5 Priceless Emotional Healing Advice You Can’t Afford To Ignore

#2. Time does not heal you.

Exactly fifteen years ago, I was heartbroken, lost, and suicidal. I was underweight and could not eat because of severe depression.

I lost the meaning of life. Tears flowed nonstop, and when they dried, I’d blankly stare at the wall or ceiling for weeks.

Today, my life is exactly where I want it to be. I’m doing what I love and enjoying my life as I want to.

Laughter and dance never stop. Not only that, people often come to me for advice and guidance.

So what changed in these years? How did I go from being a clinically depressed person to the most joyful person I ever know?

The answer turns out to be listening to my heart. No doubt, love brought me to the pedestal of suicide. But as I moved from conditional to unconditional love, I found the greatest freedom.

The answer to the healing hides in the depths of your heart. Here are five nuggets I learned on my journey of complete healing.

1. Never refuse to get up.

Everybody stumbles and falls. If you refuse to get up, you will remain stuck for years or even decades.

My failed relationship didn’t mean I was a failure in love. In fact, the darkest hour of my life showed me my resiliency.

I clearly remember having poison in my hand as I wrote a suicide letter to my family. But after that, everything went hazy. Till now, I didn’t know what happened or how I slept over it.

But the very next morning, I promised myself, “It was the first and last time I’d ever hit this rock bottom. I promise to take care and never fall in such deep sh*t ever.”

Although it took time to escape my gloomy cave, the promise became my lifeline. I slowly recovered.

Your failure doesn’t determine who you are. But it shows your character, courage, and elegance as you try to get up on your feet again.

How to use it in your life

Thoughts can invade your being and drive you mad. Most snap out at a minor incident.

Why?

Because you suffer from your negativity. The untamed thoughts invade you. With emotional turmoil, every situation gets blurry.

A certain distance from the situation is required to see an accurate picture. Creating a gap is vital to recognize the circumstance as it is.

Sleep over it. Meditate, if you can. Or take a vacation.

Taking a break allows you to see everything objectively. Rest. No need to rush into action.

Then get up and do your best.

No matter how much life seems bleak at any point. Give yourself another chance. You totally deserve it.

2. Time does NOT heal you. Instead, deal with your negativity.

Time heals nothing. It buries your trauma and agony.

Just because you can’t see your hurt after months or years does not mean it is not within you. It just means you’ve adapted to the ignorance well.

Once, my friend was crying over the phone. She was devastated after an ugly fight with her husband. I listened to her agony and gave her certain tricks to address the issue.

After a few weeks, I called her to check her mental well-being.

She said, “I feel fine. We are back to being normal. Although I’ve my apprehensions, I think all is well now.”

This is the blunder we all make unknowingly.

You assume that if you are feeling okay, everything is in its place. Often, it is not.

Reason.

Because in a hurry to feel good, you try to brush your emotions in the dark corners where you can’t see them (for that time, at least).

And ignoring your emotions never helps.

Why?

Because the emotional dump leads to more unhealed spaces within you.

You excuse yourself from addressing the main issue.

And when something similar happens next time, your reaction emerges from that unhealed space. It is aggressive and more unbearable than before.

How to use it

Don’t hide behind false positivity. Wearing a fake smiling face when you feel devastated is toxic.

Positivity is a side effect when you live truthfully. You don’t have to wear it forcefully.

Yes, a light of hope is needed in many situations. But that dawn is not in the facade of fakeness. It lies in your truthfulness.

Your life transforms magically when you illuminate your dark corners and acknowledge your negativity.

It may be painful to witness your negative emotions. But conscious life helps you do that effortlessly.

Don’t hurry to make everything look good on the outside. But heal your heart to feel good from the inside.

3. Always remember your life is *not* in your control.

As kids, we loved uncertainty and surprises. We’d look forward to the day, unaware of how it’d go. But still, excitement, joy, and laughter used to be there.

Well, it was with me, at least.

However, the world expected us to be in charge of our lives while growing up.

Hilariously no one has ever figured out their lives. Everyone is exploring and living the best they can.

But most have unknowingly soaked in the trait of control. Be in control. Control your emotions, life, and relationships.

Most people foolishly think they made it happen just because something occurs due to cause and effect. And try to exercise control in every part of life. It drains out energy.

