7 Reasons Anal Sex Is So Hot

These are the real reasons women love it

Being into anal sex as a girl made me feel like the odd one out.

I was a young gal still trying to figure out the details of my sexuality, but there were a few things that made immediate sense to me.

Men who were confident and attentive made me feel warm and left me flustered.

Cute women turned me on in a different but still very real way.

Tattoos and alt chicks were sexy as fuck.

And very few things turned me on the way a really good ass fuck could.

That made me feel kind of alone. And it’s one of the things that made it easier for me to be open about sex with my guy friends than with the girls in my life.

Anal was something guys were all supposed to be into. They would covet it, pester their girlfriends for it, and search for it on tube sites when they were in the mood for jerking off.

Not the girls, though. We were either supposed to turn it down and be the gatekeepers of our assholes. At best, we’d put up with a little anal action now and then to please our boyfriends.

If that was true, I was definitely one of the boys. I found anal sex incredibly fascinating and arousing. It was a huge part of my sexual fantasies. And really good anal sex wasn’t something I just put up with — it was some of the best sex I had.

Then I grew up and I realized that I wasn’t alone.

I started hearing from more women who spoke about sex very openly and without shame. And a lot of them had the same attitude to anal sex that I had. They loved it, initiated it, and found it hot as fuck.

It’s really not unusual for women to love anal, but it’s still something that a lot of people have a very hard time understanding.

There’s approximately zero confusion about why so many men are into anal sex.

Guys want to stick their dicks in things they find hot, and there’s nothing hotter than a lady’s voluptuous butt.

It’s also the tightest hole she’s got. Even with all the lube you’ll need to enjoy some good anal, the extra squeeze around the cock is bound to stimulate it in a very different way than her mouth and pussy can.

Then there’s bragging rights with the boys. Guys can puff out their chests and feel studly after getting to bang a gal through the backdoor.

Even when guys are on the receiving end, people generally get it because they make it all about the prostate. It’s a pleasure spot that you can only access with some ass play. And the eye-rolling, howling orgasms that result from it speak for themselves.

People have a much harder time understanding what women get out of it, though.

The tightness of her ass is more of an obstacle to her pleasure than anything else. And when there’s no prostate to stimulate, having anal means she’s missing out on the direct G-spot and cervical stimulation the same dick could give her if it fucked her pussy instead.

I’ve got a thing for anal myself, so I don’t have any trouble figuring out why women are into it. If anything, the only thing I find difficult is pinpointing a reason why anal sex is so damn good.

There are just too many of them.

These are the biggest ones.

It’s Something Bad Girls Do

I felt irresistibly drawn to anal sex before I had actually tried it.

I was kind of intimidated by the thought of doing it, but it became a staple of my sexual fantasies because it was just so damn naughty.

There’s a thrill in doing something you’re not really supposed to be doing — especially when that something happens to be sexual.

It’s one of the reasons I’m really into fauxcest porn. Watching two people give in to temptation even though they feel it’s wrong is a surefire way to get myself all horned up.

It’s why dubious consent roleplay is so appealing, too. Trying to fight against yourself but then giving in because your desires are too strong to resist is an intoxicating feeling.

And that kind of taboo is also what makes any kind of ass play incredibly arousing.

The fact that I grew up with the idea that women weren’t supposed to be into it fuels that fire even more. Being horny for some ass fucking was considered taboo for everyone, but for girls it was practically unheard of.

I know I’m not doing anything wrong by enjoying anal sex, but it still makes me feel like a bit of a dirty girl. And that’s a feeling that always excites me.

It’s Highly Stimulating

It’s shockingly common for people to claim that anal sex isn’t pleasurable for women.

Even people who concede that women can genuinely enjoy anal often think that it can only be for psychological or emotional reasons — because there’s no way for women to get physical pleasure for a good ass fucking.

I’ve also repeatedly seen people criticize porn for being fake, pointing out that the women on screen often have orgasms from anal, which they insist is impossible.

That’s baffling to me because I can assure you that getting fucked in the ass is very fucking pleasurable. And yes, some of us are more than able to come from it.

It’s true that mediocre anal sex is less than satisfying. I’ve had some pretty bad anal and instead of squealing with orgasmic delight, I patiently waited for it to be over.

But when it’s good, it’s really fucking good.

Great anal sex is incredibly and deeply pleasurable. It’s some of the most intense stimulation you can experience.

Getting fucked in the ass always makes me come really fucking hard and incredibly quickly. I always want to prolong anal sex but I can’t because it gives me so much concentrated pleasure.

It might be the taboo that draws us to anal in the first place, but it’s those amazing and overwhelming sensations that keep us going back for more.

It’s Incredibly Intimate

Anal is one of the most intimate sex acts I can think of — it’s right up there with giving your sexual submissive a sip of water in the middle of a BDSM scene.

There’s a lot of trust involved in good anal sex. Because it’s a sex act that can go very wrong, feel really uncomfortable, and even get downright painful, allowing someone to take your ass is putting a lot of responsibility in their hands (and their cock).

