3 Unfair Life Advantages Literally Any Male Can Develop
Catapult yourself miles ahead in your personal, professional, and romantic lives
The beauty of being a male is no matter your genetics or birth circumstances, you can build your way into the top 5% through constant self-improvement.
This is thanks to our evolutionary wiring — while a woman’s value is largely dictated by her looks, a man’s value is an amalgam of confidence, looks, sense of humor, charisma, risk-taking ability, wealth, etc.
This is the male advantage. I want to share 3 things any man can develop to wield this — and gain an unfair advantage in almost every respect of life.
None of these are easy to build, but, once developed, are easy to maintain and yield lifelong returns.
A Strong and Aesthetic Physique
The other day, I ran into one of my high school “jocks” that had never as much as noticed me back then.
Imagine my surprise when he sizes me over and speaks in a reverent fashion. As I wrap up the conversation, he asks for my number and says he hopes to stay in touch.
A muscular physique is incredibly underrated — it’s a testament to years of hard work you carry around 24/7. Even the “muscle-phobic” ones that denounce “mindless meatheads” respect it deep down.
“No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.”
— Socrates
The benefits are countless — your face grows more masculine, clothes fit better, your testosterone climbs, taxing chores feel easy, women feel safer with you, and the developed perseverance carries over to every aspect of life.
It’s no wonder Improvement Pill ranked working out as #1 in his habit tier list. Starting today, make exercising a non-negotiable.
But with the fitness industry being a morass of misinformation, it’s easy to go down the wrong track — so I distilled 5+ years of my personal experience and the latest research into a comprehensive guide.
A Voracious Reading Habit
In the same list, Improvement Pill put reading next to working out in the S-tier. In my tier list, it trumps even working out — it’s #1.
Reading has no alternative. None. Nada. Zilch. A book’s depth is unreplicable — articles, podcasts, audiobooks, and videos are all poor imitations.
Bill Gates devours books. Naval Ravikant worships reading. Elon Musk’s a bookworm — I’m yet to come across a successful person that doesn’t read.
“A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies. The man who never reads lives only one.”
— George R.R Martin
While the average adult spends less than 10 minutes a day reading, 27% don’t read at all. Only 1% of people are actual readers that read more than an hour a day.
So if you build up to 2 hours per day, you’ll zoom into the top 0.1%. But as Naval says, this won’t be possible if you read to learn or improve.
The only way to become a voracious reader is to read for the sake of reading.
While it helps to begin reading early in life, it’s never too late to start. So start now:
- Start small (with 10 to 15 daily minutes) and build your way up through gradual 15-minute increments.
- Pick the right books. Your first few books should be light, easy to read and make you fall in love with reading.
- Make it enjoyable and non-compulsive. Reading should be a joyous endeavor. So don’t force yourself — find a comfortable place, position, and time to read.
- Get a Kindle. An e-reader has too many advantages — it’s a 1000-book portable library with an inbuilt dictionary, custom font settings, bookmarks, notes, etc.
- Keep at it. In today’s shiny world of quick dopamine hits, sticking to reading can be hard. But stay consistent.
Unwavering Eye Contact
Overt verbal communication is only the tip of the iceberg — the gargantuan covert subconscious part is submerged underneath.
Eye contact is a crucial part of this — be it a date with a gorgeous woman or a high-profile office meeting, the power of your eyes will sway the outcome.
“The eyes are the windows to your soul”
— William Shakespeare
Unwavering eye contact signals trustworthiness, vulnerability, confidence, and honesty. It sends the message, “I’m comfortable in my own skin, and with this interaction. So you can be at ease”
Back in school, I used to dread even a nanosecond of eye contact. Now? I can comfortably stare until the other person becomes uncomfortable. Here’s how you can develop the same:
- Work on Yourself. If you aren’t confident or don’t have enough self-esteem, you won’t be able to initiate or sustain eye contact. The heartening part is working out will help loads with this.
- Practice with friends and family. Since they’re close to you, matching eyes won’t feel like a herculean task.
- Progress to strangers. When walking, neither look down nor up. Keep your head level and when you make eye contact, nod or flash a genial smile.
- Don’t be the first one to break eye contact. With strangers, it’s tempting to look away. But don’t — always let the other person break it. This is hard to do but this alone will work wonders.
By this point, you will have developed strong eye contact. Keep at it and work on making it deeper.
