Adultery Academy
Lesson Eight — Create No Suspicion
Changing slowly is adultery’s Prime Directive
Stick to your routine and don’t suddenly “change” anything.
Sudden changes are alarm bells.
Your partner knows you and your habits. Believe me. They know every single one.
Women might be slightly better off than men in this department, though, because we’re always trying new things — styles, fashions, activities — that’s what we do.
Men, however, tend not to change anything, including their underwear without a push, so be aware of that.
Women
For women, men will notice the loss of your time and attention. They get lonely and needier, so you’ll need to remain attentive and generous with your time.
This includes sex.
Women tend to focus on one sexual partner over another (except me), but this is the most significant area of risk where your attention is concerned. If you stop fucking him, he’s going to notice, so — keep fucking. If you do that, he probably won’t see anything else.
Men
For men, you’re going to be in some trouble if you make some significant changes. If you are a t-shirt and jeans guy with twenty extra pounds, she’s going to notice the dress shirt/pant combo and narrowing waistline — immediately.
Warm her up to it by doing a little at a time.
Tell her you’re tired of your style and ask her if she has preferences. Make her part of it, and she’ll dress you like her fantasy fuck. Let her take part. Or, tell her you’re getting healthy for the “both of you.” Which is partly true.
Changes in Sexual Habits
Where women may slow down sexually to focus on their AP, men tend to pick up their tempo once they’ve got a side chick. Exercise caution here, and don’t go overboard. As sexy as it is to fuck two women on the same night, if you turn your one-time-a-month sexy time routine into five times-a-week, she’ll begin to wonder what’s going on.
What You Change
So when we’re talking about change, it includes everything:
- Your Body. Don’t diet drastically. Don’t go to the gym obsessively if you haven’t before. Don’t manscape or do a “Brazilian” when you’ve always been au naturale.
- Your Excursions and Schedules. Don’t find a “new and interesting” group of friends. If you need alibi’s, start early and ease into it. Gradual change is much more palatable.
- Your Mannerisms and Tastes. Don’t be happier. I know. You are. Sadly, you have to pretend to be your usual miserable self. The fabulous fucking on the sly is addling your brain, but you need to hide it. Don’t bring home the wine she introduced you to if you’re a beer drinker. Don’t start quoting interesting art flicks when you’ve been a sitcom watcher.
Adultery is all about mitigating suspicion and reducing risk. Stay within the normal parameters of your life and slowly make adjustments.
Don’t make the stupid mistakes baby adulterers make.
Thing more about change here —
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Back to Lesson Seven —Making Your First Sex Date Memorable for the Right Reasons.
To Lesson Nine — Lies, Lying and Liars.
© Monalisa Smiled and Teresa J. Conway, 2020