It’s also a very vulnerable act. Not only because you’re giving so much trust to your partner, but also for the very obvious reason that you’re spreading your ass for them, arching your back, and presenting your asshole in its full glory. You’ll never feel more exposed than when you’re waiting for him to slide it in.

And the way anal sex is carried out has such a romantic feel to it. Doing it well means it has to start off slow. There’s patience involved. There needs to be communication and attentiveness.

Once things get going, you might be able to go fast and hard. But before your ass can get pounded, it has to be romanced. And there’s something really sweet about that.

Sometimes, that makes anal sex feel almost like a contradiction. It’s both really dirty and naughty, but also very tender and intimate. But that mix just adds to the appeal — it’s the best of both worlds.

It Frees Up Your Pussy for Some Real Fun

I consider anal to be one of the hottest sex acts. But there’s one thing that beats it every single time — anal with any kind of pussy action.

Getting fucked in the ass can feel great. But getting fucked in the ass while your pussy is getting rubbed is downright amazing.

Because your pussy is completely unobstructed when you’re enjoying some good anal sex, you can use pretty much any kind of toy you want. You can play with wands that cover a lot of surface. You can stimulate your whole vulva instead of focusing exclusively on your clit.

You could even be bold and give yourself some artificial oral at the same time with the Fantasy For Her. It’s a pussy pump with a tongue, and you can’t really use it during sex but there’s nothing stopping your from getting mechanically licked while you’re getting some missionary anal.

And because your pussy is completely free, you can give yourself the ultimate stuffing with a bit of double penetration.

It can be tricky to accomplish even if you’re using sex toys, but it’s completely worth it. The intensity of the pleasure is off the charts and you might hit some orgasmic peaks you might have never reached before.

I personally recommend using a soft dildo in your pussy and your partner’s hard cock in your ass. If you manage to add clit stimulation to that, it’s pretty much a perfect pleasure combo.

No Butt Babies

Okay, hear me out.

Lots of long-term couples end up ditching the condoms after a while. As long as neither of them have STIs, they know that they can go raw and be safe from infection.

A lot of them also use the pull-out method. It’s quite common and even though it’s been vilified for a long time, the research shows it’s a very effective form of birth control.

That’s all well and good. Except a lot of women get really fucking turned on by the idea of their partner coming inside them.

There’s something about the idea of getting filled with come that feels incredibly satisfying on a primal level. It just feels right.

But for most of us, there’s basically no way to fulfill that fantasy without running the risk of getting knocked up.

Unless you’re taking it in the ass.

Getting your ass fucked to completion and feeling your partner’s cock twitch while he’s unloading his come inside you is a really good way to fulfill that fantasy.

It might not be quite the same as getting a traditional creampie, but it’s close enough. And it can be a lot more satisfying than having him come on your stomach yet again.

It’s Advanced Level Sex

Anal is next-level sex. It’s getting to fifth base. It’s some real pornstar stuff.

And it’s all because of how tricky it is.

Even if you have some experience, it’s not an easy sex act to do. You might have a few false starts. It might take multiple attempts. You need to angle yourself just right, arch your back, bear down, and stay emotionally and physically relaxed.

After all that, you might still not manage to get that cock inside you, no matter how much lube you use.

It’s the only sex act you might have to train for. You can play with buttplugs and other anal toys to get your ass used to relaxing and taking more and more girth.

So, when you do manage to get your ass fucked and get it fucked well, it kind of makes you feel like a sexual athlete.

There’s something really satisfying about doing something so advanced. It’s not just pleasurable — it also makes you feel sexually accomplished.

Getting a good ass fuck is like earning a sexual gold star, and that’s a great feeling.

It Drives Him Wild

I don’t want to play into the whole stereotype that anal sex is really for the boys, but the fact that guys are really into it is one of the reasons it’s such a satisfying sex act.

Most men are way too reserved during sex. They don’t talk dirty enough. They barely moan or groan.

When his cock thrusts into your ass, though, that quiet attitude usually goes away.

His breathing gets deep. You start hearing a horny growl in his voice. He’ll whisper about how good your ass feels, how tight it is, how he can’t believe you’re doing this.

If you’re lucky, he’ll fully lose his mind. He’ll moan, grunt, and start to sound like an animal when he’s on the verge of coming.

That kind of uninhibited sexual enthusiasm is a huge turn-on — and anal sex is one of the most reliable ways to witness it.

Naughty, Sweet, and Incredibly Pleasurable

Anal sex isn’t for everyone.

Some women can’t get into anal because they’ve had really bad experiences with it — especially if they only tried it because their partner wanted to.

Other women just don’t find it arousing at all. The thought of anything going into their ass is a turn-off or neutral at best.

And some women are kind of into the idea but don’t think it’s worth the effort.

But for those of us who are really into it, it’s kind of strange that people have a hard time understanding why we find it so appealing.

I mean, it really ain’t that complicated. Really good anal sex feels amazing. It’s naughty and sweet, which is an incredibly sexy combination. And doing it makes you feel like a bad girl and a fun fuck.

What’s not to love about that?

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