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m?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><h1 id="7463">Recognize the Truth Will Help</h1><p id="e3a1" type="7">“Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.” ― susan jeffers</p><p id="9075">Whenever you have those kinds of thoughts in your mind, just be honest with yourself. Be aware that they exist. You can change something that you don’t know that exists.</p><p id="7e7f">I caught myself writing and thinking about what the hell I’m writing about. This doesn’t make sense. It’s just our mind and our ego that wants to protect us. And keep us in that — <i>beautiful comfort zone where nothing hurt but also nothing grows there </i>— It is how it is, and we have to embrace it.</p><p id="27be">Nobody is fearless. <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-best-advice-that-really-matters-just-do-it-495c8ccc86">The sad truth is that the fear never will go away.</a> People said when we master a skill, the fear will go away. I can’t entirely agree. Because when you master a skill, you put the bar higher and reach different goals, and the fear will be there again. It’s never-ending. It’s just a process.</p><h1 id="acf8">Switch Your Inner Critic</h1><p id="b3ba" type="7">“It’s a problem” is a deadening phrase. It’s heavy and negative. “It’s an opportunity” opens the door to growth. Each time you can see the gift in life’s obstacles, you can handle difficult situations in a rewarding way. Each time you have the opportunity to stretch your capacity to handle the world, the more powerful you become.” ― Susan Jeffers</p><p id="d4be">Whenever you catch yourself thinking and hurting yourselves with those thoughts, you should try these tips.</p><ul><li><b>Develop awareness</b>. Pay attention to what you’re thinking about and recognize that just because you think something, doesn’t mean it’s true. Our thoughts are often exaggerated and disproportionate.</li><li><b>Stop contemplating. </b>When you make a mistake, or you’ve had a bad day, you may be tempted to re-play the events over and over in your head. But, repeatedly reminding yourself of that embarrassing thing you did, or that questionable thing you said, will only make you feel worse, and it won’t solve the problem.</li><li><b>Imagine that your best friend needs advice. </b>If a friend expressed feelings of self-doubt, hopefully, you wouldn’t say, “You can’t ever do anything right,” or “You’re so stupid. No one likes you.” Yet, we’re often quick to say those things to ourselves. Instead, you’d be more likely to offer a friend a support word of encouragement like, “You made a mistake, but it’s not the end of the world.” The key is to treat yourself equally as kind as you’d treat a friend and apply those words of encouragement to your life.</li><li><b>Consider what the worse that can happen is. </b>Often, the worst-case scenario isn’t as bad as you might imagine. Reminding yourself that you can handle t

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ough times or problems increases your confidence and decreases the constant barrage of worrisome thoughts.</li><li><b>Examine the evidence. <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-fake-myth-personality-is-innate-and-fixed-8036626f02e5"></a></b><a href="https://readmedium.com/the-fake-myth-personality-is-innate-and-fixed-8036626f02e5">Learn to recognize when your critical thoughts are exaggeratedly negative.</a> Sometimes it’s helpful to write it down. Draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper. On one side, list all the evidence that supports your thought. On the other side, write down all the evidence to the contrary. Looking at evidence on both sides of the argument can help you look at the situation more rationally and less emotionally.</li></ul><h1 id="8d40">Final Thoughts</h1><p id="8d6a">We all have negative thoughts. The key is to be aware of they exist and understand that they will vanish soon. As long as you put the focus on positive thoughts and take action, the bad ones will disappear quickly.</p><p id="57f6">Developing awareness, stop contemplating, instead examine them. It will help you to realize that it is nothing to worry about. Not waste your time and refocus again on your goals. Remember that what you focus on is what becomes powerful.</p><p id="b3bf">Thank You For reading!</p><p id="7386">If you want more stories like this or different topics, <a href="https://tremendous-motivator-3624.ck.page/d99ee555ea">let me know here!</a></p><p id="a005"><i>Godofredo Rojas is a writer, chef, and constant learner from Peru. He studied in Le Cordon Bleu in Lima, Peru. He moved to New York in March 2011. You can find him on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/chamarro.rojas">Facebook</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/GodofredoRojas">Twiter.</a></i></p><div id="1e59" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-best-advice-that-really-matters-just-do-it-495c8ccc86"> <div> <div> <h2>The Best Advice That Really Matters: Just Do It</h2> <div><h3>Fear is never gone as you continue growing</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*1b9AZ6ihCweaPQw3)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="8ce3" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/why-you-should-stop-comparing-love-with-money-ec3c70d14dcf"> <div> <div> <h2>Why You Should Stop Comparing Love With Money</h2> <div><h3>It doesn’t make sense!</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*IqC3hE9kJ15PMwQX)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

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5 Ways to Overcome Your Cruel Inner Critic

What you focus on is what becomes powerful

We all have one — an inner voice that expresses criticism, frustration, or disapproval about our actions. It might sound like, “you should,” “why didn’t you?” “what’s wrong with you?” or “why can’t you get it together?”

