5 Terribly Toxic Lies Male Dating “Coaches” Keep Feeding You
Treating women like sh*t isn’t alpha
Dan Bilzerian gave birth to an epidemic of fake alphas.
Cigar-puffing meatheads on rented yachts surrounded by Botox-lipped models—selling “How to get laid” programs to unsuspecting teens.
Thanks to these self-styled dating “coaches” infesting the internet:
Legions of deluded young men are growing up with toxic views of the opposite sex.
On one extreme are women-hating incels and on the other — servile simps shelling out $$$ for e-girl bath water.
My dear reader and brother, I don’t want you to fall into such blackholes.
So let me share 5 toxic lies perpetrated by these fake alpha vermin — and offer a healthier POV.
Don’t Be Vulnerable Or Expose Your Emotional Side
Cribbing about life like a senile old hag in a pool of self-pity isn’t masculine.
But this doesn’t mean becoming an unfeeling Stoic robot with a frozen face.
You can reveal your emotional side and not only maintain — but strengthen your masculine frame.
Were you bullied as a kid? Or abused by your dad? The devastation when you lost your mother at 8? How has that molded your life?
Suffering, embarrassment, and failure shape us way more than success and joy do.
So be honest and vulnerable — not to seek sympathy or emotionally manipulate, but to let the other person understand you at a core level.
Deep connection puts surface-level attraction to shame.
Treat Women Like Sh*t
The cliche “Nice guys finish last” is true — but not how you think.
What attracts the ladies is masculinity — of which self-respect, raw desire, and honesty are 3 crucial pillars.
“Nice” guys aren’t nice — they put on a facade of politeness to hide the ulterior motive of “getting into her pants”.
No better way to get a woman drier than the Sahara desert.
This doesn’t mean becoming a woman-hating asshole—again, in the secret hopes of slipping into her pants.
That’d be the other side of the same coin.
The solution, my friend, is to become a “benevolent beast”
Have self-respect. Be confident and assertive. Treat women with respectful kindness.
But don't hesitate a single whit to call out a woman’s bullsh*t or cut her off if she disrespects you.
Memorize Stupid Scripts, Pickup Lines, and Texting “Tactics”
If you’re a closet nerd, cold-approaching women will work wonders on your confidence.
But this can turn into neediness-fueled clownery — and a dangerous game of racking up your “notch count”.
The worst of the lot hang around shady nightclubs 24/7 and track their “lays” on excel sheets.
The “chad” YouTubers who collect numbers of college girls and sun-tanned beach ladies do it because:
- You, I, and a million others love such videos — creating a juicy flow of ad revenue.
- They can sell courses, organize “pickup” workshops, and offer 1-on-1 “coaching” — to moony-eyed teens and desperate men.
Mechanically enacting “scripts” and reciting pickup lines is a recipe for dating disaster.
Approach women. Be playful. Shoot genuine compliments. Tease. Ask them out. Amidst the simmering sexual tension, boldly escalate. Do goofy sh*t.
As long as it’s authentic, zero harm.
Shift your intention from “What’s the fastest way into her pants” to “Let me know her better and have a good time.”
Keep “Spinning Plates” and Never Commit to One Woman
Spinning plates or dating polygamously is great to experience feminine abundance—but it jades you.
You’re always looking for “the next girl” and a “better catch” — but this will never stop because there are billions of women in the world.
Only a few months of “spinning plates” and I’ve developed commitment issues.
Talking to guys far deeper in this trench sent chills up my spine — no matter how amazing the woman is, they get bored within the first few dates.
I’m all for exploring the dating space.
But after a point, set aside your ego and ask yourself, “What do I want deep down?”
Is it committing to a loving “girl-next-door”, staying single with the occasional casual sex, or an endless string of flings?
Whatever it is, own it.
Master “Game” — and Women Will Spread Their Legs for You
Brush her fingers 4.56 minutes into the date. Slide your hand over her thigh 12.5678 minutes later. “Cold-read” to guess the amount of arm-pit hair she has.
Even if you “get laid”, it’ll feel fake and mechanical — authentic attraction and connection flies out of the window.
Understanding women and inter-sexual dynamics is important — but working on yourself is way more crucial.
Scrolling through r/seduction. Watching “3 Signs She Secretly Likes You” videos. Mass-swiping on Tinder.
Not only is it a colossal waste of time and energy, but it also breeds neediness.
When you’re actually busy improving yourself, attractive behavior and cues will be natural side effects.
Not replying instantly like a thirsty crab. Showing up for dates with calm excitement. Not feeding random women with undeserved attention.
All of “game” burns down to putting on the facade of a high-value man. The simpler but harder alternative?
Actually becoming a high-level man.
It All Burns Down to One Thing
The stronger your masculine frame, the more you’ll draw women.
Nothing is more irresistible to women than a man who respects himself, is aware of who he is, and knows where he’s going.
Hit the weights. Cultivate authentic honesty. Meditate. When outside, be in social flow — greet pretty women and brick-laying oldies alike.
Develop solo hobbies. Read good books. Watch classic movies. Focus on your dressing and grooming. Learn a new skill. Visit the art museum.
Lead a life worth living — and women will be more than eager to get a slice of it.