Deep Down, Do You Feel Lonely?

If you answered yes, then this article is for you. Because so do I… And so many other people, or so I think?

Truthfully, I am lonely. But nobody suspects it.

I have friends. But I’m lonely. I have family who love me. But I’m lonely. I socialise every day. But I’m lonely. My peers call me extroverted. But I’m lonely.

I feel hollow. I feel it in my soul —a soul that, when all by my lonesome, reeks of dullness, darkness, emptiness, and… loneliness.

It’s difficult for me to describe. And I figure it’s difficult for you to describe, too?

I still don’t understand my overwhelming feelings of deep-seated loneliness. And I’m not sure I ever will.

These Thoughts Consume Me

For some context, on multiple occasions, after a wholesome night out with my loved ones, whether it be with close friends or family… I enter my car.

I close the door.

And I cry.

I sob.

Not because I had a terrible night, or anything of the sort. But because I feel lonely.

It’s baffling.

Am I Not Being Honest With Myself?

I’ve always seen myself as a strong willed and independent young woman. I take pride in knowing that I do not need a man or partner to feel fulfilled.

But recently, I have pondered… maybe I’m lying to myself? Am I merely telling myself that I don’t need a partner to simply, make myself feel better?

Is not having a romantic partner, the reason why I feel overridden with loneliness?

Or do I have some other mysterious, underlying reason why I feel such intense feelings of loneliness?

And I feel terrible saying this, because it completely contradicts the sentiments in my first written article on why I believe (or believed?) being single in our 20s and 30s is a truly wonderful thing.

Or do I feel lonely because I am still pining and depressed over my one sided love situation? NOTE: Click on the link with caution. I still cringe at myself rereading this article.

I mean… it can’t just be me who sits in my car and cries about being lonely?

…Right?

RIGHT?

Your Thoughts?

I suppose my questions to you are these…

Have you ever felt truly alone? Have you ever experienced intense feelings of loneliness? Was there an underlying cause you weren’t aware of?

I sympathise. It’s a debilitating feeling, isn’t it?

For the meantime, I guess I will bask in these feelings of extreme loneliness, and unhealthily hope it solves itself.

…A bullet proof, well thought out strategy I’m sure.

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