6 Unacceptable Normalized Behaviors Hurting Your Relationship
Prioritizing your relationship doesn’t make it healthy.
Why do so many people seek love but fail to build lasting and healthy relationships?
To love means to care for someone and want the best for them. It is a response to feelings of trust in something or someone. And trust is built through actions and open communication.
Having open communication of our feelings keeps us from going down the slippery rabbit trails of our minds.
As feelings grow, their sustenance changes. And when one person in a relationship begins to drift, you start to question the relationship altogether.
There are a number of reasons why a relationship fails. Jealousy, attachment, detachment, selfishness, lack of time, mistrust, lack of communication, dishonesty, and acceptance, to mention but a few.
However, there are some other ways we accidentally hurt the people we love and the relationship without realizing it. And the more of these things you do, the more annoying they may find you.
Asking for advice and ignoring it
Many of us are guilty of this. We have a habit of asking the opinion of others on solutions to our problems. But we brush it off as if we never asked for it. Women are more likely to ask their partners how they look in a new dress or hairstyle when getting ready for a date. Regardless of what he says, she will ultimately do what feels right to her.
Pretending you are not offended
We are all guilty of this. Trust me, it’s more than obvious when something bothers us. Silence is worse than ‘okay’, because the word ‘good’ in any case means ‘not good. Silence only allows us to compartmentalize and keep everything inside, which, of course, will later turn into a time bomb.
Taking too long to decide on something
Some men really hate when a woman refuses to give an opinion when asked. Even if it’s something as simple as choosing a dessert or a vacation destination. In an age where equality is being touted as a necessity, a man will want you to know that your desire is as important as his.
Being nice to get away with bad behavior
There’s nothing nice about trying to warm up your partner or spoiling them with affection before sweeping the bad behaviors under the rug. You might get away with it once or twice, but eventually, it gets really bad. The nice thing to do is to be mature and take responsibility for your actions when you’ve hurt someone’s feelings or done something wrong.
Always asking to go out with their friends
It’s adorable when you make your partner the center of your world, but it’s also annoying and puts a lot of pressure on your partner. Asking to hang out with his friends all the time pisses men off. Instead, actively pursue your interests while he does his own thing. It’s healthy to have a life outside of your relationships with men.
Acting clingy and inseparable
Trying to hug or kiss him when he’s working on an important project or when he’s talking to a client can be irritating. Your attachment style essentially determines how you behave in a relationship and thus can also affect how healthy or unhealthy your relationships are.
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