From Worrier To Warrior: “How To Transform, What It Takes, What You Need”

A mindset like no other

“If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits, There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”

-Bruce Lee-

The world needs more Warriors!

No, I don’t mean as in Warriors to attend more wars.

We need more people who can conquer mental battlefields.

Presently, we are in a worrier crisis.

Here’s some stuff to consider, and how you might orientate toward the future:

The Worrier

Worrying is a projection of negative energy.

Worrying is easy.

Most people think worrying is the path of suffering, they think someone will suddenly come and save them. Many will claim it happens to you, but it’s not. Worrying is very easy, that’s why the majority of society are worriers. Worriers tend to balance on the edge of depression and victim play.

When you worry too much, it means your system is in alarm modus.

Fear has you by the throat. It’s very easy to become alarmed, when you look around all you see and hear these days is infused with negativity. Everything we hear holds so many ingredients to feed concern and trigger anxiety. If you’re not resilient enough to battle that toxic world willing to grasp you, you’ll soon become unhappy and lose the taste of life.

What’s great to get is that 99% of worrying is about the lack of ability to focus on the right things, on the positive things. In the blend, your worrying can lead to devastating actions, which can lead to foolish habits destroying your life in the blink of an eye. Even taking all those who are dear to you with you.

Most worrying is about stuff that’s out of your control anyway.

The compound impact of worriers is hugely underestimated. It’s self-arousal which puts you in a constant state of alertness — a dangerous soup that fucks up your sleep in short, yet, affects your state significantly over the long term.

When you consider Newton’s third law, by worrying, you’ll attract more things to worry about. Perhaps the habits track mentioned here explains it best. The thing is, in most cases, you’re mentally troubled about what “might” happen. Fewer cases will be about what’s happening right “now.”

You can always worry about every tiny thing, but you can also just “not.”

You see, worrying is a choice, it’s not something that happens to you. You can escape it, simply because it’s you. You’re doing it yourself and the more you worry, the less time you have to focus on what does matter and how to solve stuff that might need to be handled. Most people are lost in time due to their worries. They tend to miss out on the important things in life.

Most of our problems derive from worrying or were never a problem in the first place — think back about something you have been worrying about lately, big chance you’ll agree with me.

To unleash yourself from worrying, you’re best approach is to become a great “Warrior.” People worry a lot when they don’t have a strong mind, likely because they don’t have a point in their life feeding them with confidence and strength.

Chances are big that extreme worriers behave in extremely negative environments. We all know our environment strongly influences and even reshapes us.

I’ve transformed myself from being a worrier to becoming a warrior. And here’s something that I’ve experienced and caught my eye amongst others too.

While I was reading the book “Occupation Happy” by Eve Arnold coincidentally, I came across “The Anchoring Effect.” Not something new to me but Eve had a great way of bringing it. It’s something you also might be familiar with, especially when you’re somewhat of a warrior yourself already.

To inject you with the idea here’s a bite I’ve extracted and compressed from Eve’s book:

The Anchoring effect

Nobel prize winner Daniel Kahneman came across this mind hack that helps you work out the world quicker from past experiences. The two researchers found our human brain would rely on other information to make a decision.

In one study, both gave students a test.

One group was asked to calculate 1 x 2 x 3 x 4 x 5 x 6 x 7 x 8.

The second group was asked to calculate 8 x 7 x 6 x 5 x 4 x 3 x 2 x 1.

Both groups were only given five seconds to compute the calculations, nowhere near enough time to give an accurate estimate. So they had to estimate reflexively. As you might have guessed, those who had the calculation starting with 1 guessed much lower than those who had the calculation starting with 8. The number at the start of the equation served as an anchor for the calculation.

So far, the anchoring effect in short.

(If you wouldn’t have read the book “Thinking, Fast, and Slow” by Daniel Kahneman, consider doing so. It’s a splendid scientific read, providing a broader insight into “applicable” human psychology — at least how I experienced the book.)

What I found is, worriers tend not to have an anchorpoint, or perhaps don’t seem to detect their life’s anchor point. leading them to drift around, heading-less, not knowing where to point their attention to, unable to focus. It’s a huge problem rooted in most societies.

Warriors on the flip side, are a different breed.

The Warrior

A Warrior knows how to project victory.

Being a warrior is an attitude.

One myth about great warriors might be that they’re fearless. But that’s not true. Everyone has fears, a great warrior just knows how to handle it better than anyone else.

It’s about you being able to stand back up, it’s about you not being knocked out by life. Warriors thrive and go full-in. Full focus. One direction. Ready to tackle whatever comes their way. Every real warrior is a life observer. They learn more from the moves that led to defeat than the ones that led to victory. They know the rules of the game they play, therefore they aren’t worried. It enables patience and clarity.

Warriors seem to hunt the suffering.

Read this again.

Warriors seem to hunt the suffering.

“Real-life warriors hunt the suffering.”

The great difference is a warrior feeds his power from his ability to direct his focus, from the ability to use the energy collected from focusing on a moment in time. A moment in time that was worse than where he is now, a moment where he or she was suffering.

Somewhere many never would want to go, that’s where a warrior projects its mind. A warrior hunts for past sufferings and “mind-time travels” to that point in time, to that “anchorpoint.”

Buried deep inside this is the thin red line of my life.

I’ve used such anchorpoint(s) often ← that’s right, some have many.

Some ships use more than one anchor, to stay in position more stable, or maneuver slightly, and more precisely, by means of hauling their anchors.

