A Brief Protection Guide for Women Going into 2022

Live life, just be ready for the unexpected

Since I’ve read a bunch of dumb articles on this topic, I figured I’d help out.

So, the key, as I tell people who come to my Firearm Familiarization and Safety Event about once a month, is — “prepare as if I am coming after you” (obviously unexpectedly). The reason I say me, is because if you are preparing for a highly trained person like Army SF (Special Forces), then you will need to spend about $10,000 in security. If you are preparing for me, you just need to have a plan that you can implement in the blink of an eye and one that will render me useless in about 5 seconds — spending just time and no additional $$ (unless you haven’t spent any $$ for general safety like you live on Bubblegum Cul-de-sac).

Jumping you and fighting with you is simply stupid and a waste of my precious time — and potentially DNA getting on you, so I will be swift and use a weapon; and we will have no mutual friends or traceable intersecting paths.

Anyone who has read even 3 of my articles knows how much I look out for women. My motto: Love, lead, and learn, so that others can be happy and healthy in mind, body, and spirit. This is evident about me, I have someone’s health and happiness equally in mind.

Keep in mind that safety requirements are different depending on your environment and person. Someone in a castle where the castle guards have made ruthless examples of lawbreaking, versus a woman in the inner city where law enforcement are only told of 20% of crime. And a woman with limitations versus a woman with no limitations, who will prepare differently. All the lady in the castle needs is a voice. The woman in the inner city needs police outside her door or a belt-fed machine gun.

Health should be more happy than therapy. The key you’re looking for is prevention.

We had a saying in Korea, in the Military Police when talking with American Soldiers — “nothing good happens after dark.” This goes both ways, if any soldier was out after dark we watched them, too. That would include you, if you are out, as well. When we say “nothing good”, you are not the exception either. Even “good” people has stolen from friends with some liquid courage. We did not put a gender to this, either. But, men are more visually stimulated and women are more visually appealing and complementary to males — psychology. Men do the most crime.

*Parental Disclaimer: sensitive topics*

How do I avoid rape? I’m never out after dark. For anything. And I’m not missing anything “fun”, either; spending money is only fun when it lasts longer than restroom breaks. There’s nothing after dark that I want to do, aside from fireworks and events — and I don’t do fireworks and events alone, obviously. I pay attention to where I am and I respect the statistics, I don’t expect nature to respect my feelings just because I’m out and about.

My front door is always locked — although a person needs two codes just to get to my front door. That little chain on your door is the dumbest most useless thing a door can have. That is just meant to stop medium-sized dogs and cats. If I tripped the wrong way, I could probably break one of those. Not to mention, you would be surprised how many windows are unlocked. Like you kids’.

If I did not live where I live, but the hood, I would have had an extra door, both doors with padlocks and extra bolts. I would have my windows barred and gun shells laying around the outside of my house. And much more.

If I get jumped in a street I will aim to maim as fast as humanly possible. His eyes will be gone forever, his breathing tube severed, and whatever else I could do before someone stops me. After dark, no one approaches me for any reason. Even an old friend if they don’t say hi from further than 10 feet.

I would not pride myself in believing fairytales about the solo night traveler, I would have other people with me. That helps with not being drug away by two or three people into an alley. If I was female, I would not be out with less than 3 women in total, no exceptions — not even if there are boys with us. Most personal attackers are people you know.

How I wish society to be and how it is, are two different things.

When you are preparing for me, we can’t just give you a set of bullets to implement (pun intended). They probably will not work on me. Your best defense is a great attack. But, since you can’t attack first, prevention is much healthier and cheaper than treatment. Do anything you can to prevent something. That might require some sort of preparation in mind and body. A lot of women wake up in the middle of the night with night terrors, wishing they would have just known something was going to happen that day.

You won’t know.

For Christians: self-defense is not murder — but I could see how it can look that way through American priveledge where not many have seen violence. Jesus told Peter to put the sword away because it was not time for that. Jesus’ calling was to be the last sacrifice, it was the day Jesus would be taken. The sword was not to start wars, or in America, “protests”. More than 1 disciple carried swords. In that day in age swords were AR’s. Jesus said to Peter, “Those who live by the sword, die by the sword” — meaning, “1) Peter, you will be a martyr in a couple years, don’t live by the sword today — it is not meant for you to die today. And 2) Peter, I’m not ‘living by the sword’ today as when I drew the line in the sand, so don’t get me killed by the sword”. Reading comprehension is an important part of effective communication.

