Summary

A combat veteran reflects on the complexities of male-female friendships, emphasizing the potential for underlying attraction and the importance of understanding the dynamics of such relationships.

Abstract

In "A Combat Veteran’s Letter to Female Friends, Part 4," the author revisits the topic of male friends who do not show overt romantic interest, suggesting that such men might already be in fulfilling relationships or have personal histories that preclude them from pursuing more. He delves into the psychology behind male-female friendships, cautioning that shared experiences, especially in high-stress environments, can lead to deep emotional connections that may threaten existing relationships. The author advises women to be cautious in these friendships and suggests that men who are truly just friends are rare. He also offers a tongue-in-cheek assessment service for women to evaluate their male friends, while acknowledging the neurological basis for attraction that makes true platonic friendships challenging.

Opinions

The author initially dismissed the possibility of male friends but now acknowledges that some men may genuinely not be interested romantically.
He believes that a man already in a relationship with a "GREAT woman" is the most likely scenario for a platonic male-female friendship.
The author points out that shared intense experiences, like combat, can create strong bonds that might lead to emotional affairs.
He warns against allowing division to erode relationships, advising both men and women to be cautious in their friendships.
The author humorously offers to rate men on a friendship scale, with a note that men who refuse assessment are likely not worth befriending.
He admits that he himself might not be able to maintain a friendship with a woman if it conflicts with his own romantic interests.
The author suggests that women should consider whether they need a friend who might one day express romantic interest, potentially complicating the friendship.
He reiterates that attraction is a natural reaction for men, making genuine platonic relationships difficult.

A Combat Veteran’s Letter to Female Friends, Part 4

One more Guy-Friend Possibility

PART 4

I might have been a little quick to brush off guy friends in my first Combat Veteran Letter to Female Friends. I totally forgot about men who you go to school with, work, or whatever with who do not seem head over heels for you. He must be a good friend then, so let me get into the truth and the psychology of this fact so you women can feel at ease.

Let’s Brainstorm

So we know a few things:

He doesn’t seem interested
And… that’s it

If he does not react to you, there could be:

a chemical imbalance
a thick past
scared of school
has a GREAT woman already

*Ding-Ding! Only one of those has the most potential to not sleep with you anyways. That is

Already has a GREAT woman that he will not risk to lose… maybe… that is.

Runner Up:

Has a thick past and doesn’t care about you

Problem

Houston, we have a problem. The problem is tenure. As I stated in my last article, Relationship is Neurological Equality,

Men begin by attraction. Love for the woman behind the face and body comes with time.

As we see in the military when a man and woman has been in combat together, the connection is greater than their marriage connections. Events create love in a man’s brain. And when enough times go by, 10 years of working together in a sh*t job, you will share emotional battles. Battles creates adultery. Division (another of my future articles), kills everything built.

DO NOT GIVE DIVSION AN F-ING INCH

Men: Close your eyes and run — just as the Bible says to do

Women: Be friends with women and pretend men do not exist

If you are not married yet, good luck in your endeavors. Reach out to me if you want me to assess him and give him a man-rating on a scale of 1–10. Quick note: men who say “no” are more than likely 100% 1-star. Special Forces, at least at an 8 say, “Let’s freaking do it, Mr. Lyon, get out your God*amn pen. While you do that, I have a date to plan”.

CONCLUSION

Women, do you need a friend that much, that you would friend someone who can’t be an actual friend or will one day make a move and you will stop him and say “Woah, no, no, no”? As I said, the more life has graced you and more you worked on yourself, EVERY MAN’S BRAIN REACTS TO YOU.

I am not your friend. I can TRY, yes, but it might not work. And I might have to ghost you when I find a woman myself, no hard feelings, I just don’t have time… or if I do, then you are a conflict of interest ha-ha!! I never was friend I guess. Gotcha! You were in the pile, “Eehhhh, I’ll give it a little bit of time, she’s a 6.5/10, I think I can find 7 or greater, so let’s keep her in the friend area”.

To read the initial article:

A Combat Veteran’s Letter to Female Friends: The Reasons I’m Friends with You, part 1, 2, & 3

Transparency beyond expectation: inside information

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That article has all 50-clap reviews, let’s keep it that way.