Essay 3 on Emotional Abuse~EAR recovery for the twilight (elders)…

For it is up to each person to decide if and when they are in their twilight years not a date or retirement or a disability…

Here I chose a moon ocean because the twilight years are meant to be special and I see so many struggling still working with ailments or injuries when they should have time to spend with their families and friends if any are still alive…

This happened to my grandma, Mary Margaret, she was one of the last in her close knit group to survive the depression and many sad years of war.

They traveled around quite a bit after my grandma became a widow at a young age of 40. She did tell me she dated the janitor lol no one else knew this but she wants me to mention it so I will.

She was happy at the end of her days because she was with me and my kids especially my youngest who was a baby at the time she lived there for 3 years…

They played games nonstop, laughed during light chores like folding clothes so gma still felt useful, went on walks and even got a huge deluxe van to take her around first with her walker then her wheelchair that I became adept at maneuvering…

We converted our family room into our master bedroom so she could have a bathroom in the middle of the night before depends (adult diapers) were required..

I must admit I am crying while I type this third part of this series on emotional abuse of the elderly because the memories are hard to forgive if one knows what that means basically it was the best time of my life so my tears are bittersweet with emotion for missing her and also fond memories of our 2–3 years we had caring for her.

We took her everywhere and she even went to Catholic Mass with our neighbors Herb and Eva on Saturday evenings before I converted to Catholicism for twenty years, no more.

The one complaint I have for our care for her was that we forced her to drink water but only out of care to avoid urinary tract infections a real thing with many female twilighters. But even in her dementia she was vocal with her actions and many a houseplant got watered by gma when she thought we weren’t looking.

Can’t fool her! Let them be do not harass them about anything unless it is harming you or your kids. Let them live with you as long as you can but when the time comes be ready to move them on to another sibling if possible or a home if finances allow it.

The important thing is not to ever give up on them because we are over 50 or 40 or 30 or 20. Once an adult there is not many developmental changes until cognitive decline begins which is exacerbated by smoking, alcohol, drugs, dangerous behaviour etc… we know what is bad for us we don’t need constant reminders. Thank you!

Peace to all Hope you enjoyed this little series with big topics!

All comments are welcome!

In case you missed part one and two here ya go but they are read alone in any order really!

and for a male’s perspective on emotional abuse please check out my India’s profile Som Dutt and his most recent essay on emotional abuse here~

For more on EA~Emotional Abuse Recovery check out our newest publication here~

and more on psychology here if interested~

Thanks peace!

here kitty kitty…

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seriously thanks if still reading!