Relationship is Neurological Equality

Detailing the psychology of what relationship looks like

I know the last article read “Relationship Frustrations” was next on the drawing board. I feel this should be slipped in, in-between, due to this leading Why relationship frustrations exist.

As we stated:

Men love by action, not by feeling, because what they feel is attraction first off. Especially if you are beautiful (you can’t control it). He loves by leading in sacrifice. It is after his undying selflessness does he fall in love with the woman behind the face and body. When I say “fall in love” I mean like Medieval kings — cutting up men who have the slightest intent to divide you two.
Women love by feeling. To open those feelings of love takes a laundry list of items that build her trust and structure attraction to his life. Women have SO many sensors. Treat them right. (If she doesn’t choose you, be happy, you made a wise decision to walk away clean).

Distractions

Women have been distracted by materialistic things that are tied into monetary success and life importance — which turned out, the men were sh*t in its rawest form, now she is left with trust issues and maybe never the ability to be a wife again (I know it’s not kind to say, especially in this publication, but I have no mercy on planet earth for men who steal women from their natural order and totally screw them up from having a lovely life. If God would open the earth up and swallow that man or those men, I would become a monk).

Men have been distracted by just the attraction and tried to woo the woman, but not had a desire to sacrifice for her — resulting in him moving on (which is why the men still hang around after the fact. To try to “get some” without her bringing up anything, like child responsibility).

Talking to Others

For both men and women, when you talk to more than one guy or woman you see the greatness-differences. It is those differences that pull you differently in different seasons. It’s like a woman talking to a Navy SEAL, a surfer, a mountain climber, and an investor. It is the athlete versus the beach living, versus camping in awesome places, verses having the greatest retirement. To add more complication, if she has kids and an ex. That creates even more comparisons and questions like “can you do _____?” as if their ex was some role model. What a joke. Anyways, someone with a disability has no chance, even after you have divorced all four of those men. At that point you are probably done. And that man who really wants to legitimately love you, dies alone.

Instead, find the one with the greatest spiritual connection. Then you both will gear towards adhering to the love languages of the other. You both will experiment in all aspects of life. You will set the other up for continuous layups. The anchor you are fixed to, is truth, something that never changes, something that is absolute.

You will NOT need to tell the other many things you have told others in the past. You will not need to ask for respect.

The Greatest Relationship

Someone that you have a spiritual fixation to and one that loves PSYCHOLOGY.

There is nothing better. If you need something to make you feel good, this person will move mountains to make it happen — even a foot massage after they just hiked 30,000 feet. WITHOUT NEEDING TO BE PROMPTED! They will love to learn all about you. All the stupid things you do, they will think is cute. Allow them to think that — apparently you don’t love them back?

The KEY

The key is: BURN YOUR GODD*AMN SHIPS, BRIDGES, PLAN B’S, AND DRAWBRIDGES. YOU MARRY FOR LIFE.

When the other person knows that they can turn around and you are staring at them and you are fixated, they feel FREE! When they feel free, they stay. But, if you cannot be trusted, that means you DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. And you have not made any decision yet. You are a little girl or you are a little boy who is still comparing all your little friends.

Love. Find your love and you will never want to leave.

IF, IIIIIIFFFFFFFFFFF, the jackapple you are talking to does not have that kind of love, keep your legs shut and move on! Stop messaging! Moving on means blocking them until you have better judgment — like an adult level judgment. Moving on also means DON’T ENAGE IN ANYTHING, no messages, no social media, stop it! (mostly talking to women here).

This is not hard stuff. The hard stuff is staying together by continuously pushing into the other for a lifetime. Don’t break trust. AND trust is tied with sex, for women; so women, no sex until marriage. I don’t care if the jackapple promises you he’s Jesus Christ. No sex until he can prove two things: 1) Living commitment when you are not around or if you are in a coma. 2) 100% selfless; a leader in all respects. A leader in love. A leader in respect. A leader in communication (YES, HE MUST LEAD COMMUNICATION). He MUST understand that if you want his food, HE F-ING ALREADY KNEW 5 YEARS AGO THAT IS NOT A CONVERSATION — Jesus Christ women, find a selfless man. Every happy woman right now is following a selfless leader who is anchored to God — the only thing in existence that remains constant.

God is the only true anchor

How do you know he’s anchored to God? EASY:

Can he lead you in prayer?
Can he pray for strangers?
Does he know who The Helper is?
Can he be right, but give in, and still have a good day?
Does he have scars from victory, not mere survival? (yes, you want a man with scars)
Can he rescue you from a legitimate house fire knowing he will die in it? Is the issue settled, that he will jump on the grenade? This also means not messing around with you when you not in “the mood” (HOWEVER, you must freaking communicate your feelings with grace and ownership, women, until he learns your swings — might take years). If sex is not fun for you, then more than likely your communication with him sucks, because he did not read a sex book. Do you want him to read a sex book? No? Then be his sex book. This should have went without saying. Don’t just say “no” because he doesn’t know how to explore you. Help him. If he knows what he’s doing, but still it is not fun for you, he is NOT anchored to God.

What is relationship on the woman side?

Still easy:

Does she respond to only one man?
Does she defend only one man? Even if he is wrong
Will she be relevant — dressy when it is required and a Texas hat when around trees? AND with no prompting?
Is she anchored to God? (Proverbs 31) BY CHOICE? Not legalism or religion, but passion and desire to follow God and ALL His ways?
DOES SHE QUOTE YOU WITHOUT KNOWING IT? That means she is synching with you. That means she has fallen in love. (But, women, when you come home from work and you defend a man your husband has never met and you quote him, of course us men will want to kill him. That means you and I are divided and you are moving closer to him. NEVER quote another man).
Can ALL OF HER GUY FRIENDS PASS A guy-friend test? What’s a guy-friend test? EASY. Kiss him. No woman has ever told me she would sleep with a friend, but they all said the latter. So, friends don’t get aroused by other friends. Let’s see, women. Let’s see the men you keep as a plan B, but you want to be trusted. You cannot be a solid woman, marriage-material, if you hang around ANY guy who wants to be in you. Men are male lions. You can only have one territorial human-male, or they will fight. That was caused by you. The more physically attractive you are, the less men you better say “hi” to. You do not need to say “hi" to anyone. IF a man needs help, too easy, have him call me. Or I can’t trust you to understand how division works. If you don’t understand division, you are a ticking timebomb. I’ll find someone else. And I will never return to you. You have 1 chance to choose me. Or, what if I fail your expectations after marriage? How easy it was for you before to just connect with a stranger (and ghost me or come up missing and your body is found at the border).

Relationship is a commitment of NOT a double standard, but a male standard and a female standard, where the female is allotted feminine traits who is turned on my male traits. It is a spiritual resonation of one masculine and one feminine. I know women have a heart to ignore a few things of men of the past, stop it. Men don’t get a side chick. You become an object at that point. To keep him being a godly man, he only gets one. Sex is only after marriage if you do not want to be an object — and marriage is done before God, in the hearts of the two, and who are ready to start a family.

Enjoy each other.

Footnote:

For those with kids, your kids are still meant to be raised to MOVE ON, AWAY FROM YOU. Your marriage is #1. You are meant to teach and instill independency. Marriage is lifelong and consists of God — you — spouse. If your friend doesn’t like your children and has no heart to raise them — what the f*ck are you doing??????????????????????? Please reach out to me, I will gladly guide you through if a person is trash or not. You should want them to lead your children. You should feel free.