Many ignorantly think that control is security. Sadly it is not.

Control is an illusion in an unpredictable life.

Remaining in control is like walking a tightrope tied between two cliffs. With a second of inattention, you fall into a deep chasm of agony.

How to use it

The opposite of control is not abandonment. It is gratefulness.

Control gives rise to complaints. Whereas gratitude flowers blissful life.

A famous Sanskrit verse in Bhagwad Geeta says, “Karmanyevadhikaraste Ma Phaleshu Kadachana, Ma Karmaphalaheturbhurma Te Sangostvakarmani.

It means — “You have the right to work only but never to its fruits. Let not the fruits of action be your motive, nor your attachment be to inaction.”

In simple words, do the best you can and leave the results.

When your actions are detached, you become free from controlling the outcome. Then your happiness does not rely on the results.

It may sound challenging to practice in the transactional world we live in.

But it happens effortlessly when your heart is in gratitude. Then you enjoy sharing space and time with your loved ones.

Be it food that you eat. The water you drink, the air you breathe, or even the earth you walk upon. You become thankful for the smaller things.

Everything becomes a blessing. You feel supported in life.

Life is not a struggle to live day to day. In fact, it is a gift to enjoy each moment.

Acknowledge it with your grateful heart. It will amaze you how blissful life can be.

4. Learn to let the past go.

Since school, one of my favorite realizations was, “If you hold on to the past tightly to your chest, you can’t embrace the present flowing now. You’d miss the whole point.”

Because of this, I’d often forget how badly someone misbehaved with me. My mind would never register any cruel or beautiful words someone said.

There is no burden of the past or fear of the future because the present moment engulfs me each moment.

How to use it

Making peace with the past can be challenging, especially when attached to it.

But to heal your heart, you must let go of the past. You can not carry its weight forever. Somewhere it has to end.

Make it end NOW.

How?

By forgiving yourself, the other person, and life. By forming a solid bond with your lovely heart.

Right now, while reading this, place your palms over your heart and softly say —

“My beautiful heart, you have had enough. Now is the time to heal. Now is the time to let go. Now is the time to step into a blessing. I am here for you. I’m always supporting you. The (particular) incident might have hurt you badly. You felt alone, fearful, and angry. I understand. I truly do. But dragging it further will not help. It will only hurt you more. Let go. Let go of it so that I can hug you in my arms. You can cry, my dear heart. You are so beautiful and godly. I can’t thank you enough for supporting me my whole life. Now, let it all go. Let all the hurt go. The more you let go, the more healing light is entering you right now. Let go. Let go. Let go.”

Now be with your heart for a few minutes.

You can daily say this prayer each night before going to bed. Slowly you’ll loosen up and let go.

5. Forgive without waiting for the person to ask for it.

My ex never asked for forgiveness because he never knew he drove me to suicide.

People, even your loved ones, don’t know how much they can hurt you. We give them immense power over ourselves.

How?

By attaching our expectations to them. It is not their fault if they break our expectations. It is our fault to overburden them.

And next major blunder we make is waiting for them to apologize for not completing our expectations.

Silly. Isn’t it?

How to use it

True forgiveness happens in unconditional love. It occurs when your heart lets go of expectations and rests in its beauty.

My heart forgave my ex because of love. Not that I started loving him again.

But because my heart touched the unconditional love deeply within itself. And recognized that every mishappening is a blessing.

Love mixed with attachments and expectations hurts. But true, unconditional love heals profoundly.

Touch your profound depths within yourself.

Powerful alchemy of healing happens when you truly forgive someone who hurt you the most. Then forgiveness becomes easy, like breathing.

The path to forgiving others goes from your beautiful being.

Realize the beauty of your being. Then all superficial and momentary satisfaction will fade away.

Build an unshakeable bond with self. Embrace who you are. All fallacy will crumble, and a beautiful life will take over.

Final Thoughts

Emotional healing may take time because you’ve trained yourself to stay in hurt and attachment. Over years of practice, it has become rigid.

But healing happens when you resolve to give yourself the best chance to live. Then you dive in to dissolve all the frozen past etched on your mind.

Embrace your vulnerable and beautiful heart. It knows the shortest way to heal your life.

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