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rds</figcaption></figure><p id="c358">I think my relationship lasted because not only did I take the time to know him, I made sure I was not a liability to him.</p><h2 id="8562">Asset me, a smart guy would want to keep.</h2><p id="f787">Smart people hold on to their assets while improving them.</p><p id="16de">He is the opposite of me like night and day, black and white, the sun and the moon.</p><figure id="9adf"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*r81BP-s1YtETtfB9O0i2LA.jpeg"><figcaption></figcaption></figure><figure id="9bf0"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*zEhd6xuit1E5BkhbftMMvA.jpeg"><figcaption>Image by Annelise Lords</figcaption></figure><p id="884c">He gets on my darn nerves, but he has the most bbbeeeaaauuutttiiifffuuulll heart.</p><figure id="08ce"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*z_tIjcX2Q8A_INCw17mMsA.jpeg"><figcaption>Image by Annelise Lords</figcaption></figure><p id="cb08"><b>A smart girl wants a guy with a good heart and I find ways to improve it.</b></p><p id="5048">If I need him and he is in hell, Satan must wait. I know what makes him sad. I do what makes him happy. I know what makes him cry. I do what makes him laugh. I know what makes him angry. I do what is right for both of us. No matter what he does, I do the right thing for us and my marriage.</p><p id="41b2">There is no competition. The person who can do the best job, go for it. No ego here, it destroys a marriage. I understand him and why he does the things he does. Then we find ways to improve everything.</p><figure id="06d8"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*f2KiIGlLR8P__NcjZX3n7A.jpeg"><figcaption></figcaption></figure><figure id="dd9a"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*KVjz-v_XctACjWDOj0xjUw.jpeg"><figcaption>Image by Annelise Lords</figcaption></figure><p id="292c">Every thought and decision is made with him in mind. I allow him to be himself without fear, judgment, or criticism. I get back most of what I give. He has a lot to learn because we are from different worlds. The only thing we have in common is a horrible and cruel mother. We both had good fathers who were treated horribly by our mothers. Both left and got married to someone else.</p><p id="1139">We were ambitious and wanted success, that too we had in common.</p><p id="6a26">Life sometimes takes us on the wrong path to get what we need. Not what we want. It’s up to us to decide which is more important. Needs or wants.</p><p id="8e8b">I needed a guy with a good heart, I will work on the rest. Thirty-eight years later we are still learning from and about each other as we age and our likes, dislikes, health, attitude, and everything else changes.</p><p id="0dfc">We never allow our love to halt, no matter what, we do the right thing and always find our way back to the kindness we both give to each other and our world.</p><p id="21f3"><b>He has a kind heart. So do I. When two kind hearts meet and fall in love, nothing can stop love from flowing where it should.</b></p><p id="6f62">#DEP Relationship</p><h1 id="f73e">A SMART GIRL WANTS A GUY WITH A GOOD HEART!</h1><figure id="1c98"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*xqHam3sDayNFplfTHy9ZdQ.jpeg"><figcaption>Image by Annelise Lords</figcaption></figure><p id="b323"><a href="https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-joy-of-life-dr-gabriella-kor-si/1143844793">https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-joy-of-life-dr-gabriella-kor-si/114384479</a><

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DEP Relationship Column — A Smart Girl Wants A Guy With A Good Heart

At the right moment and time, life put me on his path for the third time. In Jamaica the number three symbolizes death.

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In response to Libby Shively McAvoy New Relationship Column

I met my husband after taking the wrong bus home from school at fourteen years old. I got lost in downtown Kingston. Someone gave me directions to where I could get the bus that would take me home. It was #55. I was instructed to go through the St. William Grant Park, which was a shortcut. The bus stop was on the left-hand side in front of the Cooke Methodist Church on East Queen Street. As I entered the park a very handsome young man took my hand. Instinctively, I drew my hand away looking at him.

We conversed for a few minutes, as I trembled in fear. I lied about coming to see him. I was fourteen years old. Jamaican men like to touch. I don’t like anyone touching me. Especially men.

I took the bus home which was about four or five stops away. I could have walked home. I lived up the road and didn’t know.

I lived in a sheltered world. School, church, and home. Nowhere else.

I saw him once more and sold him another story. He touched me again and that was a turn-off. He was still handsome.

At the right moment and time, life put me on his path for the third time. In Jamaica the number three signifies death.

Thirty-eight years later, with two girls and twin boys, we managed to make our love last and keep it growing.

I don’t have a secret to a happy marriage. There is no such thing. Some days we have to turn the heart below. . . . .

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Into this heart. No marriage is without difficulties and pain.

Happiness isn’t like water. It doesn’t keep flowing from the pipe. Something must turn that faucet on, test the temperature, and pay that darn water/happiness bill. Some days, the broken heart must mend.

Image by Annelise Lords

I think my relationship lasted because not only did I take the time to know him, I made sure I was not a liability to him.

Asset me, a smart guy would want to keep.

Smart people hold on to their assets while improving them.

He is the opposite of me like night and day, black and white, the sun and the moon.

Image by Annelise Lords

He gets on my darn nerves, but he has the most bbbeeeaaauuutttiiifffuuulll heart.

Image by Annelise Lords

A smart girl wants a guy with a good heart and I find ways to improve it.

If I need him and he is in hell, Satan must wait. I know what makes him sad. I do what makes him happy. I know what makes him cry. I do what makes him laugh. I know what makes him angry. I do what is right for both of us. No matter what he does, I do the right thing for us and my marriage.

There is no competition. The person who can do the best job, go for it. No ego here, it destroys a marriage. I understand him and why he does the things he does. Then we find ways to improve everything.

Image by Annelise Lords

Every thought and decision is made with him in mind. I allow him to be himself without fear, judgment, or criticism. I get back most of what I give. He has a lot to learn because we are from different worlds. The only thing we have in common is a horrible and cruel mother. We both had good fathers who were treated horribly by our mothers. Both left and got married to someone else.

We were ambitious and wanted success, that too we had in common.

Life sometimes takes us on the wrong path to get what we need. Not what we want. It’s up to us to decide which is more important. Needs or wants.

I needed a guy with a good heart, I will work on the rest. Thirty-eight years later we are still learning from and about each other as we age and our likes, dislikes, health, attitude, and everything else changes.

We never allow our love to halt, no matter what, we do the right thing and always find our way back to the kindness we both give to each other and our world.

He has a kind heart. So do I. When two kind hearts meet and fall in love, nothing can stop love from flowing where it should.

#DEP Relationship

A SMART GIRL WANTS A GUY WITH A GOOD HEART!

Image by Annelise Lords

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-joy-of-life-dr-gabriella-kor-si/114384479

Thank you for reading this piece. I hope you enjoy it and will savor more from some talented writers on this platform, whose links are below.

Feast on more from Dr. Gabriella Korosi

Savor more from DR Rawson — The Possibilist

Enjoy more from Marla Oveson

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