Here are a few pointers that anyone can take from my training

(when I say “in the Military Police”, this is where military and civilian law enforcement differ and why fewer Military Police die on duty):

• In the Military Police, I will ALWAYS be one level of force above you — or I’m waiting for backup if I am not. I’m never trying to tase anyone who is wearing more than a t-shirt — physics or acting like they are on acid. Too easy. We don’t play around (in the ’70s, MP’s would ride in groups, in vans). Deadly force is authorized for the threat of “life, limb, OR eyesight”. Meaning, if your weapon can threaten eyesight, my pistol is authorized by law. That’s your problem, not mine. No exceptions, not even for you. I’m going home, it’s up to you if you are. You can use this common-sense principle, too.
• Military Police, when I was in, would never be caught dead running in circles trying to get you to stop trying to attack us as we have seen in law enforcement videos today. The longer a traffic stop is or the longer a police response is, the statistics for someone dying rise. I have seen so many videos where civilian law enforcement sat at a traffic stop for 20 minutes. I’ve seen what happens. I’ve seen that the perps of the traffic stop actually got backup faster than law enforcement, and the officer was gunned down by the perp’s backup. NEVER gamble with time. That truth we learned in Afghanistan, too. Stop pretending you are special. Time is always against you. I would only be in one bar for maximum 1.5 hours before I switched, if I was a woman. I’ve been jumped before, when there were three of us (3 men), but the aggressors were just drunk, they hit like children, and I did not feel like writing up police statements for destroying them.
• Any drink that your face is not facing, is “gone”. Buy another. Not your friend’s face! Yours. Do not trust your friends with your life or dignity. You are responsible. If someone comes closer to your drink than you, it’s “gone”, as well. Always keep your palm over the drink, too, if you happen to bounce your eyes around the room.
• Even in Korea, all soldiers were made to have a second soldier with them. That was just common knowledge. What makes civilians with no training so special and godlike? If it’s after dark, I would suggest women travel in a group of 4 (because at some point, at least one will have her back turned or 2 will go to the restroom together). As long as people don’t have the fear of God or of law, you are in danger. That’s why when people fear the law, they don’t approach you. And fearing law is why Military Police is effective for keeping the peace (additionally, MP’s hold the rank of the highest officer on post. Saying “no” to any legal command is saying “no” to the colonel or even the 4-star general). People need to respect the peacekeepers and criminals need to fear them. Warriors are not scared of the weak, neither are criminals. Weak = stupid, vice versa. Don’t be either.
• If you allow someone within arm’s distance, you’re already gone (the first punch goes to the aggressor, you get the second if you can). I never let anyone walk up to me after dark, even at gas stations. I point right at them intently and raise my voice “Do not come near me, do not come near me for any reason” (Yes, I’ve done this when a “homeless” person walked over to ask for money, then I reached in the car to grab a weapon while watching them. They stopped).
• What she carries in her purse tells me her worth in her eyes. Small airhorns are great! Screechers, too. Guns, of course. No pepper spray, you’ll probably spray yourself a little bit, too and the perp’s friend or another bystander will have a field day with you (if you get any on your hand, it will probably get in your eyes before you make it home). No brass knuckles, you are not a boxer and you will probably miss your target (your punch is not scary unless you are a fighter, your method of response needs to send a message that you are a bad MF or BAMF), so unless you are a biker I don’t want to see brass K’s.

We can fight the “stigma” if we want, but nature doesn’t care, to be honest. After dark or 9 p.m. she better be concealed carrying and/or have a spring-loaded knife. How can you be one level of force higher when they have a knife if you are not “carrying”? That’s up to you, natural selection is in your hands. Stigma or not, roll the dice.

Here are pointers from me:

• If you are out on the town, no one is your friend. I don’t care how many one-liners he knows or how “corporate relevant” he is. Corporate relevant could equal rape because he feels he has privilege or that he owns the town. All men are Sh*t. And your friends are only as good as they are intelligent while drunk — and they are not.
• To be safe against anything, just be as prepared as you would against me. Knowing the little you know about me, here you go: you get 3 seconds once I take action to make me change my mind or to drop me in the street. If you can meet that standard, you’re golden. It takes 5 seconds for a couple of guys to toss you in a van — or your daughter. Teach her as you wished to have been taught.
• Don’t be stupid, fill up your car before dark or call a taxi that has a camera. I’m good with you filling your car up after dark if you have an AR strapped in front of you. Do you remember that story about a woman raped on public transportation with lots of passengers watching? Again, why are you special?

When I’m filling my car up: I turn the car off, peep out all my windows to see if anyone is looking or walking up to me, pop open the driver’s door, hit the lock button locking the other doors, then exit the car, and mentally practice grabbing the crowbar, gun, or knife I have all easily accessible because I keep my driver’s door open. The longer you are there, your chances of something happening increases. As soon as you reenter, even before the door is shut, lock the doors again. I do this even during the day. That way no one can slip in the back seat once you get in and say “let’s go to the ATM”. I’m hitting the lock button as soon as my finger can reach it.

For me that is just second nature, I got over my feelings about it, because no one’s scared of the law anymore, so I have no expectations.

