9 More “Cheat Codes” That Make You More Attractive to Women
I get some pushback from my stories sometimes but there was none for 11 “Cheat Codes” That Make You More Attractive to Women. Since writing it, I couldn’t help but notice some more things that you make more attractive to women.
1. Develop the gift of the gab
Lots of people are socially awkward. It’s something you notice when you stop being so socially awkward yourself.
Many people don’t hold good eye contact and struggle to talk to strangers. But when you have the “gift of the gab” you can make conversation with anyone even if they’re awkward. You’re infectious.
You open up the night and make it more fun for everyone when you talk to bouncers, bar staff, waiters, and randomers like it’s nothing. You possess an energy that people love (…especially women).
It creates a good vibe, it shows your confidence, and it makes women feel at ease around you as you’re a million miles away from the creeps that do nothing but stare.
Plus… the gift of the gab creates a bit of jealousy because women can see you’re a charming guy. It clicks that you won’t have any trouble meeting women when you go out. So if she likes you, she better do something about it.
2. Treat everyone with respect
I’ve heard countless stories of women being on dates with guys who seemed to have it all. But then they went to a restaurant and the guy treated the staff with contempt.
It’s nasty. And it makes others around you cringe as they don’t want to be associated with you.
Treat everyone with respect. It shows you have a good heart and it’s just a healthy, enjoyable quality to be around.
Only treating people well because you want something from them is gross. An attractive man is respectful to everyone because he’s at ease with himself. He’s no reason to be nasty. He just enjoys the moment.
3. Do what you say you are going to do
Talk is cheap. Everyone can say they’re going to do something but few actually go out into the world and do it. We’re used to seeing “success” online but not all the hard work that’s behind it.
So it’s attractive when you say you’re going to do something and pull it off. When women see you go through the ups and downs and keep going all the way until it’s done, it’s attractive.
4. Learn how to defend yourself
If you’re like most people, the thought of getting into a fight is terrifying — the stuff of nightmares. Even the thought of sparring in a safe environment is horrible for most people; they don’t want to punch or be punched.
For many, it boggles the mind how someone could subject themselves to something so uncomfortable. So it’s attractive when women find out you’re good at kickboxing, Jiu Jitsu, or boxing, etc.
You don’t need to flex and show how tough you are because that’s not interesting to you. You train for fun, fitness, and self-defence. Whatever the reason, excelling in an area that most people find scary is attractive.
5. Dress like a BOSS
There’s dressing well and there’s dressing like an absolute BOSS. Even a straight man will have his head turned by a guy sometimes because he looks awesome. You take a mental snapshot of him and try to copy his outfit.
Now… imagine what the ladies thought of that same guy when they walked past him?
When you’re the best-dressed guy in the room — or one of the best— keep your eye out for opportunities. I bet they’re there.
It takes a while to develop BOSS-level style. It’s a lot of trial and error. But it’s worth sticking with. You can’t beat the confidence you get when you walk into the world feeling like a million bucks. Actully, scratch that — a TRILLION BUCKS.
6. Don’t share absolutely EVERYTHING about your life online
There’s so much BS in the world. Some place internet clout above everything else and can’t wait to show the world how wonderful they are.
…But do you know what’s really attractive? Doing cool things when nobody’s looking. People will find out because the world is small. And you’ll look like a man, not a needy boy chasing validation 24/7.
You don’t need to share everything you do online. If a woman you know sees you out and about doing something cool, wonderful, or interesting — it makes her think about what else is there that she doesn’t know about you. (Attractive.) Leave a bit of mystery.
7. Reject the friend zone
Some women you fancy may enjoy your company but don’t want to date you. They may want you in their life as a friend and that’s great if that’s what you want too.
But the problem is a lot of time you don’t want this; you like her more than that. But most men agree to it anyway and hang around with her as a friend (in disguise).
Men get stuck in this trap (I did, once!) and it’s not good for them. It’s slow-drip poison for your self-worth.
So if you find yourself in this position, refuse it. Ask her out or walk away — it’s not healthy to spend time around someone you fancy when they don’t like you back. Just be grown up about it.
This is attractive because you’re putting yourself first. And that’s what “nice guys” fail to do.
8. Be a dog dad
Women love dogs. Seriously. If you have a cute dog, it’s like walking around the world with a big sign that says “Hey! I’m not a big creeper. Come say hey!”.
Please don’t be a sociopath and get a dog just for female attention but if you fancy a furry companion, it comes with perks!
So why does this make you more attractive? 3 reasons: it shows off your softer side, that you’re responsible enough to keep something alive, and… women LOVE dogs.
NOTE: If you do get a girlfriend, congratulations — you are now forever #2 until the dog passes away. It’s not a fair fight. The dog is a cute ball of fluff. It doesn’t argue with her, get drunk, or watch football. The magical dog can do no wrong, but you can. And you will. Again and again. So I hope you love dogs as much as women do.
9. Double down on who the f*** you are
Alex Hormozi, entrepreneur, said on a podcast that all he does is work and go to the gym. And he DOES NOT CARE what people think about that.
People constantly tell him what he “should” be doing and what’s “healthy” but this baffles him.
“I do as much as I can of the thing I want to do, every minute of every day.”
(Sounds pretty healthy to me.)
He doesn’t go around apologizing for it. He accepts a simple truth about life that some people never understand: People are different! It’s as simple as that. A “good and healthy life” for you is not a “good and healthy life” for someone else. End of.
So it’s attractive to pursue what you want to do, no matter how much it grinds against social norms. You do you. If people mock you for your lifestyle, it’s unattractive to get defensive about it but it’s attractive when you double down on it and say “Yep! That’s me and I love it. And?”
If you have shocking taste in music, an odd hobby that literally nobody else you’ve ever met understands, or maybe you’re the most “basic bro” of all time — it doesn’t matter. Don’t apologize for living a life that brings you joy.
“There is no should. Do what you wanna do.” — Alex Hormozi
I’ve heard some women say to me a few times now, “He’s not usually the kind of guy I’d go for, but I like him.”
After asking some more questions as I’m intrigued, it’s always the same story: these guys know exactly who they are and they’ve doubled down on it. Why is it attractive? Because it’s the opposite of people-pleasing.
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