Avoid the Mini Death — Learn These 16 Powerful Non-ejaculation Techniques

Make premature ejaculation a thing of the past

I experienced a mini death after every time I ejaculated.

Mini death, (or La petite mort) is the name of the experience that you have after ejaculation. After ejaculating, there is a sleepy mist that descends over your body. This is due to a complete depletion of energy from a loss of semen.

The problem is your partner is ready for round 2. Or she is left feeling frustrated because round 1 hasn’t reached its climax yet.

Premature ejaculation is a major problem. You may find that if not dealt with bleeds into other areas of your relationship.

Use these 16 techniques to incorporate into your non-ejaculation practice to radically change your sex life.

Some practices can be used to stop you from ejaculating quickly. While others help to support your non-ejaculation practice.

Depending on the method, some can be used during sex or masturbation.

Stopping

Stopping is otherwise known as the stop-start technique. You cease the physical movement of what you are doing. This is either when self-pleasuring (masturbating) or during sex.

This technique aims to stop to allow your arousal level to decrease so you don’t ejaculate.

If you are self-pleasuring, remove your hand, even if momentarily, and allow your sexual arousal level to decrease.

During sex, you simply stop. You can either stay inside her, or you can withdraw completely.

Communicating that you will bring this technique to your lovemaking and how it will benefit you both before engaging in sex will remove any potential awkwardness.

Breathing

Working with the breath is an essential component of your semen retention practice.

You can breathe either voluntary or involuntary. This means you breath can breathe without having to think about it. But you can put the effort forward to change your breath.

You can purposely affect your rate of breathing and depth. You can slow your breath down, as the more aroused you are the fast your breath can go. Also, breathing can become shallower the more aroused you are. Therefore, you can direct the breath to become deeper.

The focus of the following 3 exercises is to decrease your arousal level.

Try these exercises on your own while not engaged in sexual activity to get used to it. This allows a sense of familiarity to use when required during those hotter moments.

Belly breathing

1. Be sitting in a comfortable chair with your back straight. With your feet flat on the floor, shoulder-width apart.
2. Put a hand on your navel.
3. Inhale through your nose and direct the breath to below the navel. You will feel your hand move forward your abdomen expands.
4. Exhale through your nose. As the abdomen contracts, your hand will follow.
5. Repeat steps 3 and 4 ten to twenty times.

Century Count

You can experiment using this technique both during sex and self-pleasuring.

You will be counting your breaths from 1 to 100.

This is to be used in conjunction with belly breathing.

If you lose concentration, then start back at 1.

If you do this during sex, it can lead to a disconnect with your partner. This is a beginner’s technique that will greatly support your practice until you can manage your arousal level with more subtle means.

1. Slowly inhale, directing the breath to the lower abdomen then exhale.
2. Count your breaths from 1 to 100.
3. One inhalation and exhalation are considered one complete breath.
4. Count on the exhalation.
5. Start the count on the exhalation. For example, breathe in and exhale, mentally say to your 1. Inhale and exhale and say mentally 2, and so on.
6. If you lose count, go back to the number 1.
7. Practice this once a day for 30 days, until you can do 5 days in a row without losing your count.

Suspension of Breath

When your sexual energy level is too high, hold your breath.

You can breathe in and hold your breath. Of exhale and hold. I prefer the latter.

I have experimented with inhaling then holding my breath however, when having sex, the women noticed what I was doing, and it interrupted the lovemaking.

Also when you exhale, it has a quicker impact on decreasing your arousal level.

Working with the PC muscles

The pubococcygeus (PC) muscles stretch from your pubic bone to the coccyx (tail bone). They are the group of muscles around the prostrate and anus. Supporting the pelvic organs. Otherwise known as the pelvic floor muscles.

They are the muscles that would you use to regulate the flow of urine. When you contract this group of muscles you stop the urine flowing.

If you contract these muscles before getting to the point of no return this can inhibit the flow of seamen.

