5 Secrets Feminine Women Don’t Share That Gets Any Man Obsessed with Them

Even a shy girl can turn heads with these tips.

In high school, I wasn’t an attractive girl. I was the shy and quiet girl who always kept to herself to avoid being picked on.

There was a time we were asked to clear a garden for an exam practical, I remember being jealous of some girls in my class who got our boys to help clean up their gardens.

But I was shy and didn’t know how to show the guys or ask them that I needed their help too. I ended up spending my weekends slowly tilling my garden.

College didn’t make much difference. I was the errand girl for popular girls. I would cringe around them so I would get noticed by boys.

Hanging around popular girls actually got some boy to be friends with me. They were the nice guys you call on when you are being bullied. We had no chemistry to evolve into something deeper.

As I grew to be an adult and started dating, I was the co-dependent woman who needed approval from her partner to feel worthy. I rarely asked for help unless I’m sick or they offered.

I never said no to requests from friends or colleagues even if I wasn’t comfortable with doing the things that were asking of me.

I believed if everyone around me were happy, I would be happy too. Unfortunately, this mentality got me trapped with an abuser.

It took me long to give up the entirely independent woman in me and to learn to let a guy take care of me, and it was not easy.

But when I learned to be feminine around men, I understood that men love it when they feel needed.

Femininity is the soft, sometimes the vulnerable side of you — it is the soft girly lady in you, and a confident, independent, and ambitious woman knows how to use that soft side in her to get a man to provide her needs only he can give.

Femininity is power. It is that something in a woman which makes a man feel masculine.

Men are compiled to chase feminine women because they are biologically attracted to feminine energy.

Feminine women reinforce their masculine energy. And men like this because they feel manlier, and they adore that feeling.

When a woman reveals her feminine side, it’s very hard for any man to ignore her or avoid noticing her vulnerability.

Immediately, his mind connects with her vulnerability, it eliminates any thoughts of a threat, and his protective side creates a bond of protection and attachment with her.

The reason some women have a hard time attracting the men they want is usually because they lean towards their masculine side.

Women are becoming more masculine due to changes in our society and the feminist movements.

However, as this modern time allows us to be the confident, independent women that we are, there is something that we should never lose — our femininity.

You must learn to turn off your tough masculine aura when the moment calls for you to operate from your zone of femininity.

Femininity is crucial in attracting men, and it is equally crucial in keeping a successful relationship.

What do feminine women do to make a man want to chase her?

Some women look feminine but operate from their masculine energy, which doesn’t bode well for masculine men.

Masculine men feel threatened and get insecure around masculine women.

So if you want to attract the men of your dreams, you have to not only look feminine but also cultivate the feminine energy in you.

Don’t make the first move

A move is an interest signal. Feminine women do not send interest signals to men who do not express interest in them.

She will wait for the man to approach, then choose the one she will be with. So if you want men to see you as worthy of being chased, simply avoid making the first moves.

That includes approaching them at work or social gatherings, sending the first text after being matched on a dating app, friending or following men on social media, sending a dm to a male colleague, and asking for his phone number to ask him out.

Of course, you can approach men without any romantic intentions, and they may turn out to be interested in you.

But as a rule of thumb, do not make the first move because most times, it may turn out that the man is not interested in you or he’s turned off by the first move.

Show your sexual prowess

Nothing gets a man’s attention than a woman who is confident — walks the street with her back straight, her chin up, and with a strong sex appeal.

Flirting is one key trait of feminine energy women uses to attract men.

The way you walk, the way you sit, how you smell, your voice pitch, how you kiss, every movement plays into your sexual prowess.

A hushed voice, hand gesturing, and body contact help express your interest in a man.

When you feel sexier and more confident, men pick up on that, and find you more attractive.

Let the men lead

Men want to win your heart, and they only appreciate what they have to work for. Not being a doormat means having boundaries and standards that you hold firm to.

If he does or says something that doesn’t respect your boundaries, be prepared to express how you feel in a feminine way.

You express yourself using feminine statements, starting with ‘I feel,’ ‘I felt,’ ‘I’m feeling.’

Never start with ‘you did,’ or ‘you made me,’ which are both accusatory starters and usually make a masculine man lose interest in you.

A masculine energy man will respect your feelings and apologize for his rudeness if you show him you value yourself and your time. He will also adjust his behavior for you because he wants to make you happy.

Listen more and talk less

People are attracted to those who seem mysterious, so cultivate an air of mystery. Be vague about what you’re doing or saying.

Don’t walk around like an open book waiting to share every single thing about you- your life, your past life, and most importantly, your intentions.

Reveal things about you gradually after the man has proven himself to you that he deserves to know more about you.

If you have nothing to say, keep quiet. Let him fill the silence, and don’t feel pressured to prove yourself or move the conversation forward.

If you really want to do something, give him a smile and a little eye contact.

Date more than one man

A feminine woman will date many men at parallel to support her energy of lightness, playfulness, and low attachment.

She is secured in her ability to attract as many men as she needs at any stage of her life.

She believed there are many men out there for her not to be panicking if things don’t work out with one of them.

There is nothing wrong with that as long as it happens at the dating phase.

A feminine woman does not commit to seeing one person unless she is given solid reasons to do so.

She knows that seeing more than one man will create a competitive dynamic among men without her telling as her energy will speak for her.

Avoid using any deceitful strategy to convince a man to like you, and don’t accept last-minute dates. Doing so will dim your feminine energy, and it will push masculine energy men away fast.

Parting words

If you learn to be in your feminine energy, you will see a huge shift in the type of men you attract and how far they will go to be with you.

And if you’re already in a relationship, you can start using your feminine energy to bring your man closer and deepen your connection and attraction.

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