30 Dating Tips From A Dating Coach
Advice from Benjamin Daly.
1. Stop dating someone’s potential.
Pay attention to who they are today and how they behave now.
You’re taking a big risk on your time, energy, and emotions.
My advice: find someone who is already the type of partner you want TODAY.
2. You deserve someone who treats you like you are the best thing in the world.
3. If the feelings are mutual, the effort will be equal…
4. How he treats you is how feels about you.
Men aren’t complicated. If he acts like he doesn’t care, he doesn’t care. Stop making excuses for him and move on.
— Is he unavailable to you? Someone who wants to see you will make the effort. It’s that simple.
5. Until he has made his intentions clear, you are single.
Go on other dates, meet new folks and have fun.
Do not stay in the “gray area”.
6. If you feel confused about where you fit into a guy’s life is because he doesn’t want you in.
7. It’s okay to quit on a man who is not even trying. You deserve effort.
8. That guy who won’t commit to you, without a doubt could be and could do everything you want, he simply doesn’t want to.
So instead attract someone who does.
9. If you spend too long holding onto the one who treats you like an option, you will miss finding the one who treats you like a priority.
10. Don’t treat it like a relationship, until it’s a relationship.
11. If you worry about telling that person how you really feel about them, keep in mind that being honest will never ruin the right match.
And if they get scared or they pull away then it was never right to begin with.
12. Here’s how to know if a guy really likes you: he will want to speak to you, he will want to see you.
If he is not doing these things, he is not interested enough. Period.
13. When a guy doesn’t put in the effort that doesn’t mean you should try harder it means you should do better and cut your losses.
14. The more time you spend with the wrong guy, the less time you get to spend with the right one. So if you know he’s not right for you, move on. Go and find a situation that isn’t a daily struggle.
15. The guy who is serious about you gives you clarity, not confusion.
16. The “failures” you experience in your dating journey only make you clearer on what you do and do not want.
So don’t regret people. No matter how much they hurt you, they taught you how to live a better life and become a better you.
17. You are not selfish for wanting the same energy and love you give.
— You know you would make a great partner, so why settle for any less in return? If he’s not making the effort for you or the relationship, find someone who will. You are worthy and you deserve more.
18. The only people you can keep are the ones who want to be kept.
Stop chasing that guy, you never have to chase someone who wants to stay, attract someone who is there because they want to be there.
19. The major reason why that guy keeps coming back is because he knows he can.
If you are serious about what you want then you need to get serious about saying no to men who will clearly only waste your time.
20. The right guy will give you what you want.
No begging, forcing, or chasing is required. He knows what you deserve.
Don’t waste your time. Go find someone who doesn’t need convincing. There are enough suitable guys out there!
21. If he can go several days without speaking to you, you are not a priority to him so do yourself and move on.
Never wait around to be chosen.
22. If you feel you’re trying to convince someone that you or the relationship is the “one”, then he really isn’t the one.
23. You will never have to negotiate your way into a heart that wants you there.
24. When dating always remember that you are looking for an equal, not a project.
Someone who is on your level, someone who can take care of themselves and also has the capacity to take care of you.
25. He says he’s not ready. — If he tells you he’s not ready. Believe him. Remember, the right guy is ready.
26. You don’t realize how poorly you’ve been treated until someone comes along and treats you properly.
There is no reason to settle for less than you deserve. Find that guy who appreciates you every day.
27. If someone seriously wants to be a part of your life, they will seriously make an effort to be in it.
No reasons, no excuses.
28. The right guy makes a consistent effort.
29. If a guy is giving you mixed signals remember that: a man can’t be interested and inconsistent at the same time.
You find yourself second-guessing him, asking your friends for their opinion, drilling into the meaning of his messages. If you see yourself in this position, he’s not being upfront with you. Ambiguity is the only answer you need. The right partner is open and clear on where he stands.
30. You are way too good for a guy who is unsure about you. Never forget that.