5 Soft Kinks Your Guy Secretly Wants to Explore

Make his biggest fantasies come true

A lot of women assume that guys have extremely simple sexual desires.

They like boobs and butts.

If you want to brighten his day, all you have to do is put your hair up and give him head.

And if you ask him to give you some backdoor action, you automatically earn a special place in his heart.

There’s definitely some truth to that. But the full picture is a lot more complicated.

Men’s sexual desires are about more than just getting the right kind of physical stimulation. It’s not just about getting to stick it everywhere.

They also want sex that’s going to put them in the right emotional space.

They want to be able to hit peaks of sexual desire — and have the freedom to express that intense horniness.

They want to create dynamics they don’t always get to experience outside of sex.

And as good as getting some head must be, it doesn’t always hit those very specific spots.

There are a few common kinks that will, though. And exploring them with your guy is a really good way to give him the kind of sexual experience he really craves.

Voyeurism

A lot of guys love watching and get extremely turned on by it.

But it can be even hotter to watch someone do something sexy while her guard is completely down. She’s not performing or playing up her sexiness — she’s just being herself.

That’s why he wants to admire you while you’re dressing and undressing.

Catching a glimpse of casual nudity can be extremely exciting. Watching you touch yourself and masturbate is even hotter.

And there’s an extra kinky thrill when there’s a distance between the two of you — when he’s watching but you’re not paying any attention to him at all.

That makes it feel more voyeuristic. It lets him stare and admire without having to feel self-conscious about it.

It satisfies his curiosity to see what it’s like when you’re undressing or getting yourself off the way you would when no one’s watching — even if you know his eyes are on you.

To excite the voyeur inside him, you can change your clothes or walk around undressed in front of him. Or tell him you’re going to shower and invite him to have a look if he feels like it. Ask him to masturbate with you — as long as he keeps his hands to himself.

Do it without paying attention to him. Give him permission to watch and then just act as if he wasn’t there.

It’s a great way to tease him and get him extremely turned on. You can work it into your foreplay.

But even if you just let him watch and nothing more, you’re going to give him lots of new material for his spank bank.

Cucking Roleplay

Cuckold fantasies are surprisingly common, but people still have a hard time talking about them.

That’s because a lot of people who fantasize about their partners sleeping with someone else would be devastated if they actually did. So they play it safe and keep it to themselves.

But there are so many reasons your guy might get off to the idea of you being with someone other than him.

For some guys, it’s all about sexual submission. They want to be humiliated and degraded. And the thought of you eagerly getting it on with someone else is one way to experience that.

But I actually think that’s the exception, not the rule. Lots of guys have cuckolding fantasies that are less about you degrading them and more about you doing something that excites you.

Like, sometimes it’s plain old compersion. He likes it when you get turned on, have fun, or fulfill a sexual fantasy — even if it doesn’t involve him.

It can be curiosity, too. He might get off on knowing how you’d do it with someone else — right down to the little details.

Or it’s about feeling your intense sexual energy. He wants to see you at your dirtiest and most uninhibited. He remembers how horny and naughty you were when the sex was still new and exciting. He wants to see that side of you again — and fantasizing about someone else might be the only way to get it back.

No matter what, the best way to make it happen is with your words.

Share your dirtiest thoughts with him. Tell him what kind of guy you’d want to sleep with — and exactly what you’d want him to do to you.

Ask him to picture you taking another guy in your mouth — and how eager you are to be blowing someone new.

Give him all the details that turn you on the most. If he has cuckolding fantasies, he doesn’t just want to picture you getting dirty with someone else — he wants to know how you picture it.

Get a realistic dildo or a torso doll so you can really help him visualize you stroking, sucking, and banging another guy.

It can all be incredibly fun and hot — but only if he’s really sexually secure.

That’s an incredibly important caveat because it really makes all the difference. Not every guy with cuckolding fantasies could actually handle roleplaying them.

If he’s sexually insecure, learning all the details of your sexual fantasies is more likely to upset him than turn him on.

If hearing you talk excitedly about guys who are thicker and longer than him, about alpha dudes with massive muscles, or about the random hot and charming guy you ran into earlier that week might upset him, this isn’t the kink for him.

But if he’s confident and secure enough to enjoy all your sexual desires, it could be just what your sex life needs.

Ass Worship

A lot of women are timid about their asses.

