Are You a Friend Of Yourself?
No, you are not.
How many Facebook friends you have? How many contacts are there in your Whatsapp?
I remember when I completed my school life, I boasted to some of my friends “ You know I have 500 friends on FB”. I felt like a pretty cool dude.
More friends. More fun. More pictures. More memories.
And, why not. We used to meet every day. Share things — food, experiences, projects, notes, and whatnot.
After school, I was expecting a life of commas — Meeting sometimes, always connecting online, calling frequently. But it ends like a full stop.
And what happens when a line ends with a full stop, you have to let it go and find a new path to start afresh.
This path might be tough as you start from zero, but it’s your own. You will learn a lot about yourself.
Adulthood —the Lost Path
“Manas you are growing old, think about your career, and have some maturity. You are not a kid anymore” — My Mom.
These were exactly the words that broke my heart. These lines reminded me of my friends. How the approaching adulthood has eaten the ins and outs out of us.
Adulthood is evil. We get so busy finding our place in this world, we often forget to interact with our close ones.
The hunger for money surpasses relations
The friends who used to step on our doors for no reason, today don’t pick up the call for a reason.
Friends are not enough
“Friends are an oasis in a stretchy and lonely desert. They keep you alive when everyone fails. But, that doesn’t mean you won’t carry your own water bottle.”
In simpler words, don’t get too dependent on your loved ones to solve your life miseries.
Your friends are of no worth if you cannot understand the potential and energy of your own. Sooner or later, you have to put up a fight on your own.
The Illusion
Problems knock on everyone’s life doors. For mine, it didn’t knock — it smashed me through the door.
Suddenly and surprisingly I was swimming in a pool of problems. I stretched my hand for help towards my friends.
Shocked.
I can’t believe they didn’t help me. Are they even my friends? I have been betrayed. That was so painful and rough. For a couple of months, I totally got disconnected from everyone. The situation got deteriorated with the onset of lockdown and people dying because of a virus.
That was the darkest phase of my life.
Climax — I was totally wrong. My friends were right.
Reality
Friends not helping you doesn't mean they betrayed you. As we grow up responsibilities and work sometimes overshadow other relations.
It’s a tournament of the rat race.
Be your own best friend. Don’t depend on anyone( family or friends) to make your life simpler. Their love will always be with you but, responsibilities and work will not let them oversee you. You have to make sure you eat well. You manage your emotions well. Defeat the problems in your life. You should be a one-man army.
If they come and help you, that’s brilliant. Take their help but, also prepare yourself. Be calm and composed when things go wrong. Wrong decisions are often made when you are out of your emotions.
When Things go wrong, you should be the first person to come into your mind to resolve the situation.
Self-love is underrated. We waste our best form on someone who doesn’t deserve it. Don’t do it again. Nourish yourself with the same love.
Life will get difficult and worse in some scenarios. Tighten yourself up.
Think about yourself. Always. You are your own best friend. No one can take your place. We might have 400–500 online friends but, we have only ourselves to deal with every BS in life.
takeaway
Do you know yourself? Most probably I know the answer.
No.
Ok, now some of you might say — Yes I know.
Do you know every little thing about yourself? Not a single man down here know everything about himself. We have little to no self-awareness.
Problems will occur in every phase of life. They are inevitable, and when you are out facing tough competition in life, problems will multiply themselves.
How you react to those will make a difference in your life. You are solely responsible for whatever happens in your life. Here you can’t blame your friends or anyone for giving you poor advice. Take control in your hand.
Don’t expect the help to arrive. Be your own fighter.
Thank you for reading! Have a nice day.
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