How to Influence People and Make Good Friends

Best Techniques to Help Other People and Make Amazing Relationships With Them

I never stop recommending the next book to my friends and relatives. It’s the book by Dale Carnegie — How To Win Friends and Influence People.

This book guides talking, negotiating, and interacting with others. It’s not about the manipulation but about making people respect you and cooperate.

For you, my friends, I’ve collected the best advice that a hundred years ago, Mr. Carnegie wrote for people, and many of them had tremendous success.

Let’s jump into it!

Never Criticise

Critics are the worst thing on this planet. If you want to make an enemy, tell another person everything you think is wrong or can be improved.

We feel so worried about our actions and love ourselves the most simultaneously. If someone starts teaching us, it feels like an act of aggression, and we start protecting ourselves.

Think twice next time before teaching anybody before they ask you.

Remember Names

The sweetest word you can hear. Do you know it? It’s your name. How often do you here? Do you like it when someone calls you?

Scientists proved that people love it when someone remembers and calls them by their name, especially if this is a new person in their life.

Use this technique to get attention and make people feel good because they feel it is necessary for you.

Smile More

Do you like to talk with people who have the worst weather on their faces? Imagine the most evil person. How does the face look like? Does it have a smile? No, that’s right.

If you smile more, people will feel more relaxed, without any pressure or negativity in their direction.

Positive vibes are so important that people desire something positive throughout the day. Say something good, tell a joke, or make a compliment. Make another person smile, and also give your smile.

Listen and Ask

You should be the most curious person in the world. If you want to make a friendship with another person, learn everything about her. How? Ask about everything you don’t know.

It’s OK to talk to other people. Especially if another person tells you exciting things, be open to additional information and ask about the details and emotions of another person.

You even can’t imagine how little people listen to other people.

Show Opinions

Never judge and never attack other people’s opinions. If someone has an idea, stay curious about it. But never say this could be wrong, bad, or not the best option.

The best thing you can do is ask about the details. Learn this idea, and try to understand why this person thinks so. At least you will understand what matters to him and how to converse properly.

Admit Your Own Mistakes

Only argue if you are right. Be honest and open to criticism. If you know you made a mistake, tell others about it, and never try to hide it.

If people see that you are unafraid of showing that you could be wrong, they start respecting you. Also, stay calm and don’t worry about your actions so much.

Everybody makes mistakes and says terrible things, but too few people are ready to confirm this.

Ask Questions Instead of Orders

People love to feel in control. If you tell others what and how to do, they feel upset. Nobody likes to overcontrol. It shows that you don’t trust them and think you are better than them.

Instead, start asking these people questions like:

• How can we do it?
• What should we do?
• What options do we have?
• Is it possible to do so?

You got an idea. Make an open question to start a thinking process. Then you find several options and make them with a group of people.

Then you are not looking like a decision maker, but more like a participant of the whole group.

Charge with Desire

If you want someone to do something, then don’t ask them because of the reasons you see logic for you. Instead, look for reasons that another person will accept.

For example, there could be some significant benefits that another person can get if they do some actions.

Instead of asking your son to stop smoking because you feel sad and he will destroy his health, say that it won’t allow him in several years to run as fast as he can right now.

Find what’s important for others and use these reasons to push them to action.

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