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Summary

The article advises men to stop texting a woman who sends ambiguous or disinterested texts, suggesting it's a sign she's not interested and to focus on other aspects of life instead.

Abstract

The article, titled "Stop Texting Her if You Receive These 3 Texts," provides guidance to men on interpreting a woman's text messages that may indicate a lack of interest. It emphasizes the importance of actions over words, cautioning against taking texts too literally. The author outlines three specific texts to be wary of: "I'll let you know," which often means the woman is keeping her options open; "I'm really busy at the moment," which the author argues is an excuse to avoid meeting up; and "Let's just be friends," a clear rejection that should be taken at face value. The article suggests responding to these texts by making other plans, not pursuing further contact, and not agreeing to be friends, respectively. It advocates for self-respect and moving on rather than trying to convince someone to like you, and encourages readers to focus on self-improvement and meeting new people.

Opinions

  • Words alone don't convey the full story; a person's actions are more telling.
  • "I'll let you know" is interpreted as the woman not prioritizing the man and possibly waiting for better options.
  • Being "really busy" is seen as a common excuse, with the belief that a truly interested woman would make time.
  • The article strongly advises against agreeing to be friends after romantic interest has been expressed, as it can be emotionally damaging and disrespectful to one's own feelings.
  • The author criticizes the idea of using manipulative tactics to win over a disinterested woman, advocating for choosing someone who reciprocates interest naturally.
  • Self-improvement and moving forward with a positive outlook are recommended over dwelling on unrequited interest.
  • The article suggests that trying to maintain a relationship with someone who is not interested is unhealthy and undermines one's self-worth.

Stop Texting Her if You Receive These 3 Texts

Sorry bro, stop taking her words so literally. She’s not that into you so it’s time to move on.

Talk is cheap.

It took me too long to learn that unless you’re reading fiction, words don’t tell you the whole story. We obsess over words but we should pay more attention to people’s actions.

Listen to what they say but watch what they do.

If you take her texts too literally, you’re setting yourself up to get hurt.

1. “I’ll let you know”

So you asked her out and she came back with this. I got this text a lot in my twenties and I never knew what to make of it. I know now… it means “you are not a priority. I might get back to you if nothing better comes along.“

This text leaves you sitting on the edge of your seat waiting for the green light. Maybe you should remind her? But then you look needy and pushy as she said “I’ll let you know” …and then you pester her again? Not good.

So if she sends you this text, tell her to let you know by tomorrow as you’ve got other plans to sort out. Even if you don’t, make other plans quickly and don’t tell her what they are.

(The one exception… if she texts you an essay on why she can’t give you an answer right away then it’s probably legit.)

2. “I’m really busy at the moment”

Everyone is busy. The only time I’m not busy is when I’m ill, lying in bed, watching films. Other than that, I’m always busy but if I want to meet someone — I make time. So I don’t care how busy she says she is: if she’s in the country — she can make time. Maybe it’s not a lot of time or you might have to wait a few days or possibly more but women will make time to see you if you excite them.

So leave her alone if she says “I’m busy”. And don’t reply with “Let me know if anything changes” because this leaves the ball in her court knowing that you’re wrapped around her finger. Say ok and leave it at that. She’ll get in touch if she wants to see you but don’t wait for that to happen. Focus on yourself.

3. “Let’s just be friends”

Ouch. This is an obvious rejection but I had to include it as this can wreck a man. Oh well, but make no mistake you can’t be friends! Don’t kid yourself. If you really liked her, you cannot be friends.

You pursued her and showed a lot of interest in her — so I assume the idea of having sex with her and enjoying romantic days out together crossed your mind… I don’t know, 1000 times! So what are you going to do? Go scuba diving together, go-karting, and have a nice walk on the beach as “friends” while she complains that she can’t find a man? That sounds like hell…

Don’t be friends but don’t be an asshole either. Just move on and act like it never happened. She might start chasing you as she sees you out and about, dating other women.

But if you take her words literally and become her “friend” — you are throwing your heart and dignity into a washing machine filled with bricks. Don’t do it. Respect yourself and walk away… or become her toy to play with when she’s got nobody else around and wait to be discarded like a soiled nappy the second she has a boyfriend. It’s your call.

I know your mind thinks well having her as a friend in my life is better than not having her in it at all — wrong. Chat to her when you see her don’t plan friendly days out together.

“But the pickup artist on YouTube said…”

I know… there are videos from highly manipulative sociopaths on YouTube telling you exactly what to say to a girl when she’s not interested. And it blows my mind… I don’t care how hot she is, do you really want to bend over backwards and try to convince a girl to like you after she tried to shut you down by text?

Good luck with that. That doesn’t sound healthy.

“Choose a woman who chooses you.” – David Deida

The best thing you can do after getting these texts is to stop texting her and turn the volume up on your life. Take care of yourself, chrush it at work, play sports, read, keep going out and meeting new people. And when you meet a girl that you like — ask her out quick!

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