

“Kasey, you’re kinda spunky and I’m kinda meh.”

That guy didn’t just have his feathers down. I think he was actually molting.

My takeaway? He’s not into me at all.

Are his feathers up?

I don’t know if it’s animalistic or what, but men become like peacocks with their feathers up when women are around. ~ Bradley Cooper

If he’s saying and doing things that seem like he’s trying to impress you, then his feathers are up. Now you’ll need to listen carefully and ask yourself these two questions to determine what kind of peacocking he’s doing. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes it’s not.

Is he doing a cocky peacocking thing?

This display of feathers is the type that’s given peacocking a bad name. He’ll say a lot of things to impress you, but his intention behind it is self-serving. He wants to wow you but has little interest in getting to know you.

Like a guy with his feathers down, he won’t ask you many questions. The conversation will be more of a monolog than a dialog.

If he’s doing this, he’s not into you. He’s into himself.

Is he doing an engaging peacocking thing?

This type of peacocking is often more subtle and indicates interest. He’ll say things to attract your attention, but in a way that engages you in the conversation. He’ll do a “look at my feathers” kinda thing, but he’ll want to see your feathers as well.

He’ll ask you questions to get to know you. He’ll try to make you laugh or smile. He’ll want to see that you’re happy.

And he’ll want to connect with your mind.

Turns out, male peacocks do this as well. According to an article in Science Magazine, male peacocks not only fan their feathers to get a female's attention, but they also make sounds to connect with a female’s head.

“When a peacock catches the attention of a female, he doesn’t just turn her head — he makes it vibrate. That’s the surprising conclusion of a new study, which finds that a male peafowl’s tail feathers create low-frequency sounds that cause feathers on the females’ heads to quiver.”

So if his feathers are up and you feel your head a-quivering, you’re getting good information.

He’s into you.

And what a good feeling this is, especially if you’re into him too.

Thank you for reading. To quote Ram Dass, “We’re all just walking each other home.” If you’d like to join me on the journey, click here. If you’d like to access thousands of writers and their soul-stirring stories on Medium, click here.