4 Reasons I Stopped Expecting Happiness From Other People
And making my way to ultimate joy.
Expectations lead to resentment especially when you expect from people who never treated you the way you treated them.
I have had a fair share of people whom I went to extra lengths to help and genuinely cared for whenever they needed me.
But the thing is people seek kindness and compassion from people, but when it comes to returning, they fell short.
And It’s enough to ruin the relationship.
These are the four things I stop expecting from other people.
1/ Start seeing the reality of people, not the things they want you to see
We see things based on social media updates, stunning pictures, and the ideal way to see them.
Instead of accepting someone for who they are, we keep expecting they’d be perfect.
We wait for the right time when they would mold themselves according to your wishes.
And in waiting, you end up needlessly hurting yourself.
While making major life decisions, it’s important to stop expecting people to change.
Accept the current version you see, and don’t expect they’d turn their lives around for you.
People will change only when they want to.
Their priorities evolve with time, and the person you’re interacting with today might be radically different from the person you met ten years ago.
2/ Learning to prioritize yourself
Stop expecting people to put your needs, opinions, and preferences first.
Every person is dealing with their struggles.
They view the world through the lens of their biases and prejudice.
It’s unreasonable to expect them to consider your emotions while making a decision.
You become your supporter.
You don’t need permission from someone else to do what you want.
You don’t need others to agree with your opinions for your experiences to be valid.
If you can’t find anyone to accompany you in the new adventure you seek, you must be your best friend to achieve your highest level.
3/ Accepting the imperfection
Don’t let perfection be the enemy of you
Making progress towards goals means hard work and dedication. But it also means working out smart and staying on your routine.
Perfectionism is often driven by striving for excellence, but it can be self-sabotaging.
We all usually feel morally obligated to overdeliver. It’s okay if you make mistakes or fail before figuring out what you need or want.
Being in perfection mode can make you anxious, impatience and you can lose what you want to achieve.
4/ Setting hard boundaries
In 2022, I learned to set hard boundaries and not be available all the time at work or personally.
I realized people will talk to you when it’s convenient for them.
It helped me prioritize, and evaluate the situation, people, and where I should focus to invest my energy and time
It made my life simpler.
So if you are getting exhausted and trying to fulfill zillions of things, it’s high time to prioritize and see what is important to you.
Put boundaries to make sure you’re not overcommitting and burning from both sides.
Lastly,
Take some time off for yourself. Do not feel guilty when you are having a self-care time.
Reflect on your goals, and aspirations and take a little “me” time.
It is never too late to take care of yourself.
Cherish these small moments, keep a journal, and write what you’re feeling (happy, ambitious, sad, low, or anything).
Instead of doing work perfectly, do your best and move on. This will help you go farther, faster.
Always remember, you can conquer a mountain with small steps and it is never too late to have a “first” day.
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Be Bold
Be Courageous
Be Your Best
