He Made Me Squirt
A squirting orgasm takes more work, but it’s totally worth it
Most people will tell you that not every orgasm is the same. And not all orgasms are created equal.
For a woman like myself, there’s a sliding scale when it comes to how good an orgasm feels.
Sometimes it can be a bit meh. I mean, I can’t complain because it still feels good, but it could be better.
But even if an orgasm has a lower pleasure rating, say, a 1 through 3, it’s still quite pleasant. The tension builds until my core feels like it can’t get any tighter, it’s released, and then I feel that relaxed and floaty sensation as I come down from the high.
A subpar orgasm doesn’t last very long and it isn’t “full-bodied” (meaning felt all over — from my pussy to my toes to my fingertips to my fluttering eyelashes). So I’m left not very satisfied and wanting more. Basically, it’s not so much a “big O” as it is a lowercase “o.”
Then there’s the mid-range climax. These are good. They’re great, actually. They last longer, I feel them deeper within my pleasure center (read: cunt), and the high of the orgasm is more of an intense adrenaline rush.
To have this kind of orgasm, I’m usually being pleasured by a skilled partner I share a deep connection with, or I’m particularly horny as I masturbate and imagine some vivid fantasy — usually involving being tied, choked, gagged, or tossed around a bit by a dom who’s not afraid to exert his strength over me.
And to have an above-and-beyond kind of orgasm — say, a 7 or better — I need stimulation in multiple areas. The ability to multi-task is a must. Gentle nipple stimulation, loving on that clitoris with a wet tongue or vibrator, and also some form of penetration, either with fingers, a well-made dildo, or a well-made cock.
A squirting orgasm, to me, is always a top-notch climax. Best of the best.
When it comes to squirting, I don’t do it every time. I don’t even do it often. It’s only occasionally, and I can’t seem to control whether it happens or not.
The first time it happened, I was sure I had just accidentally relaxed my bladder muscles and peed all over my poor partner’s beard.
But you know me. I like to educate myself. Get hands-on, right in the mess. As I changed the sheets, I noted that what I was seeing didn’t look like pee. It seemed to be colorless on the sheet. It also didn’t smell like pee. It didn’t smell like much of anything.
And my partner, who had accomplished this great feat while giving me oral sex, was incredibly turned on by his handiwork. “It tastes sweet,” he said with a grin.
Nectar of the gods? You betcha.
Though I can piece together some of the common techniques that are always in place when I squirt, I’m still not exactly sure why sometimes it happens, and most times it doesn’t. But I do know one thing:
It feels fucking glorious.
I come, hard and wet, liquid gushing out of me as my legs shake.
I can have just as good of an orgasm even if it isn’t a gusher. But the thing is, a non-squirting orgasm can have a wide range. It can be incredibly intense and drawn out, or it can be very quick and unsatisfying.
But a squirting orgasm, for me, is always a hit. Pretty much a 10 every time.
Uncovering the mysteries of squirting
There are all kinds of articles out there on how to get yourself or your vulva-owning partner to squirt. So many sex bloggers give helpful, valuable technical advice. But sometimes you have to sift through the sand to get to the good stuff.
For the purpose of this article, I’m going to stick to my personal experience and what worked for me. Everybody is different, so what works for one person won’t always work for everyone. And any article that neglects to include that message is missing an important step.
The following is a list of everything that’s taken place each time I’ve experienced a squirting orgasm.
I’m not going solo.
I know my body better than anyone. I can give myself some pretty incredible (and multiple) orgasms. But I’ve never been able to make myself squirt while masturbating.
When you read the next item on the list, you’ll see that I have to be at my most turned on in order to squirt. I think there’s an element to having sex with a partner who can turn me the fuck on in real life that my imagination just doesn’t give me whenever I’m having a self-pleasure session.
I’m really, REALLY warmed up beforehand.
Oh, you think you’ve given her enough time for foreplay? Try multiplying that by ten.
