5 Brutally Honest Quotes That Will Improve Your Life
You don’t want to hear them but you must.
People love life quotes. It’s why you read this article. They’re inspiring, make them feel good, and pack a lifetime of wisdom in a few words.
There’s only one problem: Most life quotes are a waste of time. Not because they’re untrue, but because they’re too fluffy. They’re good for a short burst of inspiration but won’t improve your life by one iota. “Don’t dream your life but live your dream.” Yeah, right.
I’m allergic to timewasters. That’s why I’ve collected a few rare specimens of life quotes that step out of line to provide actionable advice that leads to measurable results.
Reading them might make you uncomfortable — that’s the point. They might not be what you want to hear but what you need to hear. Pain leads to change and improvement. And when you look at these every day, it will be impossible not to improve.
It Only Takes Two Words to Kill Your Dreams
“He who says he can and he who says he can’t, are both usually right.”
— Unknown
I can’t is everywhere in your life. I can’t lose weight. I can’t solve this problem. I can’t get up in the morning. I can’t quit my job. I can’t find a partner. I can’t earn money with my passion.
I can’t is a socially acceptable, industrial-strength dream killer. It puts an end to things and stops your train of thought. It’s a comfortable excuse and a self-fulfilling prophecy.
When you say I can’t, you believe you can’t — and that is precisely why you can’t.
Replace “I can’t” with “How can I?” and watch your head explode.
I can’t lose weight makes you blame your genetics. How can I lose weight leads you to reassess your diet, late-night snacking, and weekly exercise time.
Asking yourself “How can I?” puts you in charge. You suggest to yourself it’s possible, spiking your creativity and imagination. It encourages you to look for solutions and answers instead of giving up.
Are You Insane?
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
— Unknown
In the popular Peanuts comic show, there’s a running gag between Charlie Brown and Lucy van Pelt. She keeps asking him to kick a football, which she always pulls away at the last second. When he grows weary of the trick, she lures him in with promises, fake Thanksgiving traditions, and even signed documents. But every time she pulls the ball away. And every time, he kicks air and lands flat on his back.
You are Charlie Brown.
You do the same things day in day out, yet you expect your world to change for the better.
You go to the same job with the same annoying boss every day, hoping something will change. But it won’t. You go to the same bars every weekend, hoping you’ll meet the woman of your dreams. But you won’t.
Even worse, you sabotage yourself by clutching at straws and false hopes. Things will be more relaxed at the office after this project. You’ll meet someone tonight. This diet will work. You hope that by some miracle, everything will be different this time. But it won’t.
Familiarity and complacency are the enemies of progress. Structure is great, but if you want your life to change and improve, you need to do things differently.
If your usual behaviors haven’t gotten you where you want to be, it’s time for a change.
The Only Truth in Life
“You will die.”
— Gary Vee, when asked for three words of inspiration
Western culture puts death in a negative light. It’s associated with grief and pain. I understand. Nobody wants to see a loved one go.
But death is a natural part of life, whether you like it or not. You can’t change it, so why not make use of it?
Look at it the other way around. Death gives your life meaning. Limited time on this earth means your life is a gift. It means you have to get off your ass and do something because one day, you won’t be anymore.
Stoic philosophers often practiced Death Meditation — a conscious confrontation with your own mortality. For the last few months, I’ve adopted the weird, but lifechanging habit. Every morning, I sit down and tell myself I will die. Not to bring me down, but to lift me up. It’s a matter of perspective. Knowing that I won’t live forever motivates me to make the most out of the next 24 hours. It’s incredibly empowering and inspiring.
You will die, so don’t spend your time like you’ll live forever.
Always Stay a Student and Never Stop Learning
“It is impossible to learn that which one thinks one already knows.”
— Epictetus
You know nothing. So do I. The difference between you and me? I’m aware of it.
We humans consider ourselves the pinnacle of evolution and smartest species on the planet. Yet, we still know nothing.
The universe is endless, but we don’t even have to go that far. On planet earth alone, there are myriads of miracles, processes, facts, dynamics, and relationships you know nothing about. Biology, psychology, weather, politics, climate change, money, and love.
We still like to see ourselves as experts. People with the least knowledge about a subject often think of themselves as the smartest.
This mindset flatters your ego but kills every opportunity for learning. You close your mind to new information, ways of living you don’t understand, and perspectives you can’t comprehend. You narrow your horizon and hold yourself back.
Life is incredibly multifarious. Don’t close yourself off to its wonders. Accept that you know nothing, and always stay a student of life.
You’re Responsible
“No one is coming to save you.”
— Unknown
This certainly doesn’t sound very romantic, but it’s the harsh truth you need to face.
Your politicians say they’ll fix things, but they won’t. Your boss says he’ll see what he can do about your pay, but he won’t. Your friends say they’ll be on time, but they won’t.
And when they won’t, you’re quick to place blame on them. If only the politicians weren’t selfish asshats, your boss a greedy bastard, and your friends inconsiderate idiots, everything would be better. You’re right. So what? No amount of blame will improve your situation by one iota.
It’s your life and you’re responsible for the way it unfolds. If you care about climate change, reduce your waste and consumption. If you want more money, educate yourself, start a side hustle, or look for a new job. If you want better friendships, set clear boundaries.
That’s it. That’s all you can do. And if you did just that, you’d realize taking responsibility for your own situation is uncomfortable, but a million times more effective than blaming others.
It’s your life. And even if shit is unfair, you’re the one who has to shovel it.
“Knowledge without action is futile.” — Abu Bakr
Here’s the bonus. For any of these pearls of wisdom to actually change your life, you’ll have to take action.
The first step you can take is to make sure you won’t forget what you just read. Pick the one quote that resonated with you most or made you really uncomfortable. Write it on a sticky note and put it on your bathroom mirror or another place you frequently look at.
Turn knowledge into action and take charge of your life.
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Apart from reading and applying wise quotes, there is another simple way you can significantly improve your life: Stop doing stupid things.