• Schedule a taxi or friend, send them a picture of your ID, and have them call 911 if you are late. You know, to get the police report started.
• To not be followed, there are a few ways. A couple are to just stand by the front door with 911 dialed on your phone (and all you have to do is hit “call”) if there is a camera, for a few minutes to see who follows you. The proceed in the direction of your car, but walking zigzag, through other cars, and while looking behind you. The reason I don’t go to places with alcohol is some of them pat you down and I can’t carry my knife. If I am naked of any self-defense, I’m not there.
• Lastly about being followed. The worst case scenario about being followed is if someone is watching you while on the phone with one or two others who are waiting for you. You then have to be prepared to fight and don’t let them sneak up on you. Time is on your side!! Fight for 4 minutes and you probably have saved yourself. Act like you’re in the Mortal Combat videogame. If you can run, go. If you probably will not run fast enough, save your energy for the fight. Tip: your nails are your greatest defense. Law Enforcement can get DNA from under your nails. Grab the neck and eyes and act like a lion. You will have saved yourself and your dignity.
• Never trust 2+ men talking with you if there are 2 or fewer in your group. Remember, 95% of traumatized women trusted the guy (probably dated or married him…). I have been told I am a good catch by multiple people (and have been pretty well-trained), and you do not find me out after dark (and you will not), then 2+2=4, who are them “saints” that are out past dark and pretend they are me? I am not out at night! God made women and children hesitant for a reason, hesitation is a women’s subconscious intelligence. Don’t fight it, you just look like you’re trying to be me. After dark, trust your dad and your brothers, that’s it. Men after dark want 1 of 2 things unless they are out with their friends and they ignore you. Or their group gets an idea that includes you and they are all pressured to join.

Remember, you are as free as criminals fear the law or fear you.

And if there are no enforcers… you’re just gambling with your dignity or your finances. But, hey, smile, at least you’re not in Congo and you are not in a country where only criminals have guns. You have a choice.

A Couple True Stories:

Dialing 9–1–1 has a response time of at least 5 minutes and that’s a lifetime when you are in heels or you kicked them off and you are barefoot. You can YouTube police videos, any traffic stop that took longer than 15 minutes and did not have a political Karen crying about being pulled over or was a car accident, someone went to jail or died.

• A woman wanted to make a point because she HATED the stigma of the Middle East (good job, college), so she went to a country alone. Due to bad timing, she ended up at a train station late at night. She tried to fight the stigma. She was found under a large boulder the next morning.
• Don’t be a hero unless you’ve been there, done that. The world will always win and you will be either humbled or defensive.
• A study was published about burglaries. European burglars said they robbed homes with a lot of cars because they were the only ones with a gun. American ones said they robbed empty homes because they did not want to get shot. Which “home” are you when you are out past dark? Naked or packing some death angel?

You know, 90% of homes in India have courts in their homes, build one for you and build a nice bar. Just saying.

In PA you can text 9–1–1, in other states you might as well. So, make yourself a draft message stating something like, “My name is Jane Smith. I have scheduled a trip to Las Vegas, staying at ____. I drive [make, model, license plate]. If you are receiving this message, something has happened and need 9–1–1 assistance [if you can edit the draft, put in more detail]”

So again, I’m not trying to take away someone’s “freedom” because men this, men that. Gamble as you see fit and live with it. If you will not walk down a dark alley, but will “hold men accountable” in other places, you just proved you were scared for good reason, don’t lose that.

Like I said, each situation is different that is why I did not just give you a list of “things to do”. All I said was “prepare for me at any location you will personally pass by”.

Do not fight the “stigma” like that one girl who died in that undisclosed country. You just make yourself look dumb. Or those women in the inner cities tossed from windows and those women passed around with no way of escaping. You cannot make a movement to help your whole gender when you disregard why men would be scared in the first place — fear. They must have fear, not a lecture. What are they scared of most? A slow, painful death that will make it on the news. So, make it happen. That is the only way.

Soldiers in Congo kick in doors of women’s homes because they know there are no repercussions. Let them have it, unload half an AR magazine into their chest. A lot of American women are complaining about not being able to walk through gangland at 2 am after barhopping in clothing that prostitutes wear, when we have Congo women and women in inner cities not even safe in their own homes. How nice.

You can reach out to me if you want a specific situation evaluated.

Lastly, and again, I’m prepared and I love my life. I keep my ethics and my education, but I don’t mold around things that don’t really matter, like risking my life for a social life or “freedom” to walk the streets is not in my daily planner.

But I agree, women should be able to walk down any street during business hours and not fear being catcalled or attacked. If you want to walk after dark, hire more law enforcement. Like I said:

you are as free as criminals fear the law or you.

Prepare for me and you will be fine. My body doesn’t like sharp objects, loud noises, projectiles, or things that collect my DNA. Be faster than me.

Thank you for reading! Thank you for the 50 claps!! Thank you for sharing and saving other women!!! Thank you for positive comments!!!!