Start in the morning, when you first wake up. Make the coffee. Clean the breakfast dishes. Kiss her goodbye like you fucking mean it, exploring her mouth with your tongue and her body with your hands. Then, send her messages throughout the day that make her feel loved or desired. Mix them up. Don’t just talk about sex — also show that you care about her as a person. But also, talk about sex.
What I’m saying is, foreplay starts long before you hit the sheets. When I’m at my most turned on, I feel an emotional, magnetic connection to my partner. I feel mentally stimulated. And I feel a literal ache between my legs — this would be my turned-on clit engorging.
Whenever I squirted, I was, beyond turned on. I have to be incredibly excited, and my head has to be into it. So do whatever drives your partner wild. All day.
I’m receiving oral.
Every time I’ve squirted has been while my partner is performing some amazingly good and attentive oral sex. After being thoroughly warmed up, he uses his wet tongue and first stimulates all my areas — from my labia to my vaginal opening, my inner thighs to my perineum.
When he’s got me going so crazy with anticipation that I’m tugging his hair and attempting to shove his head so that his tongue hits my clit, he gives me what I want.
He applies consistency and dedication as he works a dazzling pattern with his tongue and lips. As he works my clit, he stimulates my vaginal wall as well by penetrating me with multiple fingers. This is a key step.
He stimulates multiple erogenous zones at once.
For me, it all circles back to making me as excited and stimulated as possible. If I’m going to squirt, I have to be at my horniest. I need him to use one hand on my nipples, the other in my cunt, and his tongue and mouth dancing delicately on my clitoris. All. At. The. Same. Time.
I also want to hear him making noises. I want to know he’s enjoying himself because I taste like honey and he loves making me squirm. Knowing he’s enjoying getting me off gets me off even faster.
My legs quiver so hard that I think I might hurt him.
Every time I’ve squirted, my quivering legs seemed to give me a warning that it was coming. My legs usually always shake whenever I’m going to have a good orgasm. But, whenever I’ve squirted, the quivering was…intensified.
My thighs almost feel like they aren’t part of my body. They felt light and floating, like jello. And they knock against his head as they shake and wobble to and fro. They get their shakiest right before the moment of peak pleasure, then they freeze just before I find my release.
I feel both super turned on and super relaxed.
I’m not sure how one can feel both tightly wound and incredibly relaxed at the same time, but that’s how I feel when I squirt.
Along with my quivering jello legs, my orgasmic pleasure builds to the point that I kind of feel like I’m floating. I definitely forget about the stress of the day and let everything go as I chase my climax.
Truly great lovemaking that culminates in a truly great orgasm is like a high, and the moment when I fall over the precipice and start to come, my voice going off like a siren, it’s as if the flood gates have literally opened.
The pressure releases as my pleasure visibly pours out of me.
I come hard — and long.
Whenever I’ve squirted, the orgasm has been intense and long-lasting. I feel it everywhere. I’m more worn out afterwards. And the high of the pleasurable moment lasts longer.
It’s totally worth having to throw the sheets in the washer and remaking the bed.
I melt.
Those times I’ve felt the crashing wave of a squirting orgasm burst forth from my wet and wild woman parts, I felt the sensation of melting. It’s that relaxed/intense pleasure high. It’s as if I’m going to sink into the floor or the bed or wherever I’m being pleasured.
It’s almost like dreaming. But it’s very real. And it feels oh-so amazingly glorious.
It’s a wonderful experience with a partner I love. And it’s out of this world.
Raining pleasure
Again, I want to emphasize that women can have these insanely pleasurable orgasms even when they don’t squirt.
Sometimes my best climax is through clitoral stimulation, with not even a drop of moisture on the sheets.
I can also experience wetter and messier sex where my natural lubricant flows generously as I’m fucked and sucked and stimulated. And even though the orgasm feels great and I’m plenty wet, I don’t squirt.
How we come shouldn’t matter, and there’s no one way to do it that’s better or more attractive. The important thing is that we feel good and healthy when we do it.
Explore your body by yourself, with your partner, and with your toys. Find out what kind of stimulation gives you the most pleasure.
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This story is part of Sexual Espresso, a weekly column published here at Sexual Tendencies.
