How to Go Down on Her Like a Pro With Your Hands

Your ultimate step-by-step fingering guide.

If you want to become a master of female orgasms, then you need to learn how to finger a girl the right way until she explodes with pleasure.

Unlike penetrative sex, your fingers can give you complete control over how you stimulate her.

Whether it’s part of foreplay or the main event, fingering can be super fun.

Fingering is a sexual act in which a person stimulates the woman’s vagina or vulva, the area around the vagina.

It is an act of giving or receiving sexual pleasure, which can be a preliminary act leading to sex or a sexual act in itself.

A quick refreshment of female sexual anatomy

Before you can please a woman, make her squirt, shake and scream from intense multiple orgasms, you need to know what a woman’s sexual organ is and what turns her on.

The vagina is a muscular canal lined with nerves and mucus membranes in the inner part of the female genital tract that leads to the cervix.

The outermost organ is the vulva, which contains the labia majora and labia minora (known as lips), the clitoris, and the opening of the vagina.

A good rule of thumb is to work from the outside in when fingering. Because the outside contains some of the most sensitive nerves in the female genital tract, where the clitoris is located.

Going straight into the vagina is unlikely to be a pleasant experience for your partner, as sexual arousal takes time.

Most women masturbate because they orgasm more fingering themselves. For the vast majority of women, penetration is fun, but it’s like rubbing your balls: nice, but it doesn’t make them cum.

How do you make fingering fun?

Those who have read my article on how to make a small clitoral orgasm were happy with my advice, but some are struggling to get their girl to achieve multiple orgasms. So I decided to make their job easier by showing them the secret to female orgasm.

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Without further ado, here is the simple step-by-step guide to fingering your girl and giving her intense orgasms.

Touch every part of her body except the vagina

For most women, the longer they wait before touching the vagina, the more aroused they become.

You want her pussy to be wet before you put a finger inside her, increase her arousal to the highest level possible before putting a finger inside her.

Gently plant kisses on the lips, neck, shoulders, and arms, as well as stroking their stomach, legs, and thighs.

Rub the outside of her pussy with her panties still on and nib her ears, talking dirty while you are doing so. Slowly slip your hand under her panties — touch, tease and escalate to match the rhythm.

The trick is to build her arousal as high as possible so that when you insert your fingers — she’s practically ready to explode with pleasure.

Gently insert one finger first

After your partner has been aroused — well lubricated and her clit nicely rubbed, it’s time to move on to the next stage.

Gently insert a finger into her vagina. Use the finger both of you feel most comfortable with, but your index or middle finger is the best option.

Once inside, explore your way and know how her vagina feels. It will likely feel hot and moist, and the vaginal walls may feel puckered in some places and smooth in others.

It can take a while for a woman’s body to produce enough vaginal lubrication, so go in and out slowly as you ramp up the speed to tease your partner.

Once she has been properly lubricated, you can try using two fingers at the same time. If your partner is lying on her back, her G-spot will be near the navel.

When you insert your finger into the vagina, you can feel the uneven G-spot; stimulate her with the “come hither” motion to awaken your partner’s pleasure spot. Continuous, slow rhythm is the key to enjoyable fingering.

Tip: Make sure your fingers are clean and well cut to avoid the risk of infection. Set the stage to make her feel safe and relaxed. And lubricate your fingers before inserting them into her vagina.

Pay attention to how she reacts to each stroke

The guys who do fingering best are the ones who start gently and then try different moves as they watch and ask for feedback.

Look into your partner’s eyes, throw some dirty talk and kiss her. Do whatever it takes to maintain heat.

Pay close attention to the visual and auditory cues of what she likes and what she doesn’t like.

Don’t ask questions that puts pressure on your partner. For example, questions like “Do you like it?” or “Are you close?” will make her feel anxious and that can cut off the arousal. Instead, ask questions like “faster or slower,” “harder or softer,” or “left or right.”

By asking questions in two words, she can say what gives her pleasure without thinking too much and with less fear of hurting your feelings.

Closing thoughts

The clitoris is so sensitive that touching can sometimes be very uncomfortable or even hurt some women, so avoid pinching or scratching.

It is important to know all women experience pleasure differently. Some women cum almost exclusively through their clitoris, while others prefer a G-spot orgasm.

Try experimenting with different fingers, as some girls prefer to use a smaller, shorter finger, while others prefer the middle finger for maximum G-spot stimulation.

Using your fingers on a woman isn’t just part of foreplay. It can be a great way to show her how much you love giving her pleasure.

It’s an easy way to turn her on when you’re not in the mood, and it can also come in handy if you finish first during sex and don’t want to leave her high and dry.

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