And that means a lot of guys don’t get to fully enjoy them either.

Which sucks because guys love butts. Like, in a big way.

I’m sure you’ve noticed.

But it’s not just because they like to get a look at some cheeks and love the idea of doing anal.

It goes beyond that. It’s not just an infatuation with ass — it’s true love.

There’s a good chance your guy doesn’t just want to give your butt a quick squeeze and maybe stick it in if you’re down for it.

He probably wants to full on worship it.

To take the time to fully admire it and stare at it.

To grope it, squeeze it, massage it, spank it.

He wants to spread your cheeks and get a really good look at every last inch of your body. He wants to lick his fingers wet and run it along your sensitive ridges.

He might want to give it long, thorough, passionate licks.

Maybe he wants to praise it, finger it, and slide his hard-on between your gorgeous cheeks.

All those things tend to make a girl feel self-conscious, especially if you’ve never explored those kinds of stimulation on your own time. But if you can get into it, letting him worship your ass can be incredibly arousing for him — and pleasurable for you.

Penis Worship

A lot of guys who complain that they’re not getting enough sex are actually looking for something else.

The sex would be great, sure. But what they really want is to feel desired.

They want to feel hot and attractive. They miss the feeling of being wanted.

They want to know what it’s like to be physically and sexually admired.

And penis worship is a really good way to give him a taste of it.

It’s exactly what it sounds like. You slowly and softly touch his penis. You play with it, look at it, and admire every little detail it has. You cup and stroke his balls, graze the shaft, tease the head, and play around with the foreskin if he has one.

Stroke it. Massage it. Suck it. Kiss it. Lick it all over — from the balls to the tip of the head. Rest it in your mouth. Nuzzle your face against it if you want.

And praise every single thing you like about it.

The shape of his head. The subtle veining on his shaft. His size. How much you like seeing it grow when you’re playing with it. How much you appreciate all the pleasure it gives you. How naughty it makes you feel whenever it’s in your mouth.

Whatever you like about his man meat, put it into words.

Showing his penis that much love is going to make him feel loved — in a way that even a great blowjob never could.

Dubious Consent Roleplay

Dubious consent roleplay can be a little dark, and it’s definitely a bit much for some people.

It can be done super playfully. But even then, it can feel creepy or sketchy if you’re not fully into it.

Basically, it involves you being down for some action, but pretending like you’re not. At least, not fully.

It’s acting coy. Pretending to be reluctant. Putting up a bit of a fight, but letting him overpower you.

And that can be really satisfying for a lot of guys. Not because they want to violate anyone’s boundaries, but because it satisfies some specific urges.

For one thing, it’s a power fantasy. Dubious consent roleplay makes him feel powerful and dominant. It puts him in control, and plenty of guys find that extremely exciting.

It’s also an opportunity for him to feel irresistible. It’s a scenario where you literally can’t resist him, where he overcomes your hesitations and reluctance.

And some guys are just extremely turned on by submissive women, and that’s exactly the kind of dynamic this creates.

You can mix dubious consent with other roleplay scenarios.

You can be the college student who’s willing to let her professor feel her up for a better grade. The virgin who’s not sure she’s ready — but is too aroused to put a stop to it. You can pretend to be asleep, and then keep up the act while he’s having his way with you.

Or you can just be yourself — only it’s a version of you that needs a little convincing.

No matter how you do it, just make sure you have a clear safeword in place. When you’re pretending to have your guard up, you need a way to let him know when you’re not playing anymore.

And definitely make sure he’s into it before working this into your playtime. This is a kink that some people absolutely love — and others find kind of disturbing. So don’t bother with this one unless you both find it really hot.

But if you do, give him the green light to overpower and enjoy the gentle powerplay.

Turn Him On Like Never Before

Kinks are really personal. Unless you ask him, there’s no telling what your guy is actually into.

He could really be into bondage and daydreams about tying you up in all sorts of ways.

It could be feet. Maybe he doesn’t care how you fuck him as long as he gets to lick your toes and thrust between your soles.

His biggest fantasy might be to have you use your mouth on him while he plays first person shooters.

But there’s a good chance he’s really into one of the kinks I’ve mentioned here. So use those to start the conversation.

Sex with you is probably amazing and I bet your blowjobs are the highlight of his month. But it might just be worshiping your ass or watching you masturbate that make his wildest dreams come true.

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