Can’t Orgasm from Penetration Alone? Try This Method

Modify your missionary with the Coital Alignment Technique

Most women have never had an orgasm from penetration alone. Still, a lot of them fantasize about it.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a clitoral orgasm, but there’s just something about getting fucked that feels really good.

The deep pleasure that comes with penetration can be so intense, it can feel incredibly intimate, and there’s something so primal about it.

Coming from it is even better. It’s the cherry on top of the well-fucked sundae.

And a few years ago, I discovered how to achieve it even if you can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation.

It happened entirely by accident.

I had a lovely date night with my husband — which at the time meant putting the kids to bed early so we could watch Shameless, eat takeout, and have a couple of drinks.

If I’m being honest, I wasn’t expecting that much out of the sex we were going to have that night.

We were in a rut at the time. Our sex life had gone from being routine to being entirely predictable.

Plus, Mr. Austin was quasi-drunk, which meant he would be a bit sloppy and clumsy.

But I was feeling receptive and lovey-dovey. And sometimes a predictable fuck is better than none. So, we got frisky.

And it absolutely shocked me.

Not only was the sex fucking amazing, but it was amazing in a way it had never been before.

When Mr. Austin got on top and slid his cock into my pussy, I gasped louder than I normally do.

Every thrust felt was surprisingly intense and they built up to an orgasm that was so powerful I couldn’t describe it as anything other than mind-blowing.

It left me completely spent, deeply satisfied — and thoroughly confused.

That night became seared in my memory, but I couldn’t understand what actually happened.

And because of that, I couldn’t recreate it. It was a total and complete fluke. I would still come when I got fucked, but never quite like that.

It took me years before I could figure it out. On that night, in our hazy, drunken fumbling, we accidentally used the Coital Alignment Technique.

Get More Out of Missionary

The Coital Alignment Technique is a sex position that is meant to make you come from penetration alone, even if you normally can’t.

It’s a variant of the missionary position, with the penetrating partner on top.

The only difference is that they basically scootch up a bit. Instead of coming in at the angle that feels most natural, they’ll be positioning themselves a little higher so their cock thrusts downward.

It can be tricky to get the angle right. Whenever I try it, there’s a lot of slipping out at first. But once you get it right, the shaft of your partner’s cock rubs against your clit while they’re fucking you.

It’s basically a combination of good old fashioned penetration and a fantastic pussyjob.

If that’s not worth putting in a little effort to achieve, I don’t know what is.

Because you’re getting clit stimulation and penetration at the same time, you’ll get a blended orgasm when you come.

It’s like the orgasms you get from being fingered and eaten out at the same time — except it’s all cock.

The penetration won’t be as deep as it normally is in missionary. It might take a bit to get a satisfactory rhythm going. But the payout is so fucking good that you won’t regret it for one second.

Other Ways to Get Yours

There are other good ways to come from penetration if you normally can’t.

The most obvious one is to stimulate your clit while getting fucked.

You can rub it yourself or, better yet, get your partner to do it while they’re pounding into you.

Using vibrators during sex is another good way to do it. It can be a little logistically challenging at times, but it’s worth the effort.

You could make sure you come before the penetrative play begins or after it ends, but in most cases it won’t be as good.

I’m not scoffing at clitoral orgasms, not at all. It’s just that blended orgasms are so fucking pleasurable. It’s not like a regular clitoral orgasm while the penetration is going on — they’re in a class of their own.

Another option is to get a good couples sex toy.

I tried vibrating cockrings early in my relationship with Mr. Austin and they were total duds. I found them so disappointing that I gave up on them for years.

But I shouldn’t have, because finding a couples toy that hits your sweet spots can make be incredibly fun.

You can experiment and find one that works for you. My personal favorites are the Tryst and the OptiMALE Vibrating C-Ring.

Those are all great options and I use them regularly. But the coital alignment technique still has its place.

It’s not the only way to get blended orgasms, but it’s the only way to get them from cock action alone. And sometimes, that’s exactly what you want.

Make Penetration Even Better

The missionary position is the bomb.

I know it has a reputation for being boring, but it’s just not. It feels really fucking good, it gives your partner lots of control over the the way they’re fucking you, and it’s a great way to get really deep penetration.

But I’m also a big believer in making sure that you come and come as many times as you want — no matter what it takes.

That might mean getting lots of fingering and pussy eating.

It could mean rubbing your clit or incorporating toys while you’re fucking.

Sometimes it will mean modifying the missionary position so your partner’s cock is coming in at the perfect angle.

And hopefully you won’t have to get all drunk and clumsy to achieve it.

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