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4 Techniques That Helped Me Fight A Dangerous Female Sociopath
Be free from fear of being controlled and manipulated.
Has anyone ever taken advantage of you? Has anyone ever targeted you to hurt you? Have you survived so you could tell us?
Some people impact us more than others. While some have a good influence on us, others can be detrimental. I’ve been targeted by a person who wished to inflict severe harm.
Why?
Because it’s their nature.
This person was very friendly to me, however in time, I’ve realized that they are masters at deception. You see, there are lots of people who suffer from hidden personality disorders, and I’ve realized that these people are the most dangerous and very hard to spot. Most people don’t know that they are dealing with a narcissist or a sociopath until it’s too late.
I’ve been manipulated, used, and I’ve been a victim of a sociopath. When you think of a sociopath you may imagine mostly someone like Christian Bale in “American Psycho”, but don’t be fooled by Hollywood. Sociopaths tend to be people who you would expect the least: your friendly neighbour, your helping colleague, your loving partner or your aunt who’ve you’ve known all your life.
Women sociopaths are different from men — they thrive in manipulating others, usually playing the “victim” card. Often these women result in threats of self-injury, smear campaigns or other revenge ploys. Unlike males, females are not characterized by superficial charm — on the contrary, they are “plain”.
Women sociopaths are less likely to move or leave the relationship, quite often they are sticking around, lingering in the shadows years after the relationship ended. They tend to emotionally and psychologically abuse, but their abuse is harder to expose and detect therefore it can take years for their victim to realize what was going on.
Malicious sociopathic tendencies are more covert in women.
I want to warn you about them because they can be the person you expect the least. I’ve learnt how to identify them quickly and share what to do if you have to deal with them. Here are my techniques
Don’t Share The Goodies
I am an extrovert. I always overshared, overtalked and got myself in the trouble over and over again.
I’ve realized that certain people will take any information from you and completely misconstruct it and use it to manipulate the circumstances for their own benefit. When dealing with a sociopath, beware — everything that you say or don’t say can and will be used against you. I learnt the hard way.
Please try to avoid conversations discussing your personal relationships, or any other topic with people with sociopathic tendencies. Perhaps you might think they changed so it's okay now to share more information? These people never change, their vicious techniques get better.
They are the centre point of all the drama in their lives and others’. Their own life is too boring, so they try to enter other people lives in order to make their own miserable existence bearable. That is why they will use the smallest pieces of information to twist facts to create doubt and cause trouble.
They are unhappy with their own lives so they wish to destroy yours.
Ask, Think, Check!
Sociopaths are master manipulators. They manipulate to gain control, cause fear and inflict doubt or pain. They think they are better than others.
I’ve realized that sociopaths are pathological liars. Please, never believe them. Always take everything that they say with caution, it’s very likely to be untrue. Many of them are also delusional, they live in denial about their own circumstances in life — they avoid responsibility often.
Sociopaths believe they can do act as if there are no consequences in life. They lie a lot. They are always trying to be someone else (quite often they will even copy you), someone better, someone they envision in their delusional heads.
The same way they are unable to accept responsibilities, they are unable to step in someone else’s shoes and view things from a different perspective. They lie, manipulate because that’s all they know and are unwilling to change or grow from their old ways.
Always think why suddenly a sociopath is doing something differently, unfortunately, it's not because they decided to change something about their behaviours, you will find that it's because a change of ways will, in the end, help them soon accomplish the malicious goals that benefit them.
Don’t give your trust easily.
Follow Your Gut Feeling
I would be lying if I told you that I didn’t expect it coming when the person turned out to be a sociopath. I’ve known something wasn’t quite right about this person the moment I met them — too friendly, too many smiles, emojis, all this crazy attention, unneeded.
Acting as if we were best friends. Something was off, but I didn't expect her to be a full-blown sociopath.
This experience has taught me to always listen to my own instincts. If you feel like you are being manipulated or abused by someone, don’t dismiss the though — act upon it.
Only you can protect yourself.
Stand Up For Yourself
I used to live in fear to speak my mind freely, awaiting that the sociopath will try and misuse the information against me. I realized that I am not alone and I can turn to people and sought help from friends and family.
I am also prepared to seek help from a higher authority if the situation demands it because nobody should feel intimidated.
Face the hatred. Speak up against hate. Don’t back down.
If you say or do nothing, then you will feel bad about it. If you don’t act then this will create an atmosphere in a society where such issues become normalized. In such environments, abuse will only get worse.
We will all suffer from tolerating it in this way.
Find the courage to confront hatred because when you do, then sociopaths will think twice before saying and doing things against you. Don’t be afraid to call them out and stand up to a sociopath — call them out. They are cowards and bullies.
Cage them within the boundaries that you create.
They hate it when you voice a boundary and actually stick to it. They’ll push you to see if you actually mean what you say. When you really do go through with the consequence you promised, they’ll be miserable.
Don’t negotiate with them like you would not negotiate with a terrorist.
It’s not just about refusing to show them attention but refusing to do what they want.
Move on. You are free. Free from fear of being controlled and manipulated.
That is something a sociopath can’t grasp. They would like to control things and other people. But you don’t care. You can’t be controlled anymore.
You are not susceptible to pathetic behaviours anymore. You have better things to do — live your life.
Thank you for reading.
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