5 Remarkable Ways To Leave A Lasting First Date Impression

How do you prove you are trustworthy in 7 seconds?

You know what they say, “first impressions matter,” but most people ruin their ability to be with a great partner because of their poor first impressions.

We can judge a person’s personality within seven seconds of meeting them for the very first time. So you need to make them count, introduce yourself, and leave a stunning and compelling impression.

Why most first impressions get ruined

The most common mistakes most people make on a first date are trying to reveal too much about themselves, dominating the conversation, or making unreasonable demands on the stranger.

We tend to cling to our first impressions of others and find it very difficult to change our minds, even when a lot of evidence to the contrary is presented.

Studies have confirmed that we can easily judge someone when we hear their voice.

We can get clues as to how dominant and trustworthy a person is in the first few minutes after seeing them.

Reliability in a voice is related to things like intonation and glide, which can be adjusted.

But dominance is affected by morphology, such as the length of a person’s vocal tract, i.e, the length and frequency in pronouncing words, which cannot be controlled.

Therefore, when meeting someone for the first time, make sure you don’t do anything that will ruin your expression to appear trustworthy.

So how do you make first impressions work in your favor?

Show a positive facial expression.

When you show emotions like joy and happiness in your facial expressions, others tend to assume that you have positive personality traits. They may even find you more attractive.

A subtly happy facial expression can also help you look more trustworthy than a neutral or subtly angry facial expression.

One study rated people with happier expressions as not only are they more trustworthy but that people could easily loan them money or vote for them.

Wear clothes suitable for the occasion.

There is, of course, nothing wrong with expressing yourself through your clothes and accessories. Be aware that some situations require a slightly more formal look.

A favorite dress that you feel comfortable in can go a long way in boosting your confidence in a way that people notice and remember. In contrast, brand new clothes that you haven’t worn to can make you feel awkward or uncomfortable in a way that people notice too.

Your outfit can provide clues about your interests, hobbies, and even your personality. So make sure you choose an outfit that not only fits the occasion but also expresses a dependable personality.

Show you are a confident person.

Acting confidently, even when you’re not feeling brave, will create an impression of confidence.

One step to avoid being nervous is to do some research about the date to get you off on a mutual footing. This will help you to better understand the context and environment you are walking into.

Preparing ahead of time will make you feel more comfortable and will also show that you are interested and focused.

Be a good communicator.

The most common mistake people make when trying to make a good impression is that they think they need to impress the other person with their vast knowledge.

A good communicator listens more than you speak. A good guideline for this is to speak only a third of what you hear.

Listening more shows that you are paying attention and makes the other person feel heard.

We always remember how people made us feel. If you communicate clearly and listen carefully, they will appreciate the time they spend with you and give you a bonus in the trust department.

Never show up late to a date.

Some people have a habit of being late. And there are those that believe being punctual would be getting to the location of the date 20 minutes early.

Lack of punctuality always communicates the same deeply impolite nonverbal statement; “My time is more valuable than your time.” People may see you as a bossy and incompetent person.

Being punctual shows respect and courtesy to other people. If you’re running late, whether it’s a romantic date or a business meeting, send a message to the other person, apologizing for not making it in time.

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