8 Criminally Underrated Sex Acts That Need to Make a Comeback

Your sex life needs more of these

The more time you spend in a relationship, the more you tend to streamline your sex life.

You get a really good idea of what you’re into. You know what works for your partner too.

You’ve experimented and tried everything that sounded interesting. Some of it was hot — a lot of it was awkward. But it was always fun.

Now you don’t need to mess around so much. You just stick to the good stuff.

And that can honestly be a big relief.

You don’t have to spend an uncomfortable seven minutes finding out that you’re really not into getting your boobs banged after all. There’s no fumbling around, trying to figure out the right manual sex method. It’s just solid, reliably pleasurable sex every time.

But you also start skipping over stuff you shouldn’t be getting rid of. Things that don’t seem like a big deal but actually make sex extra fun and super pleasurable.

These are some of those. They’re the sex acts that probably fell out of your sex life over time — and absolutely need to be part of it again.

Dry Humping

The first time I had an orgasm with someone else, all of our clothes were still on.

We were in the middle of a heavy and passionate makeout session. We were pulling our bodies close together, letting our hands wander, and forgetting everything around us.

It made me so horny that I started grinding against the hard bulge in his pants.

The friction was really doing it for me. I tried to keep my breathing steady but I just couldn’t. I had no control over myself, really.

I felt a little embarrassed about getting myself off that way, but I couldn’t stop moving my hips. Not until I hit my peak.

I tried to tell myself he probably didn’t notice, but I don’t know how he could’ve missed all the tell-tale signs. The way my breathing practically stopped. How all of my muscles flexed at once. The sudden relaxed comedown after the climax.

It was probably extremely obvious — there’s no hiding something that good.

Humping him to an orgasm was incredibly pleasurable and deeply satisfying. Which makes sense because humping anything to a climax feels incredible.

But I still gave up on it. Once I started going all the way, I never really went back. I humped my pillows and my sex toys, but never an actual human being.

And I know that happens to a lot of people.

You start dry humping because it’s the only real option you’ve got. It’s a great half-bang when you’re not ready to lose your virginity. It’s what you do when someone could walk into the room at any moment. It’s how you get off when you’re drunk at a party with just enough inhibition left to keep your clothes on.

Once you’ve got other options, you give it up. You’re doing it in the privacy of your own home, so there’s no need to mess around with your clothes on. You’ve already gone to seventh base a bunch of times, so rounding third doesn’t seem like a big deal.

At that point, dry humping starts to feel kind of silly.

But it’s not. It’s still incredibly pleasurable, even when there are other things you could be doing. It’s super passionate and shockingly intimate, too.

Getting dry humped can also be a huge turn-on. Nothing’s hotter than a horny girl — and the horniest girls are the ones who can’t resist grinding before the clothes come off.

And grinding is how a lot of women prefer to get off. If you don’t make it part of your sex life, you’re going to miss out on some extra satisfaction.

Putting the dry hump back into your relationship can feel a little awkward at first. You might have to deliberately slow things down. And rubbing up against your partner can make you feel a little embarrassed if you’re not used to it anymore.

But it’s completely worth it. When you put grinding back in your life, you’ll wonder why you ever got rid of it in the first place.

Vulva Massages

I know for a fact that people aren’t getting enough vulva massages.

If they were, we’d be hearing about it a whole lot more. It’s not the kind of thing you want to keep quiet about — it’s something you want to recommend to everyone who’ll listen.

It’s kind of basic, but it’s good on so many levels.

It’s really just a slow, sensual vulva rub. And I’m talking real slow — like drawing it out twenty, thirty, maybe even forty minutes.

It’s mostly focused on the lips, with a little more direct clit stroking when you’re nearing the end of it. There can be some penetrative play and G-spot stimulation, but that’s mostly to add variety and explore as many sensations as you can in one session.

It’s about giving lots of prolonged pleasure, not just going for an orgasm or two. But there will probably be an orgasm and it’s going to be a mindmeltingly powerful one.

It’s the perfect kind of sexual pampering. It can be emotionally intense and incredibly intimate. It can leave you more physically relaxed than any other kind of massage.

It’s also really good for relationships with mismatched sex drives — I find it pretty easy to agree to that kind of massage even if I’m not in the mood for anything else.

There’s just so much to love about vulva massages. And it seems like almost nobody is out there giving or getting them — even on sexy special occasions.

Hopefully that changes, because I think we’d all be a lot happier with more of them in our lives — and some penis massages too for good measure.

Watching Porn and Fooling Around

Watching porn and messing around is super fun.

I guess it’s bound to be. You’re taking a bunch of great things and mishmashing them into one awesome activity.

Watching good porn is just plain entertaining. It helps you do a bit of fantasizing while you’re together. It’s a great way to get highly turned on.

It can feel a little naughty and taboo — especially if you’re watching something kind of filthy.

But mostly, I find that it makes sex really playful.

You can cuddle and talk about how hot the scene is. You can act out some of the things you’re seeing on screen.

Keeping one eye on the porn encourages you to do a lot of slow hand stuff. Gentle petting, slow stroking, soft groping — all really good ways to build up the action.

And it’s a perfect way to enjoy a mutual masturbation session. Masturbating together is even more arousing than it sounds. It’s also super intimate and will make you feel extremely close. And it’s another really good mismatched sex drive activity — a way to enjoy some sexy fun even when sex isn’t on the table.

Having a porn date keeps it really light and fun. It can inspire you to be your filthiest self. And it helps you be more open about your fantasies and turn-ons, which is going to make your sex life hotter — and keep it that way.

Handjobs

Handjobs are kind of like dry humping. They’re something a lot of people start doing because it’s simple and fits snuggly inside their sexual comfort zone.

