Golden Shower: What Is It and Why My Lover Gets Off With It

I just added another fetish to my list!

I’ve only learned about “Golden Showers” recently. It happened after I started dating my lover, Mr P., and he introduced me to his kinky side and, in consequence, made me discover my own.

Our sex life is full of explorations and fun. We share our pleasures, preferences, fantasies and fetishes with each other and as soon as it’s possible (and we feel comfortable about it) we make them come true.

In my research on sex topics, mainly in BDSM and fetish — which I started to improve and innovate my sex life and for sex blogging — I came across a piece about golden showers.

I asked Mr P. if he knew about it, as I always do when I’m researching. His answer didn’t surprise me: “Of course I do. And I love it.”

Mr P. has been exploring his sexuality for more than a decade, he has done a bit of everything. Which makes me delight when I find something that’s a first for him.

I didn’t get surprised for him having tried it, but I got a bit apprehensive: would I ever be able to offer him the experience?

What is a Golden Shower?

Sexuality is a spectrum, with uncountable ways to be explored and obtain pleasure from.

The golden shower is an uncommon sexual practice (only 1.4% of men reported liking it). It’s categorised as a fetish, and it consists of one partner getting sexual gratification from urinating or be urinated by their partner. The scientific term is urophilia:

Gaining sexual pleasure from the act of peeing, whether it be on a person, received from a person, watching it, or just thinking about it. (source)

It can be played in or out of power play: as part of foreplay or the fun sex, or in a Domination/submission dynamic, where the golden shower is a humiliation act or used as a punishment.

How I first tried it

Some of the sexual acts Mr P. says he’d like to try with me, like rope bondage or wax play, I immediately say yes. Others, I need a bit of time, like when he asked me to dominate him.

I need time to digest the act, to assess how I feel about it. I will only engage in a sexual fetish or kink if I feel absolutely comfortable with it.

I must confess, when I learned about golden showers, my thought was “Nah, this is not for me.”

But when my lover told me he loves it, I had to consider it. I’m a pleaser in bed— as he is — so if it’s not a hard limit, I will give it a chance.

One day, after a stressing working day, I went straight to Mr P.’s house. When I got there, he had a bubble bath prepared for me, with a glass of wine resting near the tub.

Mr P.’s tub is not big enough for both of us, so while I was enjoying my warm, relaxing and wined bubble bath, he was sat on the toilet seat, chatting with me.

When I was done with the bath, I told him to join me in a shower, like we always do. It’s our thing. I took the bathtub plug out, started to empty it, and invited him in.

As I was lazy, I stayed laying down, while Mr P. started having his shower, facing me. Soon, he got a boner. That, of course, made me tease him.

His reaction was not the one I expected, but even less was mine. He said, “I’m going to piss on you”, to which I replied: “do it!”.

When I said it, I meant it. I felt how badly he wanted to do it, how aroused he was with the idea. That, per se, was enough to make horny about it.

Mr P. asked me if I was sure, and when I sensually grabbed my boobs and hold them together, he had his answer. I wanted him to piss on me!

Mr P.’s face brightened like he didn’t believe his desire was about to materialise.

My lover’s horny face while giving me my first golden shower was spectacular. His arousal while doing it made me have pleasure in the act.

Why my partner loves it

Despite we are into BDSM and proud owners of several kinks, Mr P.’s love for golden shower has nothing to do with power play.

He loves it mostly because of the taboo involved. His answer to my question, “why do you love it?” was: “Because it’s naughty and kind of forbidden.”

Urinating on someone or being urinated at goes against everything we are taught. When we do it, we’re going against the society’s norms, we’re doing something that everybody (the majority) don’t do.

Pushing our limits can be very sexy, and letting our inner desires and fetishes emerge is fucking amazing.

For now, I’m still not sure how I feel about golden showers. They don’t disgust me (as long as it’s from my partner) and they will not be a hard limit for me.

Mr P. asked me to give him a golden shower, which I will; the idea excites me. But I will do it in a scene, a Dom/sub one, where I’ll be his Mistress.

Until then, I’ll keep exploring the golden showers as a receiver. In the end, it seems like I’m adding a new fetish to my list!

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