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The website content provides guidance on navigating the complexities of an affair, emphasizing the importance of making the first sexual encounter memorable and safe, while maintaining discretion and personal integrity.

Abstract

The article, titled "Lesson Seven — Making Your First Sex Date Memorable for the Right Reasons," is part of the "ADULTERY ACADEMY" series on the website. It addresses individuals planning their first extramarital sexual encounter, offering advice on preparation, safety, and emotional wellbeing. The author stresses that while the excitement of a first sex date is unique, it requires careful consideration to ensure it is enjoyable and safe. This includes setting boundaries, discussing important topics like allergies, and establishing rules to protect one's physical, mental, and emotional health. The article also references previous lessons and provides links to more detailed guides and personal anecdotes to illustrate points. It concludes with promotional content, inviting readers to subscribe to Medium, join an email list for a free ebook, and offering a dating profile review service.

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The author suggests that sex should be the easiest part of an affair, implying that the emotional and logistical aspects are more challenging.
The article conveys that the person you meet for an affair does not need to be 'The One' but should fit within your 'fuckability parameters.'
There is an emphasis on the excitement and novelty of a first sex date, comparing it to losing one's 'second virginity.'
The author advises on the importance of planning and communication to avoid misunderstandings and ensure both parties' safety and comfort.
The text implies that cheating can be done with moral integrity by setting clear boundaries and rules.
The author provides a list of considerations to think about before a sexual playdate, suggesting that forethought can enhance the experience and reduce risks.
Personal stories and experiences are shared to provide real-world context and relatability to the advice given.
The article promotes the idea that readers can learn from the author's experiences and benefit from additional resources offered through the website and affiliated links.

ADULTERY ACADEMY

Lesson Seven — Making Your First Sex Date Memorable for the Right Reasons

Sex should always be the easiest part of the affair.

Is This Really Happening?

Autopilot got me back to my room. I set everything out but still couldn’t believe what I was doing. Me! The good mommy volunteer with clubs and the PTA. I was going to get LAID.

I hadn’t had sex in a decade and not been with anyone other than hub in 25 years. Yet here I was laying out snacks for a man I was going to fuck in twenty minutes! I’d been wet all day and couldn’t concentrate; I still couldn’t. Thank god, no one at work noticed.

The One Right Now

You’ve met, and he’s who he was online. Remember, you’re not picking a life partner, so they don’t have to be The One; they just have to be The One who fits inside your fuckability parameters.

And you didn’t fuck him in the parking lot after your first meet like you wanted to, because:

it was daytime,
you were parked by the restaurant’s front door,
and there were a ton of people around.

Because you read Lesson Six.

The Sex Meet

You’ve set the date, you’re nervous AF, and it’s all you can think about.

As your adulterous life goes on, you’ll still get excited by first sex dates — but they will never be as “off the hook” exciting as the first one.

Second Virginity

I don’t remember what we talked about, other than his shellfish allergy. For god sakes, this was a playdate; I scolded myself. I was a soccer mom! Why didn’t I ask about allergies?

He was fingering me two minutes after the shrimp was in the fridge. I was naked not long after that. He laid me back on the couch; still fully dressed, he knelt down and devoured me.

Losing your second virginity is what cheaters call busting your adultery cherry. For me, it was one of the hottest experiences of my life.

Because the forbidden fruit is always the sweetest.

The Catch

As exciting as it sounds, there’s a catch. There’s always a catch.

It’s a playdate? Yes, it’s a playdate.

As an adult, you realize you need a plan and take steps to have a good time. Whether it’s a playdate with a new kid or arranging a dinner out, there are things you have to do or plan.

Cheating is no different than any other playdate, and just like allergies, there are a shit ton of things you need to think about, but they are mostly related to how the sex will go down, for your own safety.

Not only physical safety but also your mental wellbeing and emotional security too.

While cheating is an immoral act, that doesn’t mean you have to abandon your moral integrity. There are still rules you need to establish, from the mundane to the critical.

If the hotel he wants to go to is next door to your mother-in-law’s place, you have to tell him you won’t go there.
Or, that you’re not a backdoor girl. You have to put it out there up front, so he knows there’s no consent, or implied consent, before your magnificent ass is at cock level and splayed out before him — and he gets an idea.

That’s not the time for that convo unless you make it the time because you didn’t say something.

Things to Think About Before Your Sex Playdate!

The best way to prevent these sorts of things is to consider them in advance, so here some ideas to get you going:

Some will apply to your AP, some to both of you, and some to neither.

The last thing you want to have happen is diabetic shock ruining your fun.

The bullets above are covered in detail here —

How to Cheat — 25 Ground Rules to Think About Before Jumping into Bed with an Affair Partner

If you want to keep your primary relationship.

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Here’s how my very first sex date went,

Adultery & Losing My Second Virginity

My first naked playdate.

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Here’s one of Monalisa’s dates to whet your lusty appetites,

Ravenous-Part One

Hotel Meets With My Lover

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Back to Lesson Six — The First Meet.

To Lesson Eight — Create No Suspicion.

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