Summary

The article discusses the importance of teaching and maintaining respect within families, particularly from younger generations towards their elders, as a means to prevent emotional abuse and ensure mutual dignity.

Abstract

The essay emphasizes that respect is a fundamental component in familial relationships, particularly between parents and their children from Generations X, Y, and Z. It posits that a lack of respect can be an unintentional form of emotional abuse. The author advocates for consistent enforcement of respect from a young age, while also acknowledging that not all parents inherently deserve respect, especially those who exhibit narcissistic behavior. The article suggests that respect is crucial for emotional safety and personal validation, and its absence can lead to emotional abuse tactics such as gaslighting or silent treatment. The author also touches on the importance of self-respect, including healthy sexual expression, and concludes by encouraging readers to reflect on their experiences with disrespect and to anticipate the subsequent parts of the essay series.

Opinions

Respect is essential in all forms of communication and interaction, and its absence can render relationships ineffective.
Parents should enforce respect as a core rule in their households, with appropriate consequences for its breach.
Narcissistic parents do not automatically warrant respect from their children.
The teenage years are a critical period for reinforcing respect due to hormonal changes and potential forgetfulness.
Masturbation, in moderation, is considered normal and healthy when there is no other sexual outlet.
Respect is defined as treating every person with dignity and kindness, but it should not be taken advantage of to the point of becoming a doormat.
Disrespect can be a form of emotional abuse, often accompanied by other manipulative behaviors like gaslighting.
The author shares a personal rule of maintaining respect in their home and suggests strategies for addressing disrespect, such as feigning curiosity or being upfront about its impact.
The essay series promises to delve deeper into the topic of emotional abuse and recovery in subsequent parts.

How Gen X Y & Z don’t Respect their parents…

a form of emotional abuse they might not be aware of~Part 1 of 3 essays…

Photo by Georg Arthur Pflueger on Unsplash

Be well by teaching them R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

side note: This essay is one of a three part series on Emotional abuse of the elderly. Please see this publication Recovery from Emotional abuse 101 for more true stories of ways Emotional Abuse EAR Recovery can be realized and help our lands full of people and problems and joys all at the same time…

R is easy to remember because it stands for what this whole essay and publication are about~ RESPECT

Respect is easily defined as proper attitude towards another whether it be parent, child, friend, co worker and so on.

Without respect in our emails, correspondence, essays and the like we are dead in the water means that we really have nothing do we?

Teenage Years

If parents have done their jobs well their teenage children will not rebel but may need a little fine tuning.

The most important and only rule that I enforced in my home for all my children was respect for me.

If it was broken there were consequences’

Respect wasn’t lacked for again in my home.

Not all parents deserve respect though so let’s be clear that parents who are narcissistic do not deserve attention let alone respect from their children.

But we are going around and around aren’t we?

Bottome line teach them respect (song at bottome) when they are little and stay on top of it up until forever really but watchful teenage years when hormones are raging and they may be forgetful.

And don’t make the same mistake I made due to spiritual abuses from the Catholic Church don’t teach them that masturbation is wrong. When there is no sexual outlet it is perfectly fine, normal and healthy to masturbate in moderation naturally…

Everything but RESPECT need be done in moderation, tv, social media, computer play, etc…

Respect is a constant awareness of the importance of treating every person with dignity and kindness unless they cross a boundary that makes you feel unsafe emotionally, physically, sexually, spiritually, financially and the list goes on ad infinitum…

RESPECT

respect

every

single

person

even

children

tooo!

My only rule is respect in my house~ MMD

Because you see when you get respect you feel validated as a human being and this validation helps you to treat others with the same dignity and honouring sort of nature.

Have you ever been disrespected?

It is not a good feeling at all and can be now added to the ways of emotional abuse because often what comes with disrespect is gaslighting, silent treatment through lack of response on texting or calling unless there is a good reason and it better be a good reason..

What can you say to someone who disrespects you?

You can act curious, play stupid (did you really mean what you just said?) or be up front and say wow that didn’t feel good what you just said right now.

And if you are dealing with a narcissist then they will make you feel bad for questioning them so be prepared for that backlash or retaliation to question your sanity over events that others see too as manipulation of emotional abuse against our dignity of our personage…

This does not mean that we should be a door mat meaning that people can say what they want to get whatever it is that they are needing.

So listen to this cool throw back song and stay tuned for part 2 and part 3 coming later today!

Peace to all!

Michelle Marie Mariscal