9 Ways To Feed Your Relationship The Electrolytes It Needs For The Marathon Of Love
By adding moments of refreshment, you can keep going for the long haul and even make it over the hurdles.
Being a couple is more than just two people sharing space. Your relationship is a body unto itself that needs to be taken care of. If you stay together for the long term, that body will go through quite a workout, so you need to make sure you’re taking care of it.
Since relationships are marathons, not sprints don’t just water it by plodding on in the same old way. Add some electrolytes, with these suggestions, to help conduct the electricity of your union, keeping nerve and muscle function optimal, balancing acidity, keeping your pressure healthy, and helping to rebuild damaged tissue.
Just as electrolytes help make sure specific bodily functions run at optimal levels, emotional electrolytes can do the same.
Here are some emotional electrolytes to put in your relationship waterbottle.
1. Do something that shows you’re paying attention.
Recently I was telling my husband I wanted a couch for my office. He’s a courier, and on a delivery, he found one that fit the bill. When he texted the picture to me, it was perfect and on sale to boot! We went and bought it that night.
This story isn’t really about the couch.
It’s about the fact that he listened to me, heard what I was saying, and actively had me on his mind when he was out. It showed me that he listens and cares about my needs. Also, I got an excellent couch that didn’t break the bank!
2. Bring up something that’s bothering you.
Talk about something before you fight about it.
Tackling an issue before you start fighting about it is helpful when you’re trying to resolve something. It can feel scary to broach a subject that bothers you, but even if it starts a little conflict, if you address it when you’re not mad, you can discuss it more easily.
Sometimes doing this helps both people open up a little more comfortably, so you can gather the information that makes it easier to get problems sorted.
3. Take something off your partner’s plate.
If you know your partner is breaking under the weight of their obligations, see if there is something you can do to lighten their load.
Since I’ve started writing, my husband has been doing a lot more of the housework. He is carrying more of the burden with cooking as well. He’s done these things to free up my time, so I can do what matters to me. When he needs me to pick up the slack, I do the same for him.
4. Share something sensitive with your partner, something that triggers you.
My husband and I have shared some pretty sensitive stuff with each other.
Because of this, we understand each other. We know the triggers we’re dealing with, so we can avoid each other’s sore spots.
Sharing in this way makes you vulnerable, but it helps you become aware of sore spots so you can be more understanding and sensitive.
5. Allow your partner to comfort you.
Asking for and accepting comfort can feel scary. Letting your guard down makes you vulnerable, but it is an excellent way to build trust and foster healing.
Let them hold you if you’re sad, be there for them to do the same. Don’t be afraid to love each other through the pain; sometimes that’s all someone needs to get the healing process started.
6. Do a little something to make your partner feel special.
It might be a little kiss, a hug, a bum squeeze, or a random text that says I love you.
Sometimes if you’re having a bad day, just knowing someone thinks you’re special makes everything okay. It lets you know that you’re not alone in the world.
A sweet little gesture can go a long way when someone is stressed or feeling down.
7. Be a team player.
Does your partner have a hobby or passion? Are you a little less than enthused? Just because you’re not into it doesn’t mean you should rain on their parade.
My husband is a huge soccer (football) fan. He’s passionate about his team. It’s not my thing, but I’d never take it away from him.
One year, I surprised him with a cooler of beer and snacks so he could sequester himself in his man cave for a day of world cup action. I didn’t care too much for it myself, but I was happy to let him have his fun.
Being a team player means getting on board with other people’s things, whether or not it’s your thing.
8. Embrace the changes that will come along
When you are committed to a person, you must also be committed to them when they change.
When I met my husband, I’d repressed all of my creative urges. I’d quit music, and I hadn’t written since University.
But a few years ago, it all came flooding back to me, and I decided to start up again. I effectively became a different person.
He’s been beside me on my journey, cheering me on and supporting me in every possible way. Throughout the years, when he’s wanted to do something new or make a change, I’ve supported him.
If you’re afraid of your partner’s changes, you might drive them away, but if you share in each other’s triumphs, you grow closer.
9. Do things together
Sometimes we get so caught up in the demands of daily life we forget to connect.
If you can fit little moments in for a walk, a conversation, a quiet drink, or a quick snuggle, it goes a long way to keeping the overall bond secure.
Maintaining a relationship is like running a marathon. You get into it full of energy and vitality but over time what you really need is stamina and strength.
By doing the little things every day that add moments of refreshment, you can keep going for the long haul and even make it over the hurdles!
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