Dear Girls, Be Practical! — No Prince Charming Is Waiting for You
Don’t construct a fake image in your mind
“Do you have any good things to share about your four years of married life?” I asked my younger sister.
She paused and then replied, “No, there are no good sides there.”
Four years ago, my younger sister got married to the man she loved, and they are still a lovely couple. At least, that’s what you will think when you see them together. They visit beautiful places, try new restaurants, and always take care of each other. Even a few months ago, my brother-in-law bought my sister the latest iPhone (well, it didn’t make her happy, though! She doesn’t like expensive gadgets).
But the problem is whenever my sister visits us, all she talks about is how much her husband changed over time. She said that her husband is not that person she got married to. In her opinion, he is not caring and, most of the time ignores my sister’s opinion or suggestion on any matter.
He is also addicted to his smartphone — he even takes it in the restroom and spends hours there. My sister is genuinely irritated with this. She told him many times but who cares!
Another thing is — in our culture, after marriage, girls live in their husband’s house with their parents (in most cases). And it creates a terrible adjustment problem for the newly married girls. Though my sister’s parents-in-law are comparatively better (than other typical parents), she finds difficulty adjusting there, even after these four years of living in the same apartment.
So, what my sister expected before getting married and what she got — according to her — is not what she wanted. And I can assume that it’s the case for many girls.
Now the big question is — have you ever thought about why this happens? Why does your expectation fail to meet the reality?
All the women I know think that they are the most beautiful or talented women in the world and, therefore, deserve the best.
When they stand in front of a mirror, they don’t see themselves as a typical girl. Instead, they think they are no less than a Hollywood celebrity. Bad luck is that they were born in the wrong family and, of course, in the wrong country.
As girls think very highly of themselves and boys while flirting, echo the same taking them over the moon, they start constructing a perfect future in their minds. They believe they will marry some Prince Charming and live happily ever after.
As nature does this to them or some hormones, boys treat girls as some fairies (though missing the wings). So they tell them sweet lies — one after another — only to take them to the bed or get them convinced for marriage.
Poor girls believe that everything their lovers say is true and, therefore, they build castles in the air and dream, dream, and dream.
They dream of having the life of a princess where they will be the center of everything. Everyone will praise their beauty and presence. In front of their charisma, all the world will fall into knees.
But the castles indeed get shaken and then meet the dust within a few years of marriage.
Life is no fairy tale, and here nothing lives happily ever after.
Girls get to realize this hard truth within a few years of their marriage. And they feel heartbroken. They think that they made a terrible mistake by getting married, and their then-lovers just fooled them with false dreams.
In reality, boys turn into men with responsibilities — and in most cases, they fail to establish a balance between work and family. They take their girls (wives) for granted.
As they have already got the girls they wanted — they move forwards for the next big things like money, wealth, and fame. They get busy with too much works that their wives start to feel disgusted about being married. They feel cheated.
That’s why rarely you’ll hear any woman say that her husband is an excellent man and she is extremely happy.
However, if you get a chance to overhear what women say about their private lives when they meet each other, you will understand how much unhappiness they carry inside about their husbands and married lives.
Why?
Because the image they were encouraged to create of a happy married life and the reality they are confronting every day has a few light-years distance.
I can be wrong but I think — the secret to a happy married life lies in this one word: compromise.
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