5 Unexpected Things That Follow the Male Glow Up
After putting in the work to raise your standards, you often notice a side effect of becoming a more handsome man.
You look healthier, dress better, and feel more confident as you’ve stamped out many behaviors that made you undesirable before.
It feels amazing to see women check you out more and for your friends and family to comment on all the positive changes they see in you. But, there are some things that you’ve noticed that you didn’t see coming.
1. Your social circle changes
Friends that you’ve had for years will start treating you differently. Why? Because they can see that you’ve changed and are running towards the life you want.
You’ve raised your standards and it’s a stark reminder to your friends who want change but aren’t putting in the work.
Some will make snarky comments or others will just fade away as talking about old times can only entertain you for so long. You’re different people now.
Their insecurities have become stronger than your friendship. So they have to let you go, or eventually, it becomes so uncomfortable that you let them go.
It’s sad. But it’s life. It sucks but at the end of the day, you can’t live an unfulfilled life just to avoid upsetting old friends. Your real friends will be cheering you on. Plus, you’re going to make some new friends too.
2. Men will be more hostile and will try you
I remember hearing from other friends that they’ve had many run-ins with aggressive men, worried that a fight was about to start. It never resonated with me as I never had any trouble.
However… a few months after hitting the gym, eating and dressing better, it’s as if 5% of the world’s men have it in for me!
- They walk way too close to me on pavements, some changing their path to brush past me.
- If I’m with a woman, they stare at me like we’re about to have a boxing match.
- If I’m out having drinks, sometimes I’ll catch other men staring at me with a hostile gaze.
Once I went to a cocktail bar for a second date with a woman I’d met on a dating app. The waiter took an immediate liking to my date and I knew that he was going to try and push my buttons.
I went to the restroom for a second and when I came back, he was sitting in my seat talking to my date… not cool.
Then when I’d about an inch left of my cocktail (which is about a third of the drink!) he walked over and took it away from the table. He got one step away from my table and I shout, “Oi, what are you doing? I’m clearly drinking that.”
He brings it back to my table and says sorry. Then another waiter took over as his manager didn’t like what he saw.
It happens. Men will mess with you.
3. Women test you (even more)
A few times I’ve made a joke or sent a text to a woman I’ve just started dating and she’ll hit me back with “How many times have you used that one?”. When that was literally the first time.
It drives me mad. They think you’re a player! Howabout that, you try to stop being so clunky with women so you work on yourself. Now you’re so smooth that women think you’re reusing lines.
This tends to get worse the older you get. If you seem like a good catch, she can’t help but wonder why don’t you have a girlfriend already.
4. Women will be more cautious with you
Men and women can both be so insecure that we don’t consider for one second that the person we’re dating could be twice as insecure as us.
When you’re a guy and you’ve noticed that your stock has picked up, you must understand that when you’re on a date with a woman and she seems into you — she’s cautious about getting hurt!
She’s worried about being vulnerable with you and then you bouncing after you’ve slept with her. And rightly so, she should be cautious as lots of guys do that.
So she might seem to stare at you occasionally or go into interview mode trying to see if you’re looking for a relationship or a one-night stand. It’s frustrating but understandable; if she’s attracted to you, she’s at risk of falling for you.
5. People expect more from you in all areas of life
I struggle with anxiety at times. I’ve quit jobs, missed holidays, and ruined 500 opportunities with women and friendships as my anxiety pissed over everything.
When I was a skinny nerd, when chats got deep and I told my mates that I was struggling with anxiety — they wouldn’t say much. They’d just listen and wouldn’t judge or give me advice.
That’s changed now. I still have the same problems I did many years ago but the people around me now are always on my back. In a good way, but still — it can be a bit much.
I keep my problems to myself and will seek therapy if it gets too heavy, as just because I’m doing well in some areas of life, people assume I’m acing all areas when I’m really, really not.
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