Five Steps to Be More Erotic to Your Partner before Sex
Hands-on intimacy trick for low libido.
It is easy and common to complain about sexual boredom, but nurturing eroticism is an openly rebellious act.
Most of us grow up in sexual silence. We often learn to associate pleasure with guilt and shame and carry that emotion into adulthood.
To feel sexually free, you need to think about yourself without feeling responsible for the well-being of others.
Our emotional and erotic needs differ with individuals. For some, love and desire are inseparable. But for others, they are hopelessly disconnected.
From erotic talks to erotic touches, all sexual activity is a journey towards you and your partner. It is a continuous search for sensations, eroticism, and love.
Every word, glance, and touch makes our skin tingle. It’s nature’s way of bringing us together.
Happy couples understand that sex offers a never-ending playground of exploration and excitement.
You may not enjoy sex in the same way other people enjoy sex, but here I will share five erotic ways to tune up your sex life.
You will learn how to turn your partner on from head to toe before getting down to sex. These tips are for couples who feel rejected in the bedroom or have constant low libido.
1. Leave love notes everywhere
Most men like it when a woman takes the initiative. If you want to make him think about you all day, send him an erotic email, or on his social accounts.
You can also leave love notes in his pockets, his lunchbox, or his work bag, everywhere he will access during the day.
In very specific detail, tell him how much you desire him and what you’ll do to him the minute he comes home.
Sexting is more exciting as you don’t have to be conscious of saying dirty words out loud.
2. Be involved in activities he loves
Men are not good at expressing their emotional desires but teasing them all day will make them feel loved and appreciated.
A sure way to tease a man is by surprising him. Try doing the activities he loves. If he’s a sports fan, book a ticket for his favorite soccer game and surprise him.
If he likes working out, then doing a couple’s routine will surely build the arousal before you hit the bedroom.
It’s important you choose activities that will make him feel sexy enough to create a dopamine reaction and make them crave sex.
3. Give him compliments
If the spark in your relationship seems to have fizzled, complimenting each other can rekindle that attraction.
Your man may seem cool and confident and never fish for praise, but underneath, he needs to know you appreciate him and like who he is.
He’ll be thrilled to hear you say, “You look so hot in those jeans,” when he’s dressing up in front of you.
The compliment doesn’t have to be about his physical appearance. You can recognize his personality by saying, “You always make people feel so comfortable when you speak to them, and that turns me on.”
When you compliment your man on the qualities that mean most to him, he will feel like you really get him more than most people do.
4. Make body contacts
Having a partner put their arm around you in public or snuggle up close to you on the couch while watching TV together matters a lot more to you than things like gifts or saying “I love you.”
Whether it’s a kiss, a hug, or a gentle foot massage, body contact triggers the release of certain hormones associated with pleasure and bonding.
If your partner is too engrossed in his thoughts, use more intense touch to prevent him from getting stuck in his head.
You can gently but firmly grab his butt, squeeze his shoulder or scratch his head while planting a kiss on his neck. This will make him feel connected to you.
When couples touch each other, it’s a way of expressing warmth, and it keeps that intimate feeling alive.
5. Share dirty talks
Dirty talk helps arouse and stimulate particular senses that are sometimes overlooked during sex.
When you share dirty talks with your partner, your body comes to terms with your thoughts, imagination, and hearing hence a more erotic experience.
Putting your mouth close to the other person’s ear and saying, “Oh god! that feels so good. I love it when you wrap your tongue around my nipple” is sexier than saying it out loud because he’s listening to you more closely.
However, dirty talks can get daunting if you are new to it. So practice it more by saying how you feel in a slow and sexy tone during a conversation or when you are having sex.
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