You can also use more anchors to improve your mental maneuverability, become more resilient, and focus your attention more precisely.

In the end, it’s about giving yourself more options.

The great power of superior warriors lies hidden in their options.

Worries don’t see options, they tend to believe there’s only one solution and that’s stressing out by worrying. When you worry much, you won’t recover well. See, warriors don’t have this problem, they prioritize whatever’s good for themselves.

Warriors tend to be egoistic at first to show up strong enough to help. A warrior holds values and habits keeping him centered.

Let me ask you this:

“What would you do if you were the last person on the planet?”

You see, a worrier would never be able to answer this question.

A warrior wouldn’t care. It wouldn’t change anything, because of the mental anchor(s) he equipped himself with, the positive belief, and the preparedness against the worst outcome.

A life’s anchor could also be referred to as your anchor of resilientness — making it impossible to ever get in worse circumstances. It’s an attitude and the ability to control your mind precisely where you want.

Why?

Because your chosen anchor point holds a certain energy allowing you to tap from at any given time. It’s a source of energy to feed you in order to battle new situations. You just need to search for something like that within your past life. A moment where you were strong, a moment where you came out stronger or better, something that feeds you the confidence to battle against unpredictable future events — and they always appear whether you want it or not.

Warriors hold ground through extreme storms and wild seas.

Warriors never give up, they strive with purpose. They don’t care about what others say, and negativity doesn’t affect them. The sustenance they get comes from the act itself, not from the impression it makes on others.

You don’t want to be the worrier. There’s nothing useful to reap from it.

Live by the same code of necessity, which dictates your battle must be fought anew every day.

What’s something remarkable you have done, encountered, that’s happened to you, or survived to tell a magnificent tale about?

Many people hold treasures of tales about things that happening to them. Some even step up and present themselves as natural storytellers. Others have plenty of stories within them, yet fail to bring them in a great manner, or they are simply afraid to expose their true self openly. The latter behavior might even make them never unfold their magnificent worth.

When we talk about life happenings often there’s a horrendous touch attached to the story. In many ways, huge events happening to us are often considered huge or remarkable due to the emotional impact the events evoke on the human state.

And in most cases unfortunately those impacts hold deep sadness, pain, loss, or suffering.

“If there is one thing I found perhaps most valuable through life, we can project the mind precisely where you want, ignoring time.”

Our ability to pay attention to what matters most or what’s more important to us is a superpower on its own. I’ve said this in earlier writings, time traveling is a real thing.

It exists today, and you are capable of doing it. Matter of fact you’re doing it more than you think. We ought to think traveling through time involves sending our physical body through a visual portal or so…

But when you think in terms of energy, when you think back on your past, on memories, when you read what I write here. Believe me, you’re already traveling through time. You who believe you can’t time travel has more to do with your limited belief and understanding of the concept.

You can travel through time by means of thought as desired, depending on how badly you want something, on how much intensity you want to evoke to open that image as clearly as possible.

The hidden force of great storytellers has nothing to do with the story itself. It’s about the passion, the pursuit, the purpose, and the meaning of “why” they are great at sharing great stories.

Much has to do with time and happiness. And worrying isn’t the answer.

Take great storytellers for instance, they use their stories to navigate their thoughts as preferred and elevate their mental state.

They see this as a life’s anchor, as a blessing, as if they were suddenly injected with a superpower. The fact they survived equipped them with something to lift others. It feeds them with confidence, it just makes them stronger, more energized, and more weaponized to face the difficult future ahead, taking everyone with them.

A warrior mentality enables you to tackle life

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Inner strength derives from knowing which ways you can go — having options. Engage in regular self-reflection and use this information to guide your behavior.

It’s never too late to do what you’re meant to do. More successful people are worriers who transformed themselves into warriors. Through life, and across the internet it becomes reasonably simple to detect other warriors.

Let me ask you:

“Are you not a warrior?”

What small battle did you win in the past? In what situation were you pulled down, but didn’t give up? It doesn’t matter whether you eventually won or not. What matters is that you can reflect and energize from it.

“What are you going through that someone else isn’t ?”

Everyone has a battle of their own.

“What’s your battle?”

Travel back to your personal and powerful anchor points to tap fuel from.

Stop the worrying, and find the warrior in you, it’s there somewhere hidden, you just have to find it. And once you do, remember this:

“Under no circumstances should a warrior abandon the path that feels right for him.”

-Ryoma Sakamoto-

The Warrior in me

The first time I touched a kettler dumbell I was 12 recovering from AML. Somewhere between death and rebirth, living in an Isolated cold recovery room for four weeks with nothing more than a stainless steel air filter the size of the wall behind my bed. This wasn’t the time I started to work out, I was too weak, it was merely where the connection was made (A strong point in my life, a new starting point, a point of fresh energy, my anchorpoint). Because of that, today I enjoy the cold. Another strange thing to say is that much metal in my environment empowers my overall state. Additionally, I had to learn to enjoy alone time.

What I found is that a real warrior mentality has much to do with pulling and turning mental switches. I started to weight train later when I was 16. Every morning when I’m lifting weights, or whenever I encounter a difficult time. I project myself to that isolated room. This is the point where I became a warrior.

It’s a manipulative approach to handling unchangeable situations for me.

Our minds are powerful and it’s up to you what tricks you use to your advantage and thrive through life.

It is one thing to study war and another to live the warrior’s life.

— Telamon of Arcadia, mercenary of the fifth century B.C.

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