The other name for exercising these muscles is Kegel exercises.

PC Pull-ups

1. Inhale and focus on your prostate, perineum, and anus muscles.
2. Exhale and contract your PC muscle around your prostate and your anus.
3. Inhale and relax, releasing your pc muscles.
4. Repeat steps 2 and 3, contracting your muscles as you exhale and releasing them as you inhale, nine to thirty-six times.

This can be practiced at any time.

Stopping the stream

1. When you are about start urinating, come stand on the balls of your feet. If necessary, you can use the wall for support.

3. When you exhale, forcefully push out the urine while pulling up on your

perineum and clenching your teeth.

4. Inhale and contract your pc muscle to stop the flow of urine midstream.

5. Exhale and start urinating again.

6. Repeat steps 4 and 5 four to seven times or until you have finish

urinating.

Squeezing the penis

I don’t recommend the technique of squeezing the penis. But have included it so you are aware of it. And if you feel the need experiment with it for yourself.

The technique involves placing pressure on the underside of the penis when you are about to ejaculate to stop the semen.

The areas that are recommended are:

• Placing your thumb over the eye of the penis.
• Squeezing the head of the penis.
• Placing pressure on the underside of the penis either immediately below the head of the penis, slightly above the scrotum, or at the midpoint along the shaft.

Scrotal tugging

With one hand, hold the top of your erect penis. With the other hand, use the index finger and thumb to clasp around the scrotum immediately above your testicles.

Holding the penis straight, pull down firmly on the scrotum.

Pressing the Million-dollar

This is straight out of the Taoist textbook. The million-dollar point is a very specific point that is immediately in front of the anus.

Press on this point with one or two fingertips. Pushing this spot inhibits the ejaculation reflex. The penis needs to be fully erect for the most effective results.

Physical exercise

The following are whole-body physical exercises I found helpful when the arousal level was high:

• Push-ups
• A brisk walk
• Go for a run
• A cold shower

The physical activity needs by marked by intensity.

Change your thoughts

When sexual thoughts arise shift your mind to have alternative thoughts. Alternatively, focus on the breath.

If you allow the sexual thoughts to continue, the sexual emotion connected with the thoughts will intensify. By disconnecting the sexual arousal level will decrease with thinking about something else.

This technique starts with the intention I will think about something different. Then switch to thinking about something else.

Direct thoughts to relax around the groin

This simple technique is a more advanced method as it’s more subtle (yet very simple.)

Bring your awareness to the groin. Tell yourself to relax the physical muscles. Upon doing this you will find the sexual energy will immediately dissipate.

This is a very gentle and soft technique. That I use regularly and will great success.

Yoga asana

While these techniques are extremely effective, if you haven’t practiced yoga before, they may be a little tricky.

Uddiyana bandha

I have done this during both sex and self-pleasuring, although it’s very difficult during sex.

The method is as follows:

1. Stand with the feet shoulder-width apart.
2. Bend forward and hands on the bottom of your thighs, immediately above your knees. So you are hunched over.
3. Expel all the air in your lungs.
4. Draw the navel to the spine.
5. Hold your breath.
6. To release, release the navel grip and slowly inhale.
7. Repeat steps 3 to 6.

Inverted yoga postures

I have found doing a handstand, up against a wall and a headstand effective means to move the sexual energy. These would need to be learned from a qualified yoga teacher.

Empty your bladder

Urinating before any sexual activity assists to control your ejaculation. This is because the bladder when full can put pressure on your prostate. Making you feel like you need to ejaculate.

There are a lot of techniques to remember and practice. However similar to when you first learned to drive a car, all the various things over time will become automatic.

Concluding thoughts

Keeping your sexual energy inside goes a long way to being a masculine man. With consistent practice, you can be rid of the shame of being a premature ejaculator. To that of a supreme lover. You will deepen the intimacy in your relationship forever.

Let me know what methods you have used and how successful they were in the comments section below.

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