Don’t Judge a Man By His Selfie
If I could tell you just one thing — this is it.
No man is what you see from outside. No one is a complete success or a complete failure. All have their fair shares of good, bad, and ugly. That’s the one magic lesson I learned years ago.
It is obvious and has no exception. I can say that with full confidence.
In my previous job, I worked with different types of people. They came from different academic and social backgrounds. Some of them were senior officials, while the others were low in those positions.
And for the last three years, I had to deal with nearly a thousand clients from govt and private organizations, NGOs, INGOs, academics, and all. I talked to them, listened to their demands, told them what we offer, and came to a mutual understanding where both of us feel honored and satisfied.
From my experiences, I witnessed that each of them has a different temperament, a different negotiation style, a different sense of duty, and a different personality. Some were quite moody from outside, some of them were full of show-offs and unbearable as clients, and many were very understanding and easygoing.
But for some unknown reasons, I used to like the tough ones more. When I encountered a person tough to deal with, I would tell myself —
Don’t judge this person by his present behavior. Try to understand him as a whole. Try to find his soft spot. If you hit that spot, he will open up to you, leaving his fake mask aside.
Maybe the person who seems so rude in the first encounter is just experiencing a tough time in life. That’s why she is showing a roughness. It’s just a reflection of how her life is going on. Maybe a conjugal discomfort or her kid is sick. Or perhaps, she is having a terrible time in her job.
On the other hand, the man looking like an angel can prove to be a disloyal person the next day. Maybe he is faking his behavior only to get some extra benefits. Maybe his smile is just like a prop that he wears in a professional environment.
Because I have seen that the most hated man in office have a wonderful sight almost nobody knows. Again, the happiest face in the office has ugly habits that may destroy his reputation in no time.
With ample experiences over the years — I learned that I shouldn’t judge a man by his appearance.
Like selfies, their appearance can be polished, or they are just using a different filter for the time being. The actual person is more than what our eyes can see.
As I think like this, it takes me a lot of time to understand a person. I cannot disqualify a person seeing his instant rudeness. Likewise, I cannot take a person for granted who treats me well when I meet him.
I believe, you too take time to understand a person, don’t you?
Thank you for reading.
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