3 Things I Want To Tell My Younger Self
You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”― Diane Von Furstenberg
When I started to write online and share my life journey especially around fitness, healthy lifestyle, and dating. Strangely while writing about me, I kind of discovered many new things about myself.
For example:
- How I behave socially. I am an introvert btw.
- About my habits — good and bad.
- What are my triggers to do something.
- And how emotional and sensitive I am.
In the last two years, I wish I’d learned some lessons earlier myself.
After reading hundreds of books on self love, living better and being happier and publishing around 100 articles on self-improvement, productivity, and dating, I still come across valuable lessons.
And I believe that’s one of the most beautiful things about our human experience: No matter how old you are or how much you’ve already experienced — life will always continue to bless you with new lessons. So let’s dive in.
1. If you are feeling uncomfortable with any situation or person, you have all the power to change it.
Have you been in situations where you know this is not a place for you in a relationship or the kind of work you are doing or just not happy the way things are in your life currently.
I have been there and thought maybe this is what it meant to be. Maybe I am not worthy to get “that” job or my relationship is not going forward because I am lacking effort.
And you just decide to live life with this feeling. Just because you’re feeling a little uncomfortable doesn’t mean you’re wrong.
If you anytime feel stuck, make a plan, write down everything where you want to be in the next 6 months and create an actionable plan for you.
It took me a while to get it right, but it was one of the best decisions of my life.
Three years later, I’m still proud of my choices, and feel content and happy.
In the end, you can’t be sure if you made the right decision without just giving it a try. And if you never try, you’ll never know.
2. Investing in yourself will turn you into a wholesome person.
It’s important how you choose to spend your time.
I used to be that person, I would work harder and harder from Monday to Tuesday and by the time Friday comes, I would feel like yes, I earned the well deserved break and spent the entire weekend parting, sleeping and binge watching Netflix. And the cycle continues for many years.
Slowly when I started feeling stuck, I felt there’s one way to invest your time, energy, and money that’ll always be worth it: An investment in yourself.
Invest in your mind by learning new skills. Change the things that you want to change, eliminate the toxic people, habits that no longer serve you well.
It was hard, like really hard to put boundaries where you don’t know how things are going to turn out in future.
But as I am thirties, I realized investing in yourself is important to cultivate emotional maturity. Sometimes I regret why I haven’t started a bit sooner and I could have avoided some of the challenging times in my life.
- Invest in your health by taking more time to move your body and prepare nourishing meals.
- Invest in yourself by spending more time around people who make your heart dance.
- Invest in experiences you’re genuinely excited about.
3. Great things are where you want to see them.
You can see greatness in anything and everything.
There is a quote — “ beauty lies in the eye of the beholder.”
Focusing on the things that don’t go well in your life is significantly easier, yet, it also makes you feel miserable. Instead of constantly aiming for more, take a moment to think about all the blessings you’re already surrounded by.
Take a minute of your day and write down at least 3–5 things you’re genuinely grateful for. I do it almost every morning. First one is “ I am so grateful to wake up healthy and happy.”
This practice won’t magically change your life, but it’ll help you shift your mindset from lack to abundance.
Lastly,
I spend most of my time in sweatpants, check my emails three times per week, and have an empty calendar all of the time — apart from work meetings.
That’s my definition of a fulfilling and successful life.
Ask yourself what yours is and how you can create a life that’s covered in peace and love.
Be Bold
Be Courageous
Be Your Best
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