All The Best Dating Advice For Men Burns Down to Only Two Crucial Things
Nail these and watch your romantic success soar to the skies
With social media and dating apps “globalizing” the love space, 21st-century dating has become a nightmarish hellscape.
The bar for male attractiveness has jumped on steroids — an OkCupid survey found that women find 80% of men ugly!
So this leaves a lion’s share of men desperate for intimacy — in any shape or form. The result?
- An epidemic of “simps” buying e-girl bathwater, pouring money into OnlyFans, and flooding Instagram with thirst comments.
- “Incel” and “Black-pill” communities that spread poisonous women-hate and insidious lies from their mom’s garages.
Capitalizing on this, the dating industry is a multi-billion dollar beast — but much of the popular advice offers “quick” fixes that only work in theory.
Or even worse — glorified “feel-good” lies that garner clicks and views.
I want to cut through all the B.S. and give you the only 2 brutal truths you’ll ever need. Why should you trust me?
- I’ve never been a “natural”—you know, the quintessential ladies-man leaking charm everywhere he goes.
- I learned things the hard way — through painful rejections, cold approaches, creep-outs, plowing through dating-related content, and multiple heartbreaks.
- Unlike the “gurus”, I have nothing to sell or gain—apart from the joy of imparting information my younger self would have killed for.
With no further ado, let’s dive in.
Overcome Your Disease of “Oneitis”
With over 3 billion females in the world, it seems common sense that there is no “The One”.
But society and pop media have perpetuated the idea of an elusive “soul-mate”. Portraying women as “prizes” men need to work hard for only worsens things.
Add the average guy’s love-starved desperation into the mix and you have “Oneitis”.
Oneitis signals neediness and low self-worth—which are two of the most unattractive traits out there. It sends the subconscious signal, “Why’s he so invested in me? Maybe he’s low-value and doesn’t have options.”
Love, at first sight, doesn’t exist. “I’ll never find anyone as good as her” is a myth. There’s no “There’s just something about her.” or “She’s the one”.
There’s only, “She’s attractive. I’ll ask her out and see how things go”. If she rejects you, it sucks, but you move on to the next.
If she’s flaky or unresponsive, you move the f*ck on. You call her out if she disrespects you — and again, you move on.
This doesn’t mean you treat the girl like sh*t — respect her, but not at the cost of your own self-respect.
You need to develop an abundance mindset — the knowledge that there are millions of options and you can always get someone else.
Ask out multiple women. Keep your options open at all times. Never ever fixate on one woman right away — irrespective of whether or not you’re seeing others.
Be a flamethrower as opposed to a sniper with your dating prospects.
Sadly, there’s no easy way to beat Oneitis and develop an abundance mindset.
I can expound it to the tiniest detail, but you need to get your heart broken at least a few times to internalize what I’m saying.
Throwing yourself into the deep end is the only way — start by asking out the hot coworker that’s been getting your heart racing.
At ALL Times, Control Your Masculine Frame
While an abundance mindset handles the macro-level of things, this is for the micro-ones — how you speak, the way you react, your emotional state, body language, and aura.
There are millions of tips online, but it all burns down to one thing — frame control.
Your frame is your reality. When you have a strong “frame” or deep conviction in yourself, the woman “enters” your frame. This needs a mindset shift:
Every time you ask out a woman, you need to believe that YOU are giving her a chance.
And not the other way round.
So a rejection means she lost the chance to experience you. You have nothing to lose — since you’ll always find another woman.
Blind delusion won’t help here. If you’re broke, live in your mom’s garage, and smoke weed all day → you won’t be able to believe that you’re high value.
High value comes from hard work. Build an amazing physique, have solid good habits, earn good money, lead an interesting life, and develop your social skills.
Frame control is what’ll allow you to be genuine, control your emotions, stick to your beliefs, and pass even the most brutal of “shit tests”.
The epitome of frame control is when even the sharpest of insults from the prettiest of women fail to faze you.
Final Thoughts
If you notice, both pieces of advice are simple — but hard.
They aren’t quick hacks you can “apply”, some magic “pick-up” lines you can spout, or things you can master in a day.
They are life and self changes that demand actual hard work and time.
You can fake it and “get laid”— that’s what the entire Pick-Up Artist (PUA) community is about.
But evolution has had millions of years to refine women’s senses. They will sniff it out — sooner or later. Also, what’s better?
- Focusing on yourself, working out, developing your skills, grooming yourself well, understanding women, and actually becoming a high-value man.
- Or using pre-made scripts, lies, and manipulation techniques to get some woman to shag you?