How I Almost Killed Myself Trying to Lose Fat
And what you can learn from my mistakes.

A couple of years back I was overweight. A fun wager with a friend turned into a serious decision to lose fat and get shredded.
Despite being a regular gym-goer for around 2 years or so, I knew very little about working out and didn’t know jack about dieting.
So I spent the first few days learning about how to lose fat. What I learned in a nutshell was — I had to set up a caloric deficit, track my macros and calories, workout and do cardio.
I learned quite a bit but not enough and as the saying goes,
“Half knowledge is much more dangerous than ignorance.”
I started off with a severe calorie deficit of around 1100 calories — 750 calories through my diet and the rest through exercise.
I started feeling fatigued and my strength plummeted quite a bit in the first few days.
Every time my progress stalled, I would further reduce my food intake and increase my physical activity.
Over time, I developed a sickly pallor, sunken cheeks, deep bags under my eyes, and felt extremely fatigued all day. My appetite had drastically reduced and my sex drive had hit rock bottom.
I felt like a walking zombie overall but assuring myself with the blind affirmation that fat loss is supposed to be hard, I went on.
I still clearly remember how one night, I had gone to bed feeling sure I wouldn’t wake up the next morning.
I had pushed through that day with only my sheer willpower and as night approached, I was blacking out every now and then. I did wake up the next morning or I wouldn’t be here to tell the tale.
Some days, unable to exercise self-restrain anymore, I would binge eat and wallow in guilt later on.
By the end, I was eating less than 1000 calories per day, cycling 10 km thrice a week, and working out in the gym the remaining 4 days.
From 87 kgs to 63 kgs, I had lost 24 kgs in a span of 6 months — a lot of strength and muscle along with the fat.
Standing 6'1'’ tall and weighing only 63 kgs, I looked skinny and almost anorexic as opposed to ripped.
I had developed an unhealthy relationship with food. Being scared of gaining back the weight I had lost, I obsessed over every single calorie.
Overall, I felt miserable, and, eating, and working out felt tormenting.
Looking back, I honestly don’t know how I even stayed alive with such strenuous physical activity and eating in a day as many calories as I eat in a single meal now.
I now weigh around 73 kgs and carry a lot more muscle but only slightly more fat than I did back then.
I’ve learned a lot since then and want to share the mistakes I made so that you can learn from and not commit them. As the saying goes,
“It’s good to learn from your mistakes. It’s better to learn from other’s mistakes”
— Warren Buffett
Mistake #1 — Severely Restricting My Calories
I made this mistake at the beginning itself when I started off with a high calorie deficit.
As and when my progress stalled, I further increased the deficit and as I said earlier, by the end, I was eating less than 1000 calories which meant close to a whopping 1700 calorie deficit!
Restricting calories too much can have an effect opposite of what’s intended due to the slew of harmful side effects such as:
Lowered metabolism
Several studies such as this, this, and this have found that low-calorie diets can decrease the number of calories the body burns by as much as 23%.
Moreover, this study published in the International Journal of Obesity found that this lower metabolism can persist long after the calorie-restriction is stopped.
Over time this leads to “metabolic damage”.
Fatigue and nutrient deficiencies
Regularly eating fewer calories than your body requires can cause fatigue and make it more challenging for you to meet your daily nutrient needs.
Mainly, calorie-restricted diets may not provide sufficient amounts of iron, folate, or vitamin B12. This can lead to anemia and extreme fatigue.
Wreck your hormones
This article by Precision Nutrition describes how severe calorie restriction affects appetite hormones such as leptin and ghrelin while this study published in the United States Health and Human Services found it decreases Testosterone levels.
Other studies have consistently shown a relationship between severe calorie restriction and disrupted hormones. This means that your hunger, sex drive, muscle, bones, skin, and overall health is greatly affected.
Lower Your Immunity
This study published in the British Journal Of Sports Medicine and this study published in the Clinical Journal Of Sports Medicine have found a relation between severe calorie restriction and decreased immunity.
The Takeaway
Crash or “yo-yo” dieting where you use severe calorie deficits are recipes for disaster as they not only impede your weight loss but even affect your health in other ways.
A low to moderate calorie deficit over a longer period is much better than a severe deficit over a short period.
Mistake #2- Doing Too Much Cardio
I was cycling 10 kilometers thrice a week and sometimes I would add a fourth session where I would go up to 20 kilometers.
Research shows that intense, prolonged endurance training is a particularly effective way to induce overtraining.
You’re also more likely to experience an excessive metabolic slowdown, which can persist long after weight loss is stopped. Research also shows that just doing cardio guarantees little in the way of fat loss.
So this means that despite cardio being able to burn calories, excess of it can accelerate muscle loss, greatly impact recovery and cause a metabolic slowdown.
How much cardio should you do?
You don’t need any cardio but generating the deficit through diet alone means that you won’t get to eat a lot.
Mike Matthews, a best-selling health and fitness author does and recommends only an hour or two of cardio per week.
Yes, not per day but per week.
Do just enough cardio to not impair your recovery and training regime.

Mistake #3 — Not Prioritizing Strength Training
Due to the severe calorie deficit and excessive cardio I could barely perform in the gym. I lost a lot of strength in the gym and as a result, lost muscle also.
When losing weight, you should aim to lose fat and preserve muscle.
Studies show that prioritizing resistance training and supplementing it with some cardio is the best way to lose fat without losing muscle.
The myth of light weights and higher reps to “cut”
One of the biggest myths associated with “cutting” that even I used to believe in is lifting “light weights with high reps” to get a “toned” look.
No, all you will do is lose muscle not get “toned” that way.
You need to continue lifting heavy to preserve muscle as muscle is a result of your body’s adaptations to increasing demands placed on it. By lifting light you literally “signal” to your body that you no longer need the muscle.
So you need to continue to lift heavy.
Cut down volume
Since your rate of recovery and energy is lower, you might want to reduce the number of sets, especially on the compound movements.
I would recommend cutting down volume by 30–40%.
Ramp up the frequency
Frequency is basically how frequently you train a particular muscle group. Lowering volume and increasing the frequency will enable you to perform and recover better as the sessions get shorter.
A training frequency of 2–4 times per week has been found to be optimal to maximize muscle protein synthesis.
The Takeaway
Focus on the compound lifts, continue to lift heavy trying to maintain or even gain strength, reduce the volume and increase the frequency.
Mistake #4 — Not Listening to My Body
I never listened to my body and believed that more is better. But more isn’t always better and I realized that the hard way.
Along with my gym workouts and cardio, I would do HIIT sessions or “ab” workout sessions at home.
This led to severe overtraining — muscle cramps, extreme fatigue, affected recovery, joint inflammation, etc.
Here’s a detailed blog post on the effects of overtraining.
I encountered a lot of red flags but I never paid heed to them. The day when I went to bed feeling sure I wouldn’t wake up is one such example where I blatantly refused to listen to my body.
The human body is an amazing thing that throws up signs which you need to pay heed to.
Listen to your body. Don’t ignore red flags such as joint pains, fatigue, muscle cramps, parched lips, headaches etc. which could mean lack of rest, physical strain, mental strain, dehydration etc.
