Don’t Let the “Red Pill” and Fake “Alphaness” Murder Your Dating Life
What “being a man” really means
As I cut the call, “Wow, he’s f*cked.”, I wonder.
This cross-country playboy loses interest in even the most amazing of women within the first few dates — all thanks to sleeping with hundreds.
That, my friend, is a terrifying predicament — an endless search for a mythical goddess of a woman.
Caught up in “spinning plates” and “getting laid”, it was the same path I was speeding on.
Despite my mind going haywire and intuition howling in alarm, I didn’t turn around.
But that one phone call slammed a powerful brake.
The Fundamental Problem of “The Red Pill”
The red pill is a disparate thesis on inter-sexual dynamics — the Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi being its “Bible”.
It’s home to a bunch of polarizing blanket statements like:
- While men are wired to seek “quantity”, women go for “quality”.
- A woman will always choose a man who she thinks has a higher Sexual Market Value (SMV) than her own.
- Men are purpose-driven while women prioritize intimacy.
- While men’s SMV typically peaks in their late thirties, women do so in their early twenties.
- A woman’s attractiveness is primarily her looks. But a man’s? An amalgam of confidence, risk-taking ability, humor, and looks.
“Women want to be with men who other women want to f*ck, and other men want to be.”
— Rollo Tomassi
But there’s a massive caveat.
Even if it’s true biologically and evolutionarily, it disregards the cultural, religious, ethical, moral, and human element.
We don’t live in a mechanical world of numbers, blacks, whites, and hard absolutism.
We live in an imperfect world of imperfect humans—who are puzzled by their own existence and struggling to find answers.
Pigeon-holed by such 0-or-1 statements, you’ll miss nuance — the vast sea of grey that is reality.
Don’t Disregard the Core Truths Though
Treat women like sh*t. Don’t be vulnerable or reveal your emotional side. Seen-zone girls and keep their texts hanging. Cut her off if she refuses to spread her legs on the second date.
That’s pop-red-pill — a cesspool of toxic shit that fake alpha man-children spout on social media.
Core red pill heavily overlaps with religion, philosophy, spirituality, and ethics. Here are 4 such tenets:
- As a man, you have to build your value. Through all-around self-improvement, level up your confidence, looks, fitness, risk-taking ability, and finances.
- At all times, you need to maintain your masculine frame — staying calm and rational even under emotional pressure and stress.
- Masculine energy emanates from purpose — aligning your entire life with your mission.
- As a man, you’re a protector, provider, and procreator — all 3 come pre-packaged with responsibilities.
While these sound absolutist as well, they serve a different purpose.
“A man is one whose body has been trained to be the ready servant of his mind; whose passions are trained to be the servants of his will; who enjoys the beautiful, loves truth, hates wrong, loves to do good, and respects others as himself.”
–John Ruskin
They’re guidelines and ideals worth aspiring towards — derived from the countless epitomes of masculinity throughout history.
Marcus Aurelius. Jesus Christ. Theodore Roosevelt. Martin Luther King. Benjamin Franklin. Abraham Lincoln. Arnold Schwazarnegger. Dr. Jordan Peterson.
Actual men that put the women-hating boys to shame.
It’s a Subtle Dance of These Two Things
Red pill. Blue pill. Freaking purple pill.
Forget all these “pills”. It all burns down to two things:
- Respecting yourself, your time, and your priorities.
- Similarly, respecting your woman/women’s time, self, and priorities.
Throne yourself and treat your woman like an inferior serf? You’ll antagonize and hurt your woman.
Wilt over like a leaf for her?
She’ll push past your limits, devalue you, and continue disrespecting you.
So the challenge?
To establish your value and command respect WHILE making your woman feel loved and respected as well.
That, my friend, is a question no man on the planet can give a definitive answer to.
Anyone who claims to have a definitive answer is bullsh*tting you.
Finding your answer requires sincerity, humility, and a willingness to change your beliefs.
And the courage to set aside your ego.
Sweet-talking a girl into bed is kid’s play.
Building a genuine relationship is a man’s work.
Choose wisely.