Here’s What to Do When He Says He Doesn’t Want a Relationship
— Okay, are you ready?
Delete their contact and find someone who is.
The most common piece of advice I’ve heard about dating and relationships is to simply listen to the folks we are going out on dates with since the very first encounter, to pay attention to what they are saying, but like for real.
You are not supposed to decode their behavior or their messages, they really mean what they say.
So when a guy says he isn't looking for a relationship the first thing you should do is to believe him.
In other words, to cut off the wishful thinking from early on, perhaps you think to yourself: oh maybe he is going to change his mind in the future, who knows…? (Be mindful of that.)
So men might say things like:
-I am not looking for something serious right now.
-I am just not ready to be with anyone.
-A relationship is not a priority for me at the moment.
-I am just looking to have fun.
And so forth.
It doesn't matter how much potential you see in them.
It doesn’t matter how “into you” this individual seems.
It doesn’t matter the “crazy chemistry” you guys have.
It doesn’t matter how many things you guys have in common.
None of that matters if this person isn't choosing you.
Remember that anyone who doesn’t choose you can not possibly be meant for you.
The takeaway
You are not supposed to convince anyone to invest in you, to put in the effort. They either do it or they don’t.
“It takes years to learn the difference between who to let go and who to be patient with, the same way it takes years to know what you deserve and what you don’t. So hang in there. Growth and experience come with time. “ — Babyqvotes
So the next time someone you are interested in tells you they don't want a relationship, simply thank them for their honesty and move on.
Acknowledge that you two don’t want the same thing and let them go.
Don’t pretend you don’t want more, don’t pretend you are the “cool girl”. Just let it go.
The right one stays by choice. It's as simple as that.