Summary

The author reflects on the painful experience of dating someone with narcissistic traits, the subsequent depression, and the impact of meeting a new person who shows interest in them.

Abstract

The author is dealing with the aftermath of a relationship with a person exhibiting narcissistic traits, which has led to a struggle with depression and dependency pain. The article serves as an update, highlighting the importance of understanding narcissism in relationships. Despite the pain, the author has found some solace after meeting a new girl who has shown interest in them, which has helped alleviate some of the depression. The author details a recent evening spent with this new person, which included live music, good conversation, and a promising connection that has provided a temporary respite from their emotional turmoil. However, the situation is complicated by the fact that the new interest has been dating a friend of the author, leading to a delicate navigation of boundaries and feelings.

Opinions

The author believes that awareness of narcissism in relationships is crucial, as it was not something they were aware of during their 4-year relationship.
They share the personal experience that meeting someone new who shows interest can significantly and quickly reduce feelings of depression and pain associated with a past relationship.
The author seeks advice on how to handle the complex situation of developing feelings for someone who is also involved with a friend.
They express that engaging in social activities and meeting new people can be therapeutic and help take one's mind off personal drama.
The author is cautiously optimistic about the future, acknowledging the positive effects of the new connection while remaining uncertain about what lies ahead.

Day 18: Depression And Dependence Pain

Getting over an X is easy when you meet another girl!

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Update, May 8, 2022: It’s come to my unfortunate attention that my X has many narcissistic traits. I encourage anyone that is going through a weird and painful relationship to please research narcissism.

No one told me about this and I was clueless. 4 years later I know about narcissism but am paying the very painful price for having dated one. Below are some links for you to learn from. Very helpful and informative.

Narcissist Questions/Answers. / Narcissist Video Help

Note: Waking up in bed in the morning is conducive for negative and depressing thoughts. Some that are terrible and barely make sense.

Finished playing music with my X last night and we have our last live show tomorrow night.

3 hours!

3 hours of being ignored and no love, it hurts!

But, I’ve, surprisingly, met a girl who is interested in me.

We met 2 weeks ago and she talked a lot and gave me many compliments.

Last night we talked and she was being flirty and I even got a kiss on the cheek when I wasn’t looking.

Unfortunately, she has been dating a friend of mine.

Anyone have any advice for something like that, please comment below!

But, it sure makes a sad guy feel a lot better, real quick!

I’ve been trying to work on my view of myself, being alone, and understanding what happened in this 4 year relationship.

Again, meeting a girl who likes you takes away a lot of the depression and pain, and quick!

She asked me to go see some live music tonite and I said ok.

All the while walking the thin line of friend and…….who knows?

Wondering how you navigate these rough waters with my friend in the wake?

We had a good dinner, listened to music, and talked a lot.

It was a good night and just what I needed to get my mind off of my drama.

Just what I needed to feel better and meet a nice woman.

We walked to the parking lot and hugged each other goodbye.

Then drove off in separate directions to our homes.

I can’t help but ask myself, what will tomorrow bring?

peace,

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