The actual self-talk is different for each of us, as is its frequency or intensity. Sometimes I caught myself thinking that is not the way that I supposed to do the things. The outcomes were not really what I was expecting. The thoughts in your mind start to tell you that you are not good enough.

Then, you just quit and start to do the thing you always do. You have to be clear to understand that everyone pass-through things like this. It is normal to have those thoughts. What is not normal is to be guided by those thoughts.

We have to be aware if you want to have a purpose in your life is a must to try different things. You have to be creative and fearless to try things that you never did.

Passion is a result of the thing that you have tried before. How would you find out if you never try?

We have to try things we never did, and you don’t know if you would like it or not. But that is the point of trying so many things.

Indeed, it’s important to calm down the inner critic we all have when things don’t go the way we are expecting. It’s fine.

When the negative critics arise, we just have to be ready to hit the pause button to silence that inner critic.

You can ask yourself :

Who told you that?? Is somebody there, or is it just your imagination that is creating that critic.

Doing so, you will recognize that it is merely imagination and knowing that is a process that you have to do. Of course, not all the outcomes will be amazing, but you will be surprised that how many things you can find that will make you feel great.

“The biggest pitfall as you make your way through life is impatience. Remember that being impatient is simply a way of punishing yourself. It creates stress, dissatisfaction, and fear.”― Susan Jeffers

Let’s break this down.

Recognize the Truth Will Help

“Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.” ― susan jeffers

Whenever you have those kinds of thoughts in your mind, just be honest with yourself. Be aware that they exist. You can change something that you don’t know that exists.

I caught myself writing and thinking about what the hell I’m writing about. This doesn’t make sense. It’s just our mind and our ego that wants to protect us. And keep us in that — beautiful comfort zone where nothing hurt but also nothing grows there — It is how it is, and we have to embrace it.

Nobody is fearless. The sad truth is that the fear never will go away. People said when we master a skill, the fear will go away. I can’t entirely agree. Because when you master a skill, you put the bar higher and reach different goals, and the fear will be there again. It’s never-ending. It’s just a process.

Switch Your Inner Critic

“It’s a problem” is a deadening phrase. It’s heavy and negative. “It’s an opportunity” opens the door to growth. Each time you can see the gift in life’s obstacles, you can handle difficult situations in a rewarding way. Each time you have the opportunity to stretch your capacity to handle the world, the more powerful you become.” ― Susan Jeffers

Whenever you catch yourself thinking and hurting yourselves with those thoughts, you should try these tips.

Develop awareness. Pay attention to what you’re thinking about and recognize that just because you think something, doesn’t mean it’s true. Our thoughts are often exaggerated and disproportionate.
Stop contemplating. When you make a mistake, or you’ve had a bad day, you may be tempted to re-play the events over and over in your head. But, repeatedly reminding yourself of that embarrassing thing you did, or that questionable thing you said, will only make you feel worse, and it won’t solve the problem.
Imagine that your best friend needs advice. If a friend expressed feelings of self-doubt, hopefully, you wouldn’t say, “You can’t ever do anything right,” or “You’re so stupid. No one likes you.” Yet, we’re often quick to say those things to ourselves. Instead, you’d be more likely to offer a friend a support word of encouragement like, “You made a mistake, but it’s not the end of the world.” The key is to treat yourself equally as kind as you’d treat a friend and apply those words of encouragement to your life.
Consider what the worse that can happen is. Often, the worst-case scenario isn’t as bad as you might imagine. Reminding yourself that you can handle tough times or problems increases your confidence and decreases the constant barrage of worrisome thoughts.
Examine the evidence. Learn to recognize when your critical thoughts are exaggeratedly negative. Sometimes it’s helpful to write it down. Draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper. On one side, list all the evidence that supports your thought. On the other side, write down all the evidence to the contrary. Looking at evidence on both sides of the argument can help you look at the situation more rationally and less emotionally.

Final Thoughts

We all have negative thoughts. The key is to be aware of they exist and understand that they will vanish soon. As long as you put the focus on positive thoughts and take action, the bad ones will disappear quickly.

Developing awareness, stop contemplating, instead examine them. It will help you to realize that it is nothing to worry about. Not waste your time and refocus again on your goals. Remember that what you focus on is what becomes powerful.

Thank You For reading!

If you want more stories like this or different topics, let me know here!

Godofredo Rojas is a writer, chef, and constant learner from Peru. He studied in Le Cordon Bleu in Lima, Peru. He moved to New York in March 2011. You can find him on Facebook and Twiter.