You’re not ready to have sex and you don’t know how you feel about using your mouth yet, so you keep it to hand stuff. Or you don’t want to go all the way with someone yet so it’s strictly manual action.

It’s also really discreet, so it’s a great move when you don’t have a whole lot of privacy and could get caught.

And when you start doing everything, the handjobs kind of go away.

Not totally, of course. Most couples still have some kind of rod stroking in their sex life. But it’s often more of a token stroke than a full-on job.

It’s a few pumps between sucks during a blowjob. It’s a couple of strokes to get him going. Or a few tugs to make sure he’s fully hard before he slides it in.

But honest to goodness handjobs become kind of rare.

And that’s a shame, because there’s a lot to love about them.

There’s something really sensual, sweet, and loving about using your hands to pleasure someone.

Your hands can also do things the other parts of your body can’t. Even if you have the best mouth game in town, there are some kinds of stimulation you can only give with your fingers and a bit of grip.

There are lots of ways to play around with it too.

You can jerk it vigorously. You can stroke it softly. You can get it wet and goopy with lube and massage it. You can exchange some dirty talk, do a bit of roleplaying, or describe a fantasy while your hands go to work.

It’s all hot as hell.

Missionary

I still see people using the missionary position as a shorthand for boring sex. And every time it makes me wonder if they’ve ever actually been fucked.

Because I don’t know about you, but that’s not what I associate it with.

To me, the missionary position is a good, solid part of anyone’s rotation.

It’s one of the best ways to get really deep penetration, especially if you’re using a wedge or a sex chair.

It easily turns sex into a hard, intense, poweful pounding.

It makes your clit more accessible during penetration, and there’s definitely nothing boring about that.

It’s the basic building block for the coital alignment technique. That’s a move that combines penetration with some lip sliding, which is the closest a penis can get to acting like a rabbit vibrator.

You can touch and hold each other while screwing in that position, which just plain feels nice and extra arousing.

And I personally don’t care for eye contact during sex. But if that’s your jam, missionary is the way to get plenty of it.

I love variety and I’m all for experimenting with all sorts of positions. But if you’re avoiding missionary because you’re worried it’s too basic or boring, you’re missing out on some seriously deep and intense pounding.

Hotdogging

I recently started using a humping vibrator and it’s amazing for all the reasons you’d think a humping vibrator would be.

It’s got a large vibrating surface that you can grind against. It’s designed for anyone who’s ever straddled the arm of a sofa to get themselves off. It helps you mastubrate in ways that are tricky to pull off with regular vibrators.

It also has two vibrating surfaces. One is meant for your vulva. The other is there to buzz against your bum.

That feels really good. Nowhere near as orgasmic as grinding against it does, but it’s a nice little extra bit of stimulation.

And I really like that because it treats buttstuff as way more than just anal sex.

Because it’s not just about that. It’s also fingering and salad tossing. It’s pleasuring that super sensitive spot by rubbing or massaging it.

Hotdogging is part of that too.

It’s kind of like a butt version of sliding across the lips — except it’s a lubed up glide between the buttcheeks.

It’s a tiny bit silly, but that’s part of the appeal. It’s a lighthearted, playful, dirty good time.

It’s also a way to show appreciation for that butt.

And like that humping vibrator, it just plain feels good. It’s gentle surface stimulation that doesn’t involve any of the work it takes to have penetrative anal sex.

It’s also an opportunity to be a little lazy, which is nice. You just have to lie there and maybe arch your back a bit, and let him do the work of getting himself off.

Most of all, it’s one more way for two people to rub up against each other. And that’s always a good thing.

The Shocker

Since I brought up buttstuff, I might as well bring up the shocker.

That’s double penetration with fingers. Two fingers reaching for the G-spot, one thrusting in the bum.

Super simple. Incredibly effective.

That two finger action is already fantastic. It’s internal stimulation that can hit a few very pleasurable spots.

But when you add anal fingering, all of that intensifies.

You’re getting pleasured from both ends and you can feel everything so much more. It hits multiple sensitive spots at once.

It can be a one-handed move, but it’s also really good when you use fingers from both hands. That gives you more dexterity, more precision, and makes it easier to thrust at two different speeds.

I only used to hear about the shocker when people joked about it, like it wasn’t a move you were actually supposed to do.

But you only need to get one really good double finger session to realize that it totally belongs in your filthy bag of tricks.

Tongue and Fingers

Going down while using your fingers isn’t super rare, but it’s also not nearly common enough.

I consider it an essential sex move. It doesn’t have to make an appearance every single time, but it definitely should show up more often than not.

Plenty of people will do each part of it separately.

They’ll use their fingers. They’ll stroke the G-spot and thrust two knuckles deep.

They’ll work their tongue, too. They’ll lick up the lips, lap at the clit, and maybe even give it a few sucks.

That’s all great. But it’s just so much better when you combine them.

It’s internal and external stimulation at once, which can make you dizzy with pleasure. It’s the kind of sexual multitasking that is just so hot and arousing. And it results in blended orgasms that are usually stronger than anything tongues or fingers can do on their own.

Enjoy More Fun Sex

If you streamlined something out of your sex life, you should consider putting it back in.

Not everything. Like, it’s fine if you never get your boobs banged again.

But when you try to keep things simple and easy, you sometimes lose a lot of the fun stuff.

And sex shouldn’t just be pleasurable. It shouldn’t just be orgasmic. It should be playful, lighthearted, and fun too.

Part of what makes it that way is your whole attitude and approach to sex. Having really good chemistry and working on your insecurities helps too.

But it’s also what you do.

So try a porny date night and treat yourself to a good dry hump. That might be all it takes to put a little more sparkle back